Is DH being unreasonable to be furious with BIL?

[lazylion]

My new brother in law just pretended to knee my 2 year old son in the face and my husband said "if you do that I will have to kill you" and then didn't speak to him for the rest of the visit (another 15 minutes). DH is furious and thinks he should have thrown the BIL out of the house. This came after my sister's 11 year old had been hitting my 2 year old over the head repeatedly with a foam sword. The BIL did not react to what DH said, but I have a feeling I will be getting a nasty email from my sister tomorrow.
Was my DH being reasonable, unreasonable or too reasonable?

Your DH: 'If you do that I will have to kill you'

'can't express disapproval without feeling violent about it'.

Your BIL: pretending to knee 2 year olds

You: 'My sister is having his baby soon, perhaps I should pretend to slap the little thing '

You all sound (a) 13 years old (b) nuts.

PRETENDING to do anything to a child that the child doesn't comprehend, and that is done in the spirit of engaging and playing with the child is NOT offensive. OP, YABU and so is your maniac husband.

im going to bed, this thread is surreal

i look forward to more nutty threads about these lovely men and their respective laydees

By lazylion Tue 29-Dec-09 23:25:38
bampot? Is that scottish?

Does DH need an anger management course do you think?

Who the bloody hell posts that 4 posts or so in?

Odd thread.

bampot is indeed scottish!they are all bampots.Lazylion and her excuses, her dh and his whodadaddy threats, bil and the alpha male play.all this he said/she said twaddle

Getorfmoiland couldn't have put it better myself.

Nuts.

Thanks ijustwanttoaskaquestion and confuddled, you appear to live in my version of reality.
And I did say i would never ever pretend to slap the baby, tis a thought experiment.
I will keep out of it, except for sorting out rules for nightmare cousin visits.
drama over i hope.

Erm...why could DH not have said 'please don't do that?'

And a foam sword isn't going to hurt is it? The faux-knee in the face is odd - I assume it's was play-fighting. Inappropriate for a 2yr old maybe.

I think your DH would have been within his rights to knee the 11 year old in the face

If you think an email is coing your way then I suggest you send a polite mail to just say that this was an unfortunate incident of tackless sense from BIL and it would be best if he thought about his actions in future, add that you would like the family to let it go on this occasion and you will aks dh not to ignore people in the future.

My OH is 73 and tends to call all his grandsons 'mate'[aged between 12yrs and 10mnths]its funny and friendly and the children like it.How is it inappropriate?He also addresses them collectively as 'chaps'.

well, you all sound as mad as each other

the only person who comes out of this looking normal is the 2 yo kid

"What would you do if someone kneed your DC in the face?"

probably a lot different to how I'd react if someone pretended to do it.

point is most adults can differentiate reality from fiction.your dh know it was pretend play but still was a radge about it to bil

scottishmummy,sometimes I seriously think we don't speak the same language

omg whats a radge? Sounds pointy! Is that another scottish word? can Mumsnet supply a dictionary please i'm getting v confused...

radge they are generally recognisable by threats to kill others

lol @ mentalist

Tempted to say YANBU because once when I was younger(him about 8 and me about 6), my brother and I were pretend fighting and he pretended to knee me in the face, and actually kneed my in the face. It bloody hurt and I got a nosebleed.
Agree with ijustwantto, an adult play fighting with a toddler isn't pretend kneeing in the face.

Update : No nasty email from sister, in fact she just invited me out. It looks like she thought my DH was NBU.