WE are pregnant. AIBU to think this the most cringe making statement in the world?

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We are having a baby, we have a baby - but WE ARE PREGNANT. OMG It makes me want to curl my toes in embarrassment. Its bad enough when the mother says it but when the man as well !!! Of course men share in the ups and downs of pregnancy and support and care for their partners, but never, never are they pregnant too!!

YANBU.

We are having a baby, perhaps.

crackfox at "we won't be having an epidural."

We are having a baby is perfectly right and good. WE are pregnant is just odd... I'm sorry is that man growing a baby inside him too??

I had to stay in hospital to be monitored for 48 hrs at 30 weeks with DD1. Was put in a small side ward which doubled up as a holding bay for those in early labour. One young couple came in and the prospective father kept announcing to all medical staff that 'she doesn't want painkillers'. I can still remember her plaintive voice saying 'but it's starting to really hurt..'. Eventually they were taken down to delivery but never have I wanted to get out of bed and punch someone as much as that - despite any 'complications' I was having!

crackfox my DH always says things like 'oh well, it was much worse for me watching' really REALLY, was it?!

Doesn't really upset me either (unless said in a proprietorial way while patting the little woman on the back/shoulder/head.) Would also generally think that they are both excited about it - but anything to do with "we" and the labour/birth is definitely wrong.

Maybe bell she'd stated v.clearly to him pre-labour that no matter how much she begged, she didn't want pain relief.

Or maybe he was a sanctimonious, bullying twat

Oh, this is the best thread!

When I was a student nurse (a million years ago now), the very first labour I attended was a very complicated one, and the nurses were furious because the mum was exhausted (back labour, OP presentation) and was pretty much out of it, and the twat of a husband kept saying he didn't want them to give her morphine or Demerol or any kind of pain relief so she could rest a bit "because it's bad for the baby". He kept repeating "WE said No Drugs". Well, she ended up so exhausted and then baby was in distress that they needed to do an emergency section under GA.

I hope she had his balls when she woke up.

Loathe this phrase. YADNBU.

YANBU! Once a male friend utterered these words and I said, What, you mean you've blown your balls up her and now she's up the ruddy duff?' There was much ROFLing from assembled friends and the guy in question has not used the phrase since, lol.

Pisses me off. Makes me think of those guys who have pg symptoms in 'sympathy' FFS

Oh yes add to it 'our birth plan'. Usually centring around how much pain relief 'we want'. If my DH commented on how much pain relief I could have he would be needing triple the amount! Saying that he told me afterwards that my episiotomy was 'not that bad'.

StrictlyKatty (Just cos I can't find an 'empathy emoticon)

My Exh told me after the mega-emergency c-section- in-life-threatening-for-me-and-ds-circumstances- fter-24hour-labour that I 'ought to be more considerate of him because he'd had such a stressful time.

Wanker

I did in fact pop that little gem on list of 'this is what I mean by unreasonable behaviour' when I served him with the divorce papers 12 months later.

madas at your ex-H. What as utter tosspot. Well rid.

Jacksmama he probably told her off for not trying hard enough.

YADNBU - Cringeworthy and somehow a wincy bit smug IMHO.

I am so pleased and proud of the MNs who agree with me. It has restored my faith in the commonsense of british womanhood. If just one MN reads these comments and ceases and desists from this absurd and illogical speech impediment I will sleep peacefully tonight. Please please consign this toe curling, gut churning, nausea inducing phrase out the window until such time as men can really be pregnant.
PS I also hate grown men and women who call their mothers "MUMMY"

YANBU. I cannot begin to read other responses for fear that somebody said YABU and I will get irrationally wound up

YANBU

A woman at my work went one step further and announced that they were breastfeeding

Paolosgirl - takes the concept of Moobs to a whole different level

LOL!

YANBU

I think it quite cute when men say 'We are having a baby' rather than 'my wife is having a baby'. But that's as far as it goes. Anyone who says 'We are pregnant' deserves the piss to be verily ripped, imo

Brahms - am so going to store the phrase "deserves the piss to be verily ripped" for future use

YANBU - definately! I hate this phrase and also the 'we're just given birth!' WTF?? No the women give birth not the men

it's just smug and unnecessary and completely stupid. Nauseating aswell.

YANBU