to tell my nan that I thought this was a bit young for DS or is it not too young for DS?

[Coldhands]

Its my DS's 2nd birthday soon. My nan usually asks what to get/does he have thie etc. I assumed she would again and thought of something to tell her. Now it is a shame and I feel very guilty but she is known in the family for not picking great presents. I feel awful as she tries really hard but it got to the point that I had to tell her I wanted no more lavender stuff/drawer liners/slippers etc that she usually gets. I hate the thought of someone wasting their money on something I won't use.

Anyway, she said she has got DS a spinning top for his birthday. I said I thought this was a bit young for him. He is quite advanced for his age anyway and I can't see him playing with something like this when he is so car/train mad.

AIBU to think that this is a bit young for his age?

OH!! I thought they were for babies tbh. I am very very close to my nan and I feel I can be honest with her, my step grandad did ask her to check first (she told me) but she didn't. I really do hate the thought of wasted money. I couldn't give something to a charity shop that was a present.

And I don't think I am being mean! I didn't turn around and say "what a load of shit, why have you got that crap?"

overmydeadbody I never thought of the fine motor co-ordination thing. I thought it was just a thing adults pushed for young babies to watch.

I'm 25 and I woud fucking love a spinning top.

yabu.

Is it one of the metal old-style tops?
I work in a toy shop that sells wooden and old-fashioned toys. EVERYONE plays with the spinning tops. The teens and twentysomethings sometimes don't even know how to make them work!
Grannies like buying gifts. My great granny included a pound in my christmas card right up until I was 21 and she died. Let her buy stuff, she wants to feel part of your life!

Op - not all toys have to have an educational, motor co-ordination etc benefit. Some can just be plain old fun. A spinning top is great - parents push it for babies as it is great for the adult to play too.

my Mother got DS this for Xmas when he was 32 months old

I personally felt it was too young for him, but he does like it at the moment. I do feel he won't really get the use from it as it's meant from 12 months but I would never ever have said so My sister got a knitted Postman Pat from our GM when she was 13 but didn't say anything... it's just not the done thing to tell older people their presents are crap!

OK, Not once did I say I don't appreciate it. My nan brought me up, I am closer to her than I am to anyone. I appreciate having her around and don't really like the comments saying that I don't.

Overmydeadbody I am not immature for thinking this. I honestly thought they were for young babies.

Kinnies thank you, at least you understood what I meant.

It is the perfect age appropriate gift. What would you have preferred to receive?

I mean 23 months

I would rather someone told me if they weren't that keen on something I had got. I always ask if they want the receipt to change it, as I would rather the money went on something the would use.

my 4 and 6 year olds both have a spinning top and they have competitions to see who's goes the loudest and fastest first!

Strictly, my friend had that and my son loves it. My cousin has it for his 12 month old DS and he can't even get on it. I don't think many 12 month olds would get on it really.

And I am getting the feeling that maybe DS would like it then.

it's perfect for his age; it's great for younger children but kids right up to 99 get fun out of tops

My mum got a metal humming one like they used to be for her friend's ds to grow into - he's only 8m old but loves watching the colours!

Can I have the spinning top if you don't want it?

Coldhands - sounds like you have a lovely relationship with your gran and grandad. Envious!! Maybe you could print this thread out and have a laugh over it with them.

Sorry Pancake my mind has been changed.

frogety yes I have a great relationship with them. So much that my nan tells me if my hair looks "scraggy" after I've had it cut. Although she doesn't say it until after, when I have straightened it or something, so before that she let me walk around with scraggy hair! lol. But I get her back by going through her shopping list and pointing out that fruite doesn't have an e on the end, its a long running joke about her spelling/shopping lists, she thinks it is funny before anyone tells me I'm being mean.

Ah ok!

No they arr not for young babies, they are great!

If it is one of the big ones that you push down to operate he will be able to spin it himself, and also learn all about physics and motion!

Try it, your DS may surprise you by loving it! and if not now, maybe when he is 3, or 4, or 5, or 50!

Still mourning the lovely humming top I had as a child my friend sat on and broke. My Dad mended it but it was never the same

Although I can understand that to the younger generation it must seem like buying him a hoop and a stick.

My 6yr old son was given one for xmas, which had lasers and sounds and he loved it, and we loved it right up till the moment when his dad broke it!

If its one of those, are you sure your mind has been changed?

A hoop and what

I don't actually remember having a spinning top, hmm maybe I can play with DS's.

I got a light up spinning top (along with some other traditional kids toys) for my 30th as a modern reminder of my childhood. Kids big and small had hours of fun with it and my nephew 7 asks for it whenever he comes to my house - keeps him out of mischief!
I know what you mean about your Nan as my Gran is the same but we always act delighted no matter how daft/useless the gift seems to us as she tries so hard to find us things that are different or she thinks we'd like. Since having DCs my sister and I have dropped hints as to what would be suitable gifts (subtly I hope!) - "DD is really needing a new jumper. I hope she gets some for her birthday' 'DS has lost his fire engine and I saw one in Tesco the other day but we'll wait and see if someone gets him one for xmas' - usually works a treat. Gran is very traditional and always bought us new undies/pjs for xmas so have also said 'It was always great getting new pjs from you to wear on xmas night do you think my DCs would like that too?'- cue for her to offer to continue tradition with our DCs and all ends well.
(except this year when she bought DDs age 2 & 3 gloves that were age 12 but bless her heart, they'll grow into them!)

Totally agree with you maristella.My grandma used to give my daughter the same doll every time she visited as she would forget she had bought it the time before and we just used to laugh about it.
I would give anything to see her call round with one of those dolls now.
You really should enjoy the time she is with you and not worry about what presents she is giving out lfes too short and grandmas are very precious.

I don't normally become irate on here, but that is a bloody disgusting way to treat your grandmother. Have some respect.