to think this chap's partner needs to grow a bit of a backbone?

[OrmIrian]

Ops manager at work. Well-paid, responsible position. Has 3 youngish children and partner who is SAHP. But everytime she gets a cold or a headache, or has to deal with any kind of crisis no matter how tiny, he runs off home to sort it out for her.

Today she called him at just after 2pm because the car didn't start at school. They live 30 miles from work. She didn't want to call the RAC so he left work to go and sort it out. He didn't come back that day.

So everyone who works with him was left in the lurch, having to cover his responsibilties. AIBU to think that that sort of feebleness gives women a bad name, and that if you are being paid to do a job of work you shouldn't bugger off to rescue a perfectly capable adult from situations that any perfectly capable adult should be able to deal with? She needs to get a backbone, and so does he!

And I don't think I was really slagging her off.

I do hope that it does not affect your working flexibility. If management say anything about it changing, then point out that you have never taken the piss and to stay in the job you need it.

You so were slagging her off! 'grow a back bone'!!

Oh OK.... I was bit then.

I'm unsure whether YABU to think his response to his wife's requests are wrong. I worked with someone who would often just come to work and organise her wedding for most of the day and would leave early if she could but I liked her and in the end it was thought of as quite comical by me and her colleagues. It was a very demanding job but she had different prioirities and we had to accept that.

YABU to add that this kind of behaviour gives women a bad name - as if the whole of the female race are some kind of group whose actions are judged and are consequently rewarded respect but do not have the right to respect from the outset! Are you a man?

I would suggest that men ring up their partners at work with pathetic requests and display their inadequacies as human beings or rather people ring each other up at work - men and women alike and demonstrate their weaknesses. Isn't this woman just reinforcing the fact that people are not perfect?