Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3

Original poster

To intensely dislike greedy kids?

60 replies

OnlyTeaForMe · 12/12/2009 16:26

Took some of DS1's friends out for his birthday (10th) last night (pizza + cinema).

We ordered big plates of starters to share (wings, garlic bread, chicken strips etc). I'd estimated we would have more than enough.

Anyway, when they arrived one boy immediately piled his plate high with about half the food on the platter. I commented that I thought he had a bit much, that it was only meant to be a starter, but he didn't put any back, and I didn't feel I could insist. He didn't eat it all .
Meanwhile I had to console DS2 who didn't get any chicken as a result!

Same child started piling pizza slices on when they arrived, and this time I stopped him and told him to take two and come back for more later if he was still hungry.

Pudding was one of those nightmare 'help yourself ice-cream + sweets' things. Again he completely filled his bowl with a vile amount of food and crap sweets/ topping and then later left half of it...

WHY? WHY? WHY?

OP posts:

kreecherlivesupstairs · 15/12/2009 08:19

Greedy boy struck again last night. Amazingly I managed not to say anything, just go for a fag. My dd was at a birthday party miles away from where we live, I had collected her and her three friends from school, driven up a mountain in a blizzard and decided that rather than go home only to turn around and return 20 minutes later I would stay. I settled down with my book, the food came out, dd had some crisps greedyguts had virtually a whole quiche and about 15 sausages on sticks piled on his plate. The other kids were all but it didn't stop him. He ploughed on. The worst thing IMO was he clearly coudln't eat it all, wouldn't put anything back and bit all round the quiche so nobody else could.

coldtits · 15/12/2009 08:29

I used to have a greedyguts kid visit my son - he'd eat absolutely any amount he could get his hands on. Drove me batty/

A year later I found out SS had been involved in his home due to neglect,and it was probably only mine and other local parents' fridge contents keeping the poor little fucker on his feet.

Do make sure there's nothing going on at home.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 15/12/2009 08:51

Coldtits, that's very sad. In my case bloater is well nourished and nurtured, he's just a greedy (and selfish) litte sod.

piscesmoon · 15/12/2009 09:07

I would be the dragon-party or no party- and told him that he had too much and I would share it out.

Sn0wflake · 15/12/2009 09:12

I know a few adults like this...

thesecondcoming · 15/12/2009 09:23

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Sn0wflake · 15/12/2009 09:42

Having said that I liked to eat a lot as a kid....but very aware of sharing and generally ate everything on my plate.

Ordered huge ice cream in France in June....only ate a quarter of it and couldn't look at ice cream for a couple of months.

I think people find greed annoying because a little bit of them would actually like to be eating all that stuff but they stop themselves.

KTNoo · 15/12/2009 10:54

I don't think that Snowflake, honestly, I just find it slightly obscene. And I hate the wasteful side of it if most of what greedy kids take gets thrown away.

If we visited people when I was a child I was told I could have one biscuit, then maybe another one later if they offered it. I remember thinking it was fair enough. There was a boy who always scoffed endlessly everywhere he went and had a reputation for being a greedy guts. That's not a nice reputation for a child to have, and I was glad my mum taught me not to do that. I still expect him to fill his boots like that when I occasionally meet him nowadays, 20 years on.

Original poster

OnlyTeaForMe · 15/12/2009 19:33

OOh - lots more posts - I thought this thread had died!

RockBird - c'mon - this is AIBU... it's normal to have a slightly inflammatory title to get the posts rolling in...

But to say "I intensely dislike" is not an exaggeration... perhaps what I mean is that I intensely dislike the greedy behaviour - not the child himself - although, let's face it, it's sometimes hard to separate the two (behaviour/person).

Like KTNoo I really find gluttony rather obscene, to the point that it makes me feel nauseous!

It's such an unattractive trait in anyone - adult or child - and I think it is every parent's responsibility to quash it in their children.

For me, good parenting 'rules' as they relate to food are:

don't take more than you intend to eat (better to take less, and come back for more later)
share what's available with others present
avoid waste ('waste' in 'all you can eat' buffets DOES have a cost - it raises the general price for everyone in the medium term, as restaurants cost their deals on the average amount of food consumed)
keep your mouth shut when eating!

If this had been a 5 or 6 year old's party then probably I'd feel less concerned, but by 10 yrs I really think children should not behave like this - if they haven't learnt basic, decent behaviour by 10 years, when ARE they going to learn it?

OP posts:

piscesmoon · 15/12/2009 22:28

I agree with thesecondcoming, it is often DCs whose parents are very strictly controlling of food and have 'good' and 'bad' foods. Once the DC gets away from the control they go wild-the parent never knows because the DC never does it in front of them!

Flip

1 2 3