To be annoyed that i couldn't take pictures of my son in his nativity today?

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Was really excited as ds2 was in the choir so was up front the whole time and thought i would get some really great pictures!

However we are told once seated that we cannot take pictures but we can buy the dvd once its done for £5.

Now i understand that some parents might not want there kids showing up on facebook or some such but if the pictures are kept for family or yourself then whats the harm in capturing somebody else in the picture?

So no pictures of him singing. No group shots and the only way i can see him in his costume again is to fork out for the dvd for myself as well as my mum who desperately wanted to see it but couldn't.

Im just a little peeved especially as ds1 has his nativity tonight and school have said go for it take as many pictures as you like!

ds's headmistress just asked that no-one use flash photography during the performance. She was fine about camcorders - and all the camcorder-wielding parents were considerate and didn't block anyone's view. Then at the end she called each group of children up on stage for a round of applause so parents could take photos with flash.

Seems very sensible to me.

as long as the parents didn't disturb the children during the play while filming, it was fine. we were allowed to take photos afterwards as well. we sign a form every year stating if our childrens' pictures can be put on the school moodle or in newspapers. if someone objects due to some privacy issues then obviously the situation would be different and i would respect that decision, but nobody did this year. i think that is a brilliant idea.

I was saying to DH that it was better to watch rather than video (from the back) after he saw Ds in his nativity play. He was a king!

Ha! DS got sick that night, so didn't make it to the next performance that I was supposed to be going to

Note to self- good job DH took a video at least I got to see it and next time I will go to first available performance!

I know its a bit rubbish but its probably more to do with stupid parents than fear of perverts.

As PPs have said sometimes you cannot see the play for people trying to get the perfect shot of their child. They treat it like a personal performance and dont give a toss about anyone else in the audience.

I have kids ranging from nearly 18 to 2 and I have noticed the change in school plays from child to child.

With DD you used to get a few people taking a quick photo by the time I got to DS3's nativity I literally couldnt see the children on stage at all. You couldnt hear much either as parents shouted out to get their child's attention and were practically offering stage direction

I think taking pictures afterwards is better. You rarely get a good shot of a child on stage anyway (well I dont).

Having to pay over a tenner for a DVD is terrible though!

im going to my ds2 carols around the tree on friday ,not allowed to take any videos or photos ,you never know where they will end up !!

Yabu and nbu at the same time.

Annoying to have to pay yes and I expect there are cheaper ways for it to be done.

However, it is incredibly annoying, as others have said, to go to these plays/events and not be able to see for people taking pictures/films or to be put off by the clicks, whirrs, flashes etc. My own siblings are unfortunately among the worst offenders and I always tell them to try and enjoy the moment rather than see it through a lens.

At one of niece's dance schools they let people take pics of kids in costume before and after events but not during, seems fair enough and people can choose to be in photos or not.

Most of us oldies don't have pics of us in nativity/schoolplays, we have survived....

I haven't read the whole thread, but would like to add my experiances from seeing my son's school nativity (he is yr 1)

I sat down, excitedly reading the program to seehis name was missing from the programme, along with another childs. The head made the usual announcement of no photos/videos to avoid distracting the cast and for child protection reasons. At the end of the show parents were invited to take photos of the children.

Ds and the other child were...(blardy mobile)

I really don't get this either. We are allowed to photograph plays etc. However, when we enrolled child we had to sign consent to say we allow photos. Can't see why anyone would object. However, I would love the chance to buy a DVD. Although my dd is tiny and always seems to be at the back at plays so I don't think we have any good photos either.

Quietly taken to one side to do something else. The school understands the issues regsrding their, and consequently our safety, if my dh found us there could be a lot of trouble, both the other child's family and ourselves are in a refuge having fled our husbands. Very longwinded, sorry, but there are some genuine reasons why they say no photography

Yes but ready i find it hard to understand why they say no photos and yet they make a dvd which they then sell to anybody who buys one!

There is no facial blanking and obv everyone in the play is in it.
Whats the difference? It could end up in youtube as much as photos could be put on facebook which is a lot worse seeing as how theres no privacy in videos on Youtube!

well your not the only one that couldnt take photos.....get over it love!

I am Over it as you so nicely put it lottie i was just responding to ready wrote, i hadn't posted in a while and didn't want anybody to think i didn't appreciate there opinions

Ready, sounds like the school handled that very well. Hope things are looking up for you.

Blimey. am really unnatural parent. I loved seeing ds at the nativity - was actually overcome by the reality that the beautiful child up there was associated with me in any way - but... i didn't take any pictures and have no actual desire to watch it ever again...

scary realities on this thread

good glad you are. at least you saw him and they had a play!!