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To be getting upset by people hoping I have a girl next?

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mummyof1butnotforlong · 12/12/2009 20:58

Pregnant with baby number 2. My DS is so lovely and I wouldn't change him for the world!

We don't know what sex this baby is and I don't care! BUT everyone else seems to!

"Oh you need a girl next" "I was so glad I had one of each" "every women wants a daughter" the list of comments is endless!

Would it be so bad to have 2 boys??!!

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amystev · 15/12/2009 11:28

YA absolutely NBU - I hate the way people assume that only having children of both genders is 'perfect'. When I was pregnant with DD1 I had comments from membersofDP'sfamily idiots that 'only real men make boys' and 'oh you'll just have to keep trying for a boy then'. When we found out we were expecting another DD my idiot MIL asked my DP if he 'minded' me having another girl, as if he could ask for a refund and nip to the baby shop to get himself a son instead.

If the mood ever takes me to get pregnant again (very, very unlikely!) I would not mind at all if we had another little girl. After all, they don't wee in your face when you change their nappies!

Spacehoppa · 15/12/2009 11:38

It is a bit easy to assume that mothers want daughters, and fathers want sons.

Be happy with what you have and are given-Daddy, Mummy, Boy, Girl is a bit obvious...but it just does not always come naturally does it?

MamaLazarou · 15/12/2009 11:42

YANBU

Someone I worked with said they assumed I probably wanted a girl, so that I can 'dress it nice'.

LittleOneMum · 15/12/2009 13:25

Mummyto1 YANBU at all. I am/was in exactly the same boat. I am pg with DC2, and have a DS. You would not believe the number of people who have said 'oh, you must be desperate for a girl'... etc. when in fact it's clear that I would walk ofer hot coals for my DS and would be very happy with another DS.
It all came to a head when my Mum told me she was 'secretly praying for a girl' at which point I lost it completely - and DH banned me from discussing sex with anyone again! Was convinced that my Mum wouldn't love a second male grandchild.
As it turns out, I am having a DD and if i had a pound for everyone who has said 'oh you must be so relieved' as well as 'oh that's a gentleman's family ' I'd be rich.
Both MIL and my Mum are over the moon. I'm quite sickened by the whole thing!
There, I feel better now!!!

Ladyanonymous · 15/12/2009 13:53

I so enjoyed my third PG as I already had one of each everyone "assumed" I didn't have a preference!!...Although after my daughter (my second child) was born and I had "my pigeon pair" WTF?! everyone "assumed" I wouldn't need to be having any more babies... just love the way everyone foists their opinions and their life choices upon you when it comes to kids...

2babyblues · 15/12/2009 14:35

I know how you feel. I have 2 boys and I had it all the time with my second pregnancy. Then when my second baby was born my mum kept on about maybe my brother will give them a grandaughter in the future, like she has given up on me providing the much wanted girl!!!!

We have started thinking (nothing decided) about having a third child but I am nervous about everyone esp. my mum going on about us having a girl. The other day I was talking to a friend about the possibility of having another baby and she said "you know it may be a boy" like that would be the worst thing to ever happen. I told her that I didn't mind what we have, but she doesn't seem to get it.

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