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Original poster

to be depressed about turning 30?

37 replies

starlight99 · 10/12/2009 18:11

I'm in my last week of being a twenty-something and am having a bit of a wobble!

Is it a big deal or do I just need a slap?

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ILoveGregoryHouse · 10/12/2009 18:12

You need a slap. It's not a big deal. In fact, being 30 is fab. Congratulations.

mrsshackleton · 10/12/2009 18:13

a slap

What's the alternative?

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starlight99 · 10/12/2009 18:16

oh no that's two slaps!

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thedollshouse · 10/12/2009 18:16

I loved turning 30! You are too young for the wrinkles to have set in and yet you feel like a proper grown up. I was in my prime when I was 30.

brimfull · 10/12/2009 18:17

ffs you are very young

KurriKurri · 10/12/2009 18:18

30?????? You're a child. I turn fifty this weekend. Slap

Niecie · 10/12/2009 18:24

No big deal.

30 is still young. You don't even begin middle age these days until 50.

You aren't old until you are 70. You aren't even half way there yet!

Seriously, your 30's will be much better than your 20's I prepared to bet on that.

BexJ78 · 10/12/2009 18:25

I loved turning 30...big party and lots of presents!!!

Original poster
starlight99 · 10/12/2009 18:33

ok I'm not OLD, but still feel a bit funny about it.

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wildfig · 10/12/2009 18:36

A slap. Look, nothing's wobbling! You're still all pert and youthful.

Being in your 30s is brilliant. All the best things that have happened to me have been since I turned 30: career twists and turns, buying a house, developing my own sense of style, telling people where to get off and not feeling bad. And the older I get, the more I suspect that turning 40 will also be surprisingly invigorating too.

Spectroscopy · 10/12/2009 18:36

YABU!
Thirties are fab - I much prefer my thirties to my twenties!

nymphadora · 10/12/2009 18:43

Nothing wrong with it , but you can just do what I did and stop getting any older. I just had my 3rd 29th

midnightexpress · 10/12/2009 18:45

A slap from me too. There's nothing you can do about it, your thirties are fab and you'll feel way worse when you're 40. And 50.

LadyVolupta · 10/12/2009 18:45

hahah...Im turning 30 next jan...And I have wrinkles around my eyes which are unavoidable, a very wobbly arse,(even though im not over weight) very saggy tits...aaand my neck is forming saggy lines...Great cant wait to age!!!
AND I DONT EVEN SMOKE!!! i am looking into botox...if I look this old at thirty...then god help my mug when Im 50!!!

shoptilidrop · 10/12/2009 18:46

no, i agree, its pants. Well actually its you. You will still be you. Its just occassionally you end up thinking' god, im in my 30's, im meant to be a grown up, yuk, how depressing'.....

or, as nymph does, ( and me too) lie, be 29 forever!

Morloth · 10/12/2009 18:52

You need a slap. 30s are much better than 20s.

It has only been in the last couple of years that I feel that I have finally got "Me" sorted out.

I know what I like, what I am prepared to put up with and I know how to get things done and I am still young enough to enjoy it.

Having said that though I have many friends in their 40s who are all quite fabulous and Mum is pushing 70 and enjoying herself immensely, so I don't worry much about ageing in any case.

Personally I feel a lot more attractive now than I ever did at 21.

LadyVolupta · 10/12/2009 18:55

no it is shit coz you need to aplly more facial creams...

LadyVolupta · 10/12/2009 18:58

apply*

Morloth · 10/12/2009 18:59

That is assuming you apply facial creams at all of course.

Shivvering · 10/12/2009 19:01

I didn't like it but now I am 35 and 1 year, thinking back, being 30 is actually okay!

it's a good age. Enjoy it. You have the maturity but not the oldness and the wrinkles and laughter/frown lines.

lolapoppins · 10/12/2009 19:03

I ma turning 30 in Feb and am dreading it as well, mostly because I still feel about 12.

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starlight99 · 10/12/2009 19:05

well, looks like I'm just going to get gobbier and wobblier.
Great.

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Kisathecat · 10/12/2009 19:14

I was depressed when I turned 30 cos I felt like I had to grow up and couldn't carry on getting away with it I just didn't want my 20's to be over. But 7 years later I can honestly say I'm actually happier and more secure in my own skin even though the wrinkles and flabby bits don't look so nice. You realise how you didn't appreciate your youthful good looks and it makes you more thankful for what you've got now.
So I say embrace it, you've got a lot to look forward to!!

Shivvering · 10/12/2009 19:16

Oh I still feel act about 19! It's fine. Well, sometimes.

BalloonSlayer · 10/12/2009 19:26

Aw I felt low when I turned 30, but wish now I had appreciated it. It's not nice these days when I look in the mirror and see my own mother looking back at me

OK, right, this is what you do:

  • Find a picture of yourself at 20.

  • Look at it hard. You'll think: d'you know I was always worried about x / y / z and actually I was bloody gorgeous.

  • That's what you'll think when you are 40 and you look back at a photo of you at 30.

On the plus side all these slaps must have given you a rosy glow.