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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Dh told me last night he's invited people for New Years Eve?

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deaddei · 12/12/2009 09:51

He's invited 2 couples for dinner on NYE.
Now if they were close friends I wouldn't mind, but the men he plays golf with- I don't know them or their wives. Have met them once, and that was it.
Added to the fact we are away over Xmas till late on 30th Dec, so I will have to fight the hoardes on NYE at the shops, cook the meal (I'll help said dh- er, you've booked golf all day).
I was looking forward to a nice quiet NYE, not cooking a bloody dinner party for people I don't know.

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GrendelsMum · 12/12/2009 18:52

His party, his friends, he cooks, he sorts out the dinner table, he washes up. Or he orders food in.

TheCrackFox · 12/12/2009 18:58

I'd go out somewhere fabulous and leave DH to it.

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deaddei · 12/12/2009 19:16

You are wonderful.
Have felt really crap today with migraine/earache (went back to bed at lunchtime)
I think he may be rethinking his invitation [hmmm]- I certainly am not going along with it.
I have taken your ideas on board- I like letthereberock's suggestion.
Glad it wasn't just me being antisocial!!

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DecorHate · 12/12/2009 19:19

I would suddenly remember that I had arranged to go on a girls night out that night and leave them to it... even if it meant I had to go to the cinema on my own!

SantaClausImWorthIt · 12/12/2009 19:21

Don't we have a MN NYE party organised for the same night?

Lapsedrunner · 12/12/2009 19:23

YANBU

jelliebelly · 12/12/2009 19:28

YANBU - he is way out of order doing this and suspect it was a casual on a whim kind of invite which he probably wishes he hadn't said. tell him either 1. he cancels it or 2. he organises it.

PS how do you put up with him playing so much golf???

Buddleja · 12/12/2009 20:16

Well what a fun set of couples they sound like! Oh if you cancel PLEASE can they comeover to my house - esepecially the planning to divoirce ones that don't get one

YANBU it'd be OK if your DH was around for the day to do the prep but he's not. It'd have been even better if he's thought to mention it to you before

lovechoc · 12/12/2009 20:31

Takeaway seems like the best option here since the last thing you want to be doing is cooking a huge meal - stuff that!

Could your DH not just ask you first instead of taking it upon himself to invite couples over.

ijustwanttoaskaquestion · 12/12/2009 20:35

um, well, your husband is a twat, but you shouldnt pre judge - i am on ADs, but if i came to your house for NYE you'd have a great time.

Thats not really the issue though is it, but i had to pick you up on that. I would tell him, he either cancels golf or he cancels the night - end of!!

2rebecca · 12/12/2009 22:40

His friends his problem. If my husband did this I'd find somewhere else to go for the night probably overnight and leave him to it, seriously.

Yuletidespamlog · 12/12/2009 22:46

I'd get pissed as a fart by 11am and greet them at the door in your dressing gown and rollers proclaiming how much you love them all.
Fingers crossed they might change their minds about entering your house!

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deaddei · 13/12/2009 09:05

No offence to anyone on ads- have been on them myself!
This woman has never worked (she's about 55 now)- just looked after her children. Has NOTHING in her life now they've gone away.
Well they aren't coming.

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ijustwanttoaskaquestion · 13/12/2009 09:53

so, has he uninvited them yet????

muminthemiddle · 13/12/2009 09:56

Love yuletides post!
YANBU tell him to do the cooking, very selfish he is being.

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deaddei · 13/12/2009 13:26

Not yet.
However I have told him I do not want to entertain people I don't like- if he invites them round, I will be in my PJs and slippers with no make up on (not a pretty sight)
He is now thinking of an excuse to uninvite them.

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GetDownYouWillFall · 13/12/2009 13:35

couldn't he just tell them that when he checked with you, you reminded him they already had other plans? He could always say maybe next year, when you'd all have more time to make other arrangements get used to the idea

GetDownYouWillFall · 13/12/2009 13:36

why didn't that work
hmm

purplepeony · 13/12/2009 13:47

I think I'd say- well, they can come but i won't be here.
Is communication always such an issue in your relationship?

I certainly wouldn't be press ganged into hosting a party for people I 1) didn't know and 2) who were not easy company anyway.

Sorry but i think you are MAD to even consider going along with this one. What he telle them is up to him- his problem- but I certainly wouldn't let them come.

brandybutterfly · 13/12/2009 13:56

Oh. My. God.

I would KILL him.

(Is that too strong a reaction? )

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deaddei · 13/12/2009 16:43

He has told them we have other plans and he hadn't checked with me first.
So my original plans for NYE are in place- an early bottle of wine somewhere, back to the dcs about 7.30 and a night in.

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ijustwanttoaskaquestion · 13/12/2009 18:32

Now THAT sounds like a better night all round, exactly what me and DP do!! good for you for standing your grounds, it would have been a recipe for disaster (even if the woman had been me!!)

googietheegg · 13/12/2009 18:39

I hate to sound like a Stepford Wife, but I really wouldn't mind. I'd expect help to sort out menu/shop/arrange takeaway and with getting the house ready, but it's hardly the crime of the century. I like the idea of speaking to the other women and sharing the courses, then you'll have had some contact before the party.

IfYouCouldWouldYou · 13/12/2009 19:44

Thats all well and good googie If you like that sort of thing. but The op had already had a nice relaxing evening planned, after arriving back home late on the 30th.
Not everyone would be so acommodating to thier DP/DH making plans on thier behalf without consulting them first.
I for one would not entertain any of my Dh's friends without prior agreement especially if he naffed off all day to play golf and left me to sort house/kids/party preparations whilst he was indulging in his "hobby" I Couldn't think of anything worse. If my DH thought i would bow down to his demands as soon as he opened his mouth i would be a "Stepford Wife!!" Thanks but no Thanks!!!
He needs me to bring him back down to earth every now and again

I have a similar evening planned as you Deaddai Glad it worked out ok for you

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deaddei · 13/12/2009 21:38

i shall be raising a glass or two to you all on NYE!!

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