to expect my dcs, just occasionally, to do what I'm asking?

[KTNoo]

I am so sick of being challenged on every tiny request I make. They are so pedantic.

Today's example:

"Pick up that black felt pen off the floor please."

"It's a blue pen not a black pen."

I'm all for negotiating and listening and letting them have their opinions, but seriously, they don't seem to do anything I ask these days without a discussion.

I'm going back to the dictatorship approach.

How occasionally?

I feel your pain.

im with you sister!!!

me "what would you like for lunch?"
DS "Its not what, its pardon"

If i politely request he perhaps has a go at his home work...the look he gives me! You would think i had asked him if i could have a quick shit in his book bag!

chuffin kids

my ds is like this. Is remarkably irritating

DD 3.5 does this, pointing out any error in what you say, so I tell her not to answer back. The other day she asked me to get her something and I said that she could get it herself as it was only on the kitchen table. She told me not to answer back and just do as she asked

LOL at sunburn.

DS just asked me "Why do you let us zoom around on the computer chair only when we have guests?"

Umm, because I'm drinking wine and not watching you properly....

Me "What would you like for lunch?"
Children "No idea".

Me, some time later "Lunch is ready"

Children "Well, we didn´t want that"

My DS1 and DS2 are also pedantic.

They get it from their father who is 100 time more pedantic than they are.

It's amazing I'm sane living with the three of them.

Belive it or not I've just made a behaviour contract for my dd to sign when she gets home from school. There are several points on it but it essentially reads like a dictatorship manifesto

I am known by some as the 'Pedant Wench' and my DCs are informed that the Pedant Wench does not need an assistant! DS1 is probably the worst culprit and I tend to respond with the word 'Now!' if I'm asking him to do something.

Being under a dictatorship is good for the soul.

I've told mine I'm on zero tolerance for whining, whinging, backchat and untidiness - Consequences include DS confiscation, early to bed and NO CHOCOLATE (DD) Reward = Christmas!

Nintendo DS confiscation - not the actual child, although ...

Kreecher- could we all have a copy please.
Mine are hell at the moment especially 13 yr old. I sent her to bed last night when she was halfway through her tea - she was being ridiculously childish (yes I know she's a child)
But they were both SNIGGERING which makes me defensive and paranoid.

sunburntats funniest thing ive read today!

my ds barely talks (currently seeing salt)yet he said wrong when i asked him to get dds top which turned out to be his.

sometimes theyre just a bit smug!

Oh thank God it's not just mine!
DD has taken to shouting like a fishwife at any opportunity.
DS1 seems to be turning into a lunatic howler monkey.
DS2 has raided his Christmas calendar and eaten all of the chocolate.
I HAVE NO CONTROL!

The thing is, sometimes I'm just right, but they can't/won't see it.

We went into town on the train. DS wouldn't put his coat on. Given up long ago on that particular battle but knowing his "other planet" personality I told him to tie it around his waist. Long protest from him on why it wouldn't stay on his waist and was better over his shoulder (I stopped listening, he does go on a bit), then we get off the train, lo and behold, he leaves his coat behind, never to be seen again.

Grrr.

Then when dh gets in, and asks how every one is they say "mum's in a mood" . Yes I am in a fucking mood because I seem to be the butt of everyone's joke and feel I get no respect.
And dh will say "do you think you could have handled that better?"
They'll be sorry when I'm dead.

kreecherlivesupstairs Please a copy of THE Contract would be amazing. Just havn't the time or patience to draw one up. How old is you DD?
Mine are 13 and 14. Every night this week (yes it's only tuesday) I've ended up so [angery] with them over back chat/rudeness/unhelpful etc etc then i end up feeling guilty

Am with you on the dictatorship approach - sometimes life seems to short for the gentle, reasoned approach - for God's sake just do it now because I asked you to!!!

Sorry - too short of course!
And why do we always end up feeling guilty? If my DS just did what I ask him too - and I (usually) start off with the gentle, reasoned aproach - there would be no problem!

OMG what's happened to my spelling? Think I'd better go & do something else for a while ...

Also having some success with the "stuck record" approach....

"Go and brush your teeth
Go and brush your teeth
Go and brush your teeth
Go and brush your teeth...."

Problem is it often ends up "GO AND BRUSH YOUR TEETH!!!!!!!!"

And then they do it.

wearthefoxhat Does it count as advent calendar raiding if you only undo the seal at the bottom, carefully slide out the tray, scoff all the chocolates, replace the tray and then seal up the box again, leaving the little windows untouched?

Oh dear Lord me too.

DD Is supper ready?
Me No
DD Wheeeeeen wiiiiiiiiiiil it be ready?
Me soon, I'll give you a shout when it's time to come in.
DD (tuts) We aren't supposed to shout in the house.

And so it goes on and on and on and on......