Thandeka your DP sounds exactly like mine - one of the loveliest, kindest, most loyal men to walk the earth, but get him in a pub with a pint in his hand and it's as if the rest of the world ceases to exist. Does that sound familiar?
Listen, we have two DCs now and one thing I can almost guarantee is that he will not be the same after your baby is born. Babies have a way of rearranging peoples' priorities which no amount of furious texts can achieve
He won't change completely, but I think for women the reality and responsibility of the baby starts when they're pregnant, while for most men it doesn't really kick in until the baby is born. So right now, he hasn't experienced the massive life change that you have already had to make - no drinking, tired, giving up your job - these are all huge changes but for him life is basically no different to before, except you're a bit larger . Wait till he holds that newborn baby in his arms and see how he falls in love He probably also doesn't really realise how different you feel - his independent DP suddenly needs him a lot more and it probably hasn't sunk in.
I remember feeling really vulnerable when pregnant, because suddenly instead of knowing that if he left me I'd be devastated but would survive, I suddenly felt so desperately unable to cope without him, and it was a really difficult feeling to deal with.
Also, I don't know if your DP is like this, but with my DP is down to him basically always wanting to please people and give them what they want. So if he's with me, he'll do what I want, but in the pub with his mates, he'll do what they want. It's not about priorities, it's about making people happy, and my DP is utterly rubbish at saying No to anything.
And we were one of the first couples to have a baby, so there was a difficult period where all his mates carried on going out like they were students, and we were changing nappies etc. But now, 3 years down the line, most of them have got DCs too and life is very different.
My DP still has the odd night where he says he'll be home at 8pm and it turns out to be midnight (the danger sign is generally the words 'I'm just popping out for one' ) but he's realised that he has to be more reliable now.
I think people need to kick their heels up and let their hair down every so often, but with any luck he'll get better at making it a bit more of a planned affair, so you won't be left hanging.
Sorry, massive long post, but I've posted almost exactly what you have on so many occasions, I just wanted to share!
BTW, don't delete Misfits, it's great