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To intensely dislike greedy kids?

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OnlyTeaForMe · 12/12/2009 16:26

Took some of DS1's friends out for his birthday (10th) last night (pizza + cinema).

We ordered big plates of starters to share (wings, garlic bread, chicken strips etc). I'd estimated we would have more than enough.

Anyway, when they arrived one boy immediately piled his plate high with about half the food on the platter. I commented that I thought he had a bit much, that it was only meant to be a starter, but he didn't put any back, and I didn't feel I could insist. He didn't eat it all .
Meanwhile I had to console DS2 who didn't get any chicken as a result!

Same child started piling pizza slices on when they arrived, and this time I stopped him and told him to take two and come back for more later if he was still hungry.

Pudding was one of those nightmare 'help yourself ice-cream + sweets' things. Again he completely filled his bowl with a vile amount of food and crap sweets/ topping and then later left half of it...

WHY? WHY? WHY?

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OnlyTeaForMe · 12/12/2009 20:33

I let the starter chicken thing pass, because like another poster's child, DS2 is a bit funny about eating stuff once it's been on other people's plates. But that's why I did wade in over the pizza.
It was a long table, and I was at one end of it, so it was hard to constantly 'police' it, nor had I expected to have had, at a 10 year old's party to be honest!

Oh well, you live and learn!

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Poppity · 12/12/2009 20:33

We had this at a party recently, although it was for 6 year olds.

The horror boy in question hd piled his plate high, but rather than embarrass him I went and sat next to him and quietly said that I thought it would be kind if he put some of it back so everyone had some.

He called me a bumface poohead, threw the food on the floor, climbed over the back of the chair and ran off shouting POOHEAD POOHEAD.

QandA · 12/12/2009 20:35

I suppose your worry over obesity would apply if you knew how much he had to eat for the other 365 days of the year, which I am presuming you don't ?

MrsMattie · 12/12/2009 20:36

lolllll!@Poppity.

Gotta love 6 yr old boy speak.

QandA · 12/12/2009 20:42

Poppity

CirrhosisByTheSea · 12/12/2009 20:46

oh my god Poppity

I know I am a grumpy old bag but I would have phoned that boy's parent and had him picked up! What truly crap behaviour

(wasn't your own kid, I hope?)

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OnlyTeaForMe · 12/12/2009 21:01

OMG Poppity
Although I remember at DS2's 6th birthday party a boy emptying the WHOLE bowl of quavers onto his plate and then trying to lick them all so that no one would take them away!!
(Perhaps these are the kids who NEVER get 'junk food' at home? )

In reality the kid at yesterdays' party usually seems polite and well-mannered. Think I'll put it down to over-excitement and being a bit immature/ socially 'gauche' (which I think he is...)

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OnlyTeaForMe · 12/12/2009 21:02

Mrs Mattie - re fussy eaters - oh yes - there was also the boy who, just as the pizzas arrived, said "I don't eat cheese" (which I know I've seen him eat before)

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Poppity · 12/12/2009 21:04

Ah, no, not mine. The Mum was there though, she looked up vaguely at the commotion then carried on nattering. I think she was In Denial.

Eeeew at Quaver licking.

chegirlwithbellson · 12/12/2009 21:14

My son was a bit like this although he had very nice manners.

He was encouraged from a very early age by OH's family. They used to go on about him eating a lot and praise him at every gathering. It became a sort of party trick

It drove me mad and became expected of him. As he got older his appitite decreased but he still felt he had to stuff his neck everywhere he went.

The waste thing would annoy me no end though.

FimbleHobbs · 12/12/2009 21:32

To see my son at a party you'd think he never gets fed at home! He's still at an age where I go with him so can police him a bit, but left to his own devices would eat all the sausages and crisps in the building (he's a stick so i'm not worried about his weight, just his manners!)

I am aiming to train him out of this before he goes solo at parties though... And he gets plenty of rubbish at home, alongside organic lentil yoghurt of course.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 13/12/2009 09:58

YANBU. I loathe greedy kids, I don't know if it is because my dd eats like a bird but, greeders drive me to distraction. At dd's birthday party I spent all morning making sarnies, pizzas, vol au vents opening crips etc. I'd spent about 15 minutes washing strawberries and taking the green bit out. One fucking bloater boy took virtually all of them and put them on his plate. I asked him to put some back for others to eat, he told me to fuck off. I phoned his mum and told her to collect him. DD was mortified by my behaviour.

babybarrister · 13/12/2009 12:52

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fiveisanawfullybignumber · 13/12/2009 13:18

Kreecher, good on you! I hope the mum was suitably mortified and gave him what for and made him appologise.
Have to say I always try to even out the food at parties, discretely if I can, but there have been a couple of occasions where I've had to wade in over the years.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 14/12/2009 08:16

Five is, unfortunately his mum wasn't upset at all or embarassed or apologetic. The boy has never set foot in my flat or near my dd since.

sheepgomeep · 14/12/2009 10:15

'You see plenty of grown-ups hoarding food at buffets too'

oh dear I did this at a works do buffet recently. I piled my plate extremely high with food much more than anyone else But then I am eating for two

There was masses of food though more than enough to go round and I didn't help myself to more than one thing from each plate though.

biggirlsdontcry · 14/12/2009 16:32

one of my nephews is like this , whenever we take him out for a treat with my dc's to McDonald's he will cram as many fries into his mouth until his cheeks are fit to burst & he is almost gagging while he chews , he does this so he can finish first before my dc's then ask for some of their food , then gets as much food as he can before he is taken home - then sister wonders why he is awake half the night vomiting & tummy pains , my dh does be having to sit at the table with dn while he eats like this . he eats lovely at home ,just does this when eating out
oh & the one time i stopped him over eating he made a show of me in front of his parents when we dropped him home & told them he was still hungry as i was mean & didn't buy him extra fries

porcamiseria · 14/12/2009 16:57

my DS is like this and hes not even 2 yet!!!!! he actually opended a ruck sack, opended a box and are their lunch (I stopped him of course when I saw). This is what I have to look forward too....

KTNoo · 14/12/2009 18:00

Ugh, I'm remembering why I dread my dcs' parties every year.

Actually my ds(6) has greedy tendencies, but only with the sugary stuff. I think we have a fairly balanced approach to how much sweet stuff he's allowed at home but he still goes mad at parties or anywhere where it's all laid out for the taking.

You should see him position himself under a pinata.

He gets it from DH of course. DH remembers one Christmas dinner from his childhood where he couldn't find a comfortable position to sit/lie in for the rest of the day.

DH's parents had the rule in restaurants that if you order it, you finish it. Cue family story about when SIL threw up the monster ice-cream sundae she had begged for all over the pavement outside the restaurant. Nice.

biggirlsdontcry · 14/12/2009 18:07

KTNoo

NotanOtter · 14/12/2009 20:13

'you should see him position himself under a pinata'

fabhead · 14/12/2009 20:16

tis human nature I fear. This is why I do individual party boxes for my 5y old and friends

NotanOtter · 14/12/2009 20:33

i think I was probably the greedy kid in 1976...

looking back i seriously believe there was a mal nourished thing going on at home so maybe there was an axcuse

KTNoo · 15/12/2009 05:10

Party boxes - excellent! What can go wrong with that?

RockBird · 15/12/2009 07:47

I'm going to go against the flow here and say that I think your title and OP are a bit nasty. He's a kid at a party who went a bit crazy, it's not a crime. You've said yourself he's usually polite etc so intensely dislike is a bit of an overreaction, no?

As for 'consoling' your poor ds who didn't get any chicken...

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