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AIBU?

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in thinking that my mum shouldn't be insisting on taking ds away from his home while I'm away having his sister?

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HeadFairy · 29/12/2009 22:47

She's adamant its best for him to stay at her house, less disruptive for him. I'm having a section on thursday so I may be in hospital for three days or so... dh will obviously be in the hospital a lot with me, but he will be home every night.

My mum lives ten minutes from my house, so it's not like I'm making her drive across the country every day just so ds can sleep in his own bed. Or am I being just a bit precious about ds? I just don't want him to think he's being booted out just because his sister is here. He's only 2.3.

I'm sure she's thinking it's just more convenient for her, I've told her I'm happy for dh to leave the hospital at 6pm each night (though he's allowed to stay until 8pm) so she can get home to have her dinner. We live ten mins from the hospital, so she won't even have to do ds's dinner or bath, or anything.

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diddl · 30/12/2009 14:03

As long as GM is willing to take the little boy home to sleep if necessary, I think that´s all that matters!

cornishgal · 30/12/2009 14:19

Hi Headfairy. I agree with everyone, let her take him to her house, he'll have a ball and it's so much easier and nicer for her. I was really worried about everything to do with ds1 when I was having ds2, but as soon as the new baby arrived, I suddenly thought of ds1 as a really grown-up big boy who surely could cope with things.
It's wierd how your first-born suddenly looks enormous and really grown-up when you have a newborn in your arms - did anyone else get that feeling?
Anyway, all I'm saying is, he will be fine in the grand scheme of things as long as you love him - and you do.

TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 30/12/2009 14:32

Aww, it's such an upheaval isn't it. I'm worrying about DS feeling pushed out when I give birth in 8 weeks. I think we worry about it more than is necessary though.

Tell him he's going on holiday to nanny's house. It'll be nice for him. Get him to help pack his bag and things like that. Tell him he'll be coming home to you in 3 sleeps, etc.

It'll be easier on your DH if he's at her house anyway as it's draining for DHs too when we have babies and they probably want a bit of sleep. Not that they've pushed or been through a cesarean mind, but there are many sleepless nights ahead.

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HeadFairy · 30/12/2009 19:51

Thanks stealth... I'm first up after lunch. Lets hope they don't have a boozy NYE lunch

totally - If I let him pack his bag he'd have no clothes, just cars and lorries (BTW I remember you from the mc thread I think - have I got that right? Can't believe you've only got 8 weeks left too. I hope it all goes well!)

Cornishgal - he's spent all day rabbiting on about how mummy and daddy are going to the hospital to get his baby sister, so I don't think he's going to be too traumatised! My mum is going to be run ragged the next few days because he's really excited now!

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Morloth · 30/12/2009 19:55

I don't think little boys ever grow out of the inability to pack you know. If DS packs his own suitcase, there will be dinosaurs and train tracks and his toy puppy of course.

If DH packs his there will be multiple gadgets with their adaptors and chargers, a couple of books and possibly a pair of underpants.

DS I sort out, DH just has to go shopping when we get to places.

Facebookaddict · 30/12/2009 20:17

Stealth, totallyandutterly and morloth... Looks like you've got all the top class MNer support on this thread! Best of luck for last of the 2009 babies! Lovely birthdate- always a top party to be had! x

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HeadFairy · 30/12/2009 20:17

Morloth.. dh is the same, he'll have an assortment of gadgets and associated chargers, but no toothbrush!

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loobylu3 · 30/12/2009 20:18

I think he will have a lovely time with his granny!

Morloth · 30/12/2009 20:20

I sometimes think we have more chargers/cords etc than we do actual appliances.

Good luck tomorrow.

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HeadFairy · 30/12/2009 20:24

We have a whole two massive drawers full... most of them we can't work out what they're for!

Thanks

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 31/12/2009 14:49

HeadFairy- yep that was me on the MC thread back in April, then I got preggers again in the June, luckily. Were you on the same thread? It's flown since then hasn't it? Can't believe we're nearly there woohoo. Good luck with the new baby.

Morloth · 31/12/2009 18:25

Come on, c-section was after lunch wasn't it? Where is OP?

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HeadFairy · 04/01/2010 19:53

Morloth - so sorry! No computer on the ward, no wifi... practically stone age!

Francesca Chiara was born at 4.52pm on New Years Eve weighing 6lbs15. She's really sweet, all cuddly and lovely and ds adores her. Thanks for asking!

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pointydig · 04/01/2010 19:57

aw,congrats!

bibbitybobbitysantahat · 04/01/2010 19:59

Oh, wonderful news! Am so glad you went for Francesca in the end. Many congratulations.

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HeadFairy · 04/01/2010 21:49

thanks

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Facebookaddict · 04/01/2010 22:05

Congrats!!!! Lovely name although disappointed you didn't take my daughter's name Mariella as I suggested on other thread .
Hope your recovery is quick and DD is an easy baby for you! x

Morloth · 04/01/2010 22:08

No wifi?! Outrageous, probably wasn't even an cappuccino machine either?

Congrats, excellent name!

diddl · 05/01/2010 08:54

Only just seen this.
Congrats, OP!
How did your little boy get on at Grans?

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