to think a pair of black opaque tights and a denim mini skirt is not suitable attire for............

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a 5 year old to wear to her birthday party at a soft play centre? And to also think you should not post a picture on facebook of said little girl in her opaque tights and mini skirt in the soft play with her legs wide open showing her red knickers? Yuk.

I am usually very non judgy but this has riled me.

Women's clothes on little girls annoys me anyway though TBH and is definately one of my bugbears.

Plus don't most soft play places say trousers and socks???

that outfit sound fine to me tbh.

If they're opaque tights you wouldn't be able to see her pants, would you?

sounds

Sounds alright to me. It's nothing majorly inappropriate, esp as the tights are opaque. And even the knicker photo, I would prob think nothing of it

My friend posts naked pics of her kids all over FB and I will never understand why.

Why not just put the ones where they are clothed FGS?

...unless she was wearing a conical bra on top or something similar...

never heard of a soft play place specifying trousers...Socks, yes but not trousers as well

skirts not as practical for leaping about in but the outfit doesn't sound odd IMO

I think it´s fine!

Maybe not black tights, but my daughter would wear this as she could still play easily-if she didn´t want trousers for a party.

Wouldn´t post pics of her showing her pants, though!

I am a bit funny about clothes i put on my 5 yr old, for instance the older girls section in Next (5-12 I think) is mainly hideous, spangly, disco type outfits that would better suit a whore.

However - a "mini skirt" do you mean a little denim skirt? That's just fine with tights. Even opaque tights. Little kids don't cross their legs and I often laugh at dd when she wears light coloured tights and dark coloured underwear.

I think you are looking for a problem here, reading more into the photo on Facebook of a child having fun and messing around on her birthday than needs be.

Before everyone goes nuts, I just mean, those are ones I would keep for DH and I chuckle at - when they have attacked each other right after a bath with felt tips etc

I wouldn't have put it on - same as I wouldn't put a photo of my kids up with dirty faces.

I do agree that I wouldn't post pics of kids showing underwear on Facebook. But YABU still.

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Well I will accept majority verdict then that IABU - as I said I do have a 'thing' about girl's dressed as women.

maybe I am getting opaque wrong? As in kind of see through - not like thick itchy school tights.

LOL LeQueen at vests tucked into knickers

Ooo LeQueeen I do that too.

I used to LOVE next kids/baby clothes. I'd go online where they have the full range and order a whole set of outfits, even tights, hats, swimwear - everything! for dd twice a year. My friend used to love it as we'd give her dd (1 yr younger than mine) all the clothes that dd had outgrown still in fab condition cause I couldn't wait to get more.

Now she's 5 the clothes are generally shite - I buy a few bits but not much anymore. Slutsville if you ask me.

No these tights are not typical kiddy ones, they looked more like a 20 or 30 denier like an adult wears, but with purple bow pattern all over them.

I have a DS so no clothing dilemmas, girls stuff for primary school age does seem a bit yuck in some shops like next and asda I agree.

I think a lot of the problem is the age ranges for clothes are too big. Next do 5 - 16 - what 16 year old in their right mind would wear clothes that looked good on a 5 year old? So, conversely, those clothes are going to look awful and tarty on the bottom end of that age range. My 14 year old buys some stuff from Next, but it's stuff that no way on this earth would she have been allowed to wear at 5. Mainly black from head to foot, for starters. I think she looks OK in black, but I don't like it on young children.

I hated it when mine came out of the toddler ranges because everything was so tarty and inappropriate. Now they're 10 and 14 they've grown into those ranges - but I think more shops should differentiate and maybe do, for example, a 5-8 range and then a 9 - 14. Actually, I think Debenhams do this because I've recently been sad that DD2 can't get into their younger stuff any more.

I hate seeing little girls dressed in slutty or grown- up outfits but black opaques and a short denim skirt sound fine to me.

having seen the filthy, impossible to get clean state of the soles of my DC's socks and tights after a soft play party black is the ideal colour to wear imo!!!

also dress my DD in short denim with tights on regularly so have no issues with that.

the photos on FB.....I put up pics of my DC, but have it set so that only my friends can see them though.

Why is denim skirt and black opaque tights "women's clothing"? I would have thought that the purple bows would have made it more childish than adult, anyway.

sounds as if the OP might have misunderstood 'opaque'? Although I can't really imagine anywhere sells sheer tights for 5yos...

I wonder if the person posting the pics woul dhave even considered the girl was 'showing her underwear'? Maybe she just looked at the picture and saw an innocent picture of children having fun?

I do agree with the whole 'not dressing kids like sluts thing'. It does get bloody hard though if you have an 11yo who is VERY tall (and has a bust), as she barely fits in the 13-14 in NEXT (although we seem to be quite lucky, we get all boho stuff, not spangly tarty crap rubbish in ours. I do have a problem with denim mini-skirt and tights on a 5yo though...FGS MY DD wouldn't leave the house in that, and she's almost 12! In M&S she has outgrown the 13-14 school shirts (by a lot I discovered tonight lol) and I think I'm going to have to go 2 sizes larger than that now. So as she is basically in an adults size 6, it's extremely difficult to buy age appropriate clothing.

OP...YADNBU (I forgot to say!)