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to give school a list of foods/additives etc. which ds cannot eat at the class christmas party?

345 replies

tispity · 14/12/2009 20:40

the other alternative would be to keep him off that day. he is not allergic as such, but it turns him into a little devil. i feel strongly that it makes no sense to let him eat everything one day a year while carefully controlling his diet for the remaining 364 days. i would even be willing to provide a selection of food for ds and others on his table. i don't know whether the mere suggestion would offend them as they are rushed off their feet this week and the oher parents don't appear bothered (especially those sending in haribos and value cola!).

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monkeyfeathers · 15/12/2009 11:59

Gladders: I may be somewhat cynical here, but I suspect that a nutritionalistic therapy if what you go for when the advice of nutritionists just isn't satisfying your need for batshit insane food advice based on selective use of science. Of course, I may be wrong and nutritionists may simply have rebranded.

I did see an nhs nutritionist as a teenager (after I decided to be vegetarian) who gave perfectly sensible advice. None of it contained dire warnings about how eating fructose once (maybe twice) would end in disaster and bankrupt the nhs.

TisTheSeasonToBeHully · 15/12/2009 12:00

monkey - they didn't know then.

WhoIsAskingSantaForCake · 15/12/2009 12:04

Hully, you're right. My friend ate an apple once, never knowing the damage that could be done.

She shit out her spleen in a Welcome Break on the M4. It was dreadful.

monkeyfeathers · 15/12/2009 12:08

Well of course. Thos Neanderthal nutritionists of the 20th century!

I fear I am a lost cause however. I must go now to wean my 3 month old on pureed crunchie (now there's a tip!!). I might have left it a bit late though. Probably should have slipped some into a fruit shoot for him at 3 weeks.

Vivia · 15/12/2009 12:11

You ask 'AIBU to give school a list of food/additives which DS cannot eat...?'

He can eat them.

Be grateful he isn't allergic to foods or ill, you PFB lunatic.

whifflegarden · 15/12/2009 12:18

Ah Tis, ,you've got me CRYING with laughter here. Perfect way to spend my break from cleaning the house

TisTheSeasonToBeHully · 15/12/2009 12:20

Whiffle - I have written a short pamphlet on that very subject: Cry Your Way to Prime Physicalistic Heath. You can get it at Holland and Barrett with a free gogoberry bar!!!

grumpypants · 15/12/2009 12:25

well, I got to page 4 and then started to feel a bit sorry for the OP. Also felt like adding a message as ds' school has just rung to ask if he can have x,y,z at the class party and I am really grateful to them. I told them when he started that he had a dairy allergy, and that chocolate in particular triggered eczema quite badly (all gp and hv checked btw). Luckily he has started to grow out iof it so is no longer on a vegan diet. Apart from chocolate bars, I said yes - we have specifically avoided dairy/ chocolate at home knowing it is party season!

Anyway, I do feel a bit for the OP - we stopped ds1 having ribena after noticing a link between this and hyper mode, and then read about the link between blackcurrant and bedwetting so have banned this for him as well.

secretgardin · 15/12/2009 12:26

i was 2 stone overweight a year after dd's birth and went to see a gp for some advice. he must have been 65+. i was told that i was overweight because i just eat too much and that equals fat lady, but sugar is fine lost 1 and a half stone so far by just controlling my portions, not what i eat. love the odd biccie give me neanderthal nutritional advice any day, because poncy new-fangled (lol) diets and nutritionists telling me to stuff myself with more lentils has never worked

nickytwotimes · 15/12/2009 12:34

Ah, thanks for this thread.

FUnniest thing I've seen in ages.

Pikelit · 15/12/2009 12:34

An Old Gimmer writes...

DS2 was not "officially" allergic to anything either but got tremendously high from standard party food. In fact he used to come home from most parties and formally announce: "Sorry, Mummy but I am going to be an absolute little SOD tonight". He was usually as good as his word too.

But actually, did it matter in the greater scheme of things? No. Unlike the humiliation of having a over-controlling Mama following him around right into his twenties. Because it does!

Interestingly, the non-allergic child that was most controlled - mother stood behind her chair at parties and would remove anything remotely tasty from her hand - grew up to be the first one of their contemporaries to offer coke at her parties. In lines. Not bottles

tispity · 15/12/2009 12:50

well at least she wasn't doling out sausage rolls ... sos rolls on the other hand are ok as long as the soya is nonGM

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mablemurple · 15/12/2009 12:50

Anyone can call themselves a nutritionist (or even a "nutrionalistic therapist") - it's meaningless. We all could call ourselves nutritionists of years experience if we wanted to.

sarah293 · 15/12/2009 12:53

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grumpypants · 15/12/2009 12:57

oh dear. There's a big difference between the OP's post and that Riven - you deal with what you're dealt, and it's a bit unfair to expect everyone to count their blessings and never worry about anything.

christiana · 15/12/2009 13:14

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MaMight · 15/12/2009 13:30
GrimmaTheNome · 15/12/2009 13:39

sos rolls on the other hand are ok as long as the soya is nonGM

What dire effect does GM soya have on a small boy I wonder? Wrack him with guilt at his complicity with overbearing agribusiness maybe? Because sure as heck it will otherwise make not an iota of difference to his behaviour.

MumsieNonna · 15/12/2009 13:46

OP you are a nut job about food and your poor kid is going to be the laughing stock. When I was a kid my mum banned sweets because of her fear of dental caries. On Sundays she packed my sisters and me off to church with a shilling each for the collection. We all tapped the plate and kept the money. Then we went to the corner shop and spent three shillings on sweets and scoffed them on the way home. Do you think I will go to Hell? My teeth are full of fillings BTW.

Can anyone please tell me what is wrong with walnuts? Ta.

TisTheSeasonToBeHully · 15/12/2009 14:04

Wanuts...?! Don't even go there. On my nutritionalistic therapy course we had a whole semester devoted to them.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 15/12/2009 14:05

are people really still respondng to the Op as if she was serious ?

this was outed as a joke thread yesterday...

MintyCandyCane · 15/12/2009 14:08

I agree with Hully. Having read her wonderful book "Eat your way out of the NHS" I have put all my children on her diet. I stick large stickers on all of my children in the morning before school. They say "Feeding me may seriously damage my health - I am a sugar free zone". I suggest the OP does the same. It is all part of being Woo.

TisTheSeasonToBeHully · 15/12/2009 14:38

Oh well done Minty! Think what you are saving the nation. Gordon thanks you.

monkeyfeathers · 15/12/2009 14:51

DP has decided that he should 'retrain' as a nutritionalistic therapist. Can anyone recommend a suitable online diploma mill university? He can legitimately call himself 'dr', which we think will help his practice immensely (we just won't mention that the doctorate is in a completely non-medical area).

misdee · 15/12/2009 14:52

i dont have time to read the whole thread.

i think, unless you are talking real allergies here, then YABU.

dd1 IS allergic to tartrazine. if she eats anything containing tarttrazine, at best she will have a rash, at worst she will have an asthma attack. When she goes to parties, i go in to check food labels etc and say yay or nay to certain things.

dd2 goes a bit loopy on food colourings, so i would rather she avoided them, but dont worry too much. she has an apple allergy which can cause problems. especially as people think i'm joking when i say she is allergic to apples (urticia and wheezing).

dd4, my 1year old has allergies to milk, eggs and nuts. So i just take her a lunch box full of safe snacks and food when we go out. her first experience of cows milk landed her in a+e.

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