was i being unreasonable?

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I think this is gonna be a long one, so if you get to the end, you have the patience of a saint.

Just to give a bit of background.Im british but live Spain. Dh is spanish.

On xmas eve we went to sil for dinner with dd to celebrate xmas and dd birthday.

After dinner dd was getting bored and thought it would be fun to run around sil house trying to slam all the doors (shes two).Dh as usual just sits on his arse and lets me chase after her.
So i was sitting in the living room with dd reading her a story and trying to calm her down,When i heard sil say "shes english,not stupid". I dont know what was being said as thats all i heard and i have always had the feeling they dont like me because im not spanish.So i thought i will ask dh about it because i didnt want an argument.

On the way home I asked Dh,and he said he didnt know what was said and i should ring her.Dh wasnt being calm about it "your fucking paranoid"blah blah.

Anyway put dd to bed when we got home and went to bed myself. DD has a cold which starts her Asthma off,so she didnt sleep well,I was 3 hours sitting with her until she finally went to sleep at 6am,so i told dh he could do something if he wants got no reply so i went to bed.

Xmas day, we were waiting for dh to get his arse out of bed to open presents,which didnt happen.At 1 he comes flying down the stairs enraged and saying we are not going to sil for dinner becuase i put him in a bad mood. He kicked dd blocks and one went flying and hit me in the mouth ( my fault cos i ruined xmas apparently) So dh went out probably to sil i have no idea while me a dd were left with no xmas dinner as i didnt buy any cos i thought we were going to sil.

So was i being ureasonable to mention "english" comment and ruin xmas. Or shall i just leave the fucker and never come back.

So trolls are a 365 day thing then

i think that MNers often jump to the "troll" conclusion far too readily - I am prepared to accept that this may be genuine as the husband's English was broken in the correct way for a Spaniard. it sounds pretty tragic actually - even if there are exagerrations here and there, i would say that the gist of it is true at least

Perhaps it's David Tennant. He's everywhere else.

If it is a Trollie - Why does this always happen on forums between Christmas and New Year? Craaaazy

and he didn't comment at all about her planning to leave him

I don't think this is trollery. Just a complete mess. I hope that both the OP and her DH manage to resolve things either together or separately. Good luck.

Fanjo - isn't this a comment about her planning to leave him?

"As I have always tell her if he wants to go and left me she can do freely she doesnt need to lie to me. Im sorry for my daughter but maybe is correct if our relation never as it was before."

I quite believed it all until the husband came on actually, even the putting poo in his food.

If she isn't a troll, then I hope she stays in the UK, he sounds controlling.

Hmmm. . .I don't know whether I believe this one or not - It didn't start like a trolling, I don't think - the claims started to come later.

On the other hand, it is pretty difficult to believe.

note that he used dh

Yes - I did notice than, Ron - if he was Spanish he wouldn't automatically get that, would he?

Eurgh, trolls. . .why do they do it?

Ronaldinhio - yes that is a VERY good point actually. OK, OP PO!!!

And "he" used SILs.

unless he posts on dadsnet??

But if he posted on Dadsnet he'd have his own login details, wouldn't he?

I doubt this is real, now, actually.

Still, we gave good advice so anybody in an abusive relationship in the future will find it and know what to do.

How odd.

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