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Original poster

Dh told me last night he's invited people for New Years Eve?

53 replies

deaddei · 12/12/2009 09:51

He's invited 2 couples for dinner on NYE.
Now if they were close friends I wouldn't mind, but the men he plays golf with- I don't know them or their wives. Have met them once, and that was it.
Added to the fact we are away over Xmas till late on 30th Dec, so I will have to fight the hoardes on NYE at the shops, cook the meal (I'll help said dh- er, you've booked golf all day).
I was looking forward to a nice quiet NYE, not cooking a bloody dinner party for people I don't know.

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tinierclanger · 12/12/2009 09:54

YANBU. Tell him to uninvite them, or at least, to cancel his golf. Don't just do it and be a martyr.

GoldenSnitch · 12/12/2009 09:54

Tell him that being as he organised the meal without consulting you first, he can organise the food on his own too...!

Cheeky sod!

gingernutlover · 12/12/2009 09:56

M and S stuff? or do a buffet from icelands LOL

can you get it delivered, might still be some slots left for home delivery?

oh and YANBU to be annoyed, has he cancelled his golf yet?

Original poster
deaddei · 12/12/2009 09:58

Has he f*, gingernutlover. I'd like to discuss this with him further- he told me at 10pm last night when I was half asleep, but he's.....on the golf course.
I have a migraine, have had to take ds to football and pick him up at 11. By which time arsehole of dh will be on the 14th hole.

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deaddei · 12/12/2009 10:01

Oh and one of the wives doesn't drink, is on ADs because her daughter has gone to uni- the other couple are divorcing when their girls are 18 as they don't get on.
What a funpacked evening this could be.

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ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 12/12/2009 10:04

Order a take away. I agree DH should have discussed with you first, but you don't have to go overboard. Takeaway or whack together a buffet and booze (and soft drinks) and just relax It may end up being a blast

citronella · 12/12/2009 10:05

YANBU.Agree he should either cancel the evening or organise food and entertainment himself. Well cheeky.

June2009 · 12/12/2009 10:07

what a nightmare, can everybody bring a course, these women's husbands will also be at golf, won't they.

fairylightsgliMMErontheLINDTen · 12/12/2009 10:08

Oh, I am afraid I would be selling the golf clubs - no! Giving them away. Put them in the front garden with a sign on them "Free to good home as DH is a twat"

I would make a steak pie or lasagne and freeze it this week. Frozen veg. Apple crumble (also prepared this week and frozen) and ice cream.

For starters MmeLindt's Puff Pasty Delights (cooked and, yes you guessed it frozen)

Morloth · 12/12/2009 10:14

Ocado is your friend. I am having a party today and the Ocado man is bringing the lot in an hour or so.

IfYouCouldWouldYou · 12/12/2009 14:37

Sorry but if my dh did this i would seriously decapitate his golf clubs and shove em where the sun don't shine!!!

Not only has he made plans on your behalf to entertain people you don't even know, He plans on spending the day on the golf course leaving you to do all the work.

I would tell him to cancel, as this wasn't what you had planned for new year!!

or if you do go ahead tell him to sort out the preparations and cancel his golf

merrycompo · 12/12/2009 14:39

I would ring both the wives and just say that as you're away over xmas would they mind awfully if you ordered in a Chinese

traceybath · 12/12/2009 14:41

Take away and lots and lots of wine.

I'd normally take delight in cooking yummy food but in those circumstances I just wouldn't bother.

Missus84 · 12/12/2009 14:43

As your DH has organised this night for his friends, surely he should be doing the shopping and cooking?

Get a grip woman, you're not his housekeeper!

CirrhosisByTheSea · 12/12/2009 14:44

Why can't your husband cancel his golf and do the organising and cooking? Don't be a martyr, if you don't want to do it don't do it. Kindly and generously offer him your help if he wants some assistance in his organising and leave it at that!

GetDownYouWillFall · 12/12/2009 14:45

My DH did this. although admittedly it wasn't for new years eve.
He invited 14 people round for dinner this weekend without asking me (we only have 8 dinner plates!)

Our solution - I plan to go out!

merrycompo · 12/12/2009 14:46

do they ahve toung kids?
they probably wont be able to get a babysitter anyway

fluffles · 12/12/2009 14:56

if my dh did this we'd be having pizza, or i'd get him to make something the night before - like lasagne - which i could stick in the oven.

no way you should be cooking for his mates - his party, he cooks.

diddl · 12/12/2009 15:36

I think a buffet-and they can bring something!

AmericanHag · 12/12/2009 18:27

YANBU, of course. My husband would be walking very oddly the day after springing this kind of news on me. No golfing for a while, that's for sure.

The best answer is to make your DH cancel. He was WAAAAAAAY out of line in inviting these people (who sound horrid, btw) in the first place.

Second best answer is to leave everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, to your DH. Do NOT lift a finger for this party.

If you just absolutely can't help yourself but get involved - order take out away and let your DH clean up.

amicissima · 12/12/2009 18:32

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bran · 12/12/2009 18:33

In our house the one who does the inviting does the cooking. If you keep coping when he lands you in a pickle then he will keep landing you in a pickle. I agree with the others who have said to make it plain to him that you won't be doing the catering.

bibbitybobbitysantahat · 12/12/2009 18:43

Astounded that anyone would seriously consider accommodating this - whether by Ocado, takeaway, or frozen in advance.

This is your house and your New Years Eve. Why didn't he even ASK you if this would be ok? Seriously though - how VERY DARE HE!!??!!

Beg and plead with everyone and anyone you know to let you (solo) come and crash their New Year celebrations and leave dh to do it -once he is home from the golf course, naturally.

Glitterknickaz · 12/12/2009 18:46

I'd bend his golf bats round his frigging head!

if you are actually entertaining this madness

LetThereBeRock · 12/12/2009 18:48

I'd beat him with the nearest available heavy blunt object,preferably a golf club, ram it up his rectum then stick him under the patio.
If you're caught I'm willing to testify in court that it was justifable homicide.