To be pissed of with SIL because she laughed at 4yo ds

[bogie]

and said errr your a girl your a ballerina because he was dancing to mary poppins at mil's........ He was really upset and just sat down and didn't want to get up and play anymore..... she is a twat.....

It was her pfb 1st birthday party and she really made him feel stupid... I love it when he dances and he has said to me and his dad that he would like to start dancing classes, but then because someone at nursery had told him that dancing classes are for girls he changed his mind. Then she just makes it so he feels stupid even dancing in front of us and the rest of his family.

I just told him well you can dance better than your aunite anyway, I think your dancing was great, but he was still quite upset.

SIL a muppet.

my 4yo does irish dancing and it's great because it's something they can do together. there are other boys in class. it's a quarter boys... how about TAP??? tap dancing probably has boys in the class too?

YANBU - was annoyed with FIL for same sort of reason in the summer - ds had borrowed dd's snow white costume and was dancing around the living room.

FIL laughed at him - to which ds got all embarrassed and refused to dance any more.

go to you tube and type in 'step dancing war' and watch it with him, my 4 yo loves it.

it's the pilatzke brothers, nathan and jon, now this wouldn't be everybody's cup of tea,but it will certainly reinforce in his mind that dancing can be for men too!!!!

I've got 3 boys who are all funky little movers!!! I don't think some people realise quite the strength involved for male dancers! She's a silly cow, ignore her or show her this!

YANBU, your SIL sounds horrible.

Tap might be good I just want to let him do what he wants to do, he is very good at sports/balance/hand eye things and I think he should be allowed to try a range of things, he does football and really enjoys it but I will still look for a local dance class so he can find out for himself if he likes it.

rainrain - he was fantastic we had front row seats I bought them for dp's birthday.

OMG what a spiteful piece of work.

My 6 yr ds started hip hop classes when he was 5 and half, he's now graduated to the young performers group at his dance school, and all the bigger lads are raving about him. Every day we spend ages on Youtube looking for Michael Jackson songs, and any other boy/man dance troup kind of stuff that he loves.

It takes a very strong lad to be a good dancer, My ds is starting ballet in January too after he has mithered me for ages, (wanted to make sure he was properly keen), he is really looking forward to it.

Encourage your ds, it's a great thing for a boy to be able to do, (and keeps them off the streets when they are older)

Stupid cow, I hate it when adults are mean to children bacause they themselves feel threatened or inferior.

YANBU
Why would she say that

God your SIL is a fucking idiot. What do your dh and mil say about it?

YANBU.

putting a child down pubicly (or at all)= v. distasteful

No one ever ever say's anything to Sil because she will burst into tears all the time (I still say things but MIL FIL and DP won't).... 'Dp once said can I not have any cauliflower on my dinner please' so she threw her dinner in the bin, ran to her room and didn't speak to dp for a week... I once told her that the reason a company had credit checked her is becasue she had given them permission to she screamed at me and went to her room for the rest of the day... She cries constanly but when she does this MIl and us get left with her ds for hours.

what a complete and utter bitch!!!

your poor ds, i do hope he forgets.

A Pp said about street dancing, there are quite a few male dominated dance classes now, might be worth looking for, it would be such a shame to waste passion and talent because the world is full of twats!

Bloody hell, Bogie! Either she has "issues" or she's a spoilt twat brat. She storms off to her room? What is she, 14?

She is a spoilt brat... FIL treats her like a baby.... FIL and SIL hate me becasue I speak my mind and I am the only person who ever tell's them that they are wrong.

How old is your SIL?

How about her son's father - is he not around?

YANBU what a total idiot your SIL is did you say something to her, because i certainly would if in that position.

Nothing wrong with boys/men dancing, look at the late great Patrick Swayze, a fantastic dancer and actor.

I also suggest that your silly SIL read Patricks insightful and interesting autobiography in which he talks candidly about his dancing as well as other things too.

Reading further into your posts your sIL sounds like a loon who does have ishooos

What does your DP think. Personally, I would get him to have a word with her about shutting her daft little face up if she says anything nasty about your lovely DS.

SIL is 21 nearly 22, her dp lives with his mum and dad, he is really lovley but they fall out constantly, he doesn't take her shit attitude stroppyness either.

bogie your SIL sounds as stupid and insensitive as mine. I am so cross for you. I'd have kiled her. I expect mine to ruin everybody's Xmas this year and to say something to make the girls know that santa doesn;t exists.

Anyway I'd try to get DS to see shows where there are boys his age that dance. If you can get to those shows then get him a dvd. That "Dance with Michale Jackson" show was rubbish but I thought how much good it must do to boys who love to dance but are ashamed of it.

If it makes you feel better you can put her idicy down to gae. I cannot even do that, mine is 45 !