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AIBU?

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Original poster

to use DH's card to buy myself a pizza without telling him.

39 replies

JackTheHallsWithBauersOfHolly · 09/12/2009 18:16

So as not to AIBU by stealth here is my situation.

Today is DH's 32nd birthday. Unwritten rule is that on his birthday he can do whatever he wants to do. WHich today has involved going out for a ride this morning with his mate (who is 30 soemthing today as well) and then go into town and get paralytic.
We agreed to get take out tonight so I didn't eat with the girls earlier.

He called me at 5 to ask me to pick him up half an hour later.
I got there at half 5 to be told he would be 10 more minutes. DD's in back of car. I told him to get stuffed and went to drive home but DD's started crying and wailing so I did a big loop and went back to the pub.

He was outside, completely ignorant of the fact that I had told him to get stuffed and proceeded to get in the car with a goofy smile and comdey drunkard hiccups.

Got home to DD1 trying to show him his cake (that she made all by herself) but he could barely walk.
He ahs just thrown up (out of the back door, thank god) and I have put him to bed.
I helped him remove his jacket, boots and jeans and in doing so have nicked found his wallet, ten quid in change and his fags.

My choices are

To make a jacket potato or soemthing and sit quietly in front of the telly on my own all night.
To use the cash to order a small chinese, but have to pay delivery as it will be a low value order.
Or use the card to buy a pizza. For me. Not for him. And leave the box out for him to see tomorrow when he wakes up looking like something shat in his mouth and then died.

So AIBU?

OP posts:
bogie · 09/12/2009 18:18

YANBU buy pizza and then go shopping on amazon

Bleatblurt · 09/12/2009 18:19

YANBU. Feel free to order ME a pizza too.

YanknChristmasCrackers · 09/12/2009 18:21

YANBU. Enjoy your pizza.

bratnav · 09/12/2009 18:24

YANBU unless that would be your food budget shot for the rest of the month Go for it, I will enjoy the thought of yummy pizza that I don't get anymore as DH is wheat intolerant

SuWoombOfImmaculateConception · 09/12/2009 18:27

Personally I would use the tenner for the chinese as he won't remember he had it , then use his card on Amazon.

MissAnneElk · 09/12/2009 18:28

YANBU - If he ever does query it just tell him he asked you to order pizza for both of you but he passed out before it arrived - enjoy.

TeaOneSugar · 09/12/2009 18:30

Don't forget the garlic bread.

5inthesleighbed · 09/12/2009 18:32

Pocket the money and get a pizza

FabIsVeryFestive · 09/12/2009 18:33

Slightly OTT reaction to him being 10 more minutes and who would pay for the pizza normally?

VinegarTinselTits · 09/12/2009 18:37

YANBU get the pizza, shame they dont deliver wine too eh?

Leeka · 09/12/2009 18:37

Weird of you to tell him to get stuffed on his birthday, just for wanting 10 more minutes in the pub.

Do you share money or is it 'his' money?

But if you want pizza, go for it!

FabIsVeryFestive · 09/12/2009 18:40

When I was a live in nanny and baby sitting I was once so desperate for chips I booked a taxi to go to the chippie to get me some.

Original poster
JackTheHallsWithBauersOfHolly · 09/12/2009 18:41

It wasn't the 10 more minutes, it was the fact that he told me a time(he could have stayed out as long as he liked), I was there at that time, with DD's in the back of the car, on double yellows, and he asked me to just wait there for 10 minutes. That's not on.

He would have bought the food and it won't bugger up the food budget as I pay for food anyway, all bills paid this month. I am SAHM so he pays all bills and gives me money when I need it for food/clothes for girls etc.

Damn, that's true about the wine, I don't have any! Bollocks!

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galletti · 09/12/2009 18:41

Fab - It is probably more due to the fact that they had a birthday evening planned with take away to be enjoyed by both of them together, and a family evening with dd showing cake and being thanked for it, and now he is incapable of any of that, rather than the 10 minutes late thing. That would be my reaction anyway.

Jack the Halls - Enjoy the Pizza!

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JackTheHallsWithBauersOfHolly · 09/12/2009 18:43

Oh, I will also be pocketing the change and insisting his pockets were empty when I checked them after I emptied them

I can't go out as both DD's are in bed and he is spreadeagled across ours in no fit state to be in charge of minors.

Oh bugger, I'm going to have to sleep in the spare room as well.

anyone else want a pizza?

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JackTheHallsWithBauersOfHolly · 09/12/2009 18:47

Sorry, I did word that wrong re the 10 mins, does look a bit harsh!
Convo -
Jack - Hiya, we are outside on double yellows so don't be long.
DH - Yeah, I'll be 10 minutes, okay?
Jack - But I'm on double yellows on a busy street, I can't wait for 10 minutes, come on, hurry up
DH - God, it's only 10 minutes
Jack (stressing as traffic is building) - Are you winding me up? You said half 5!
DH - No, I just want to finish this drink.
JAck - Fine, get a cab then, I'm taking girls home

Click.

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IMoveTheStarsForNoOne · 09/12/2009 18:48

Order the pizza, eat all but one slice and leave it in the fridge for him - being so nice to one so hungover really adds to the guilt

FabIsVeryFestive · 09/12/2009 18:51

I am liking your style IMoveTheStars

IMoveTheStarsForNoOne · 09/12/2009 18:54

Thanks Fab

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JackTheHallsWithBauersOfHolly · 09/12/2009 18:56

I don't know his banking card security password.

I can't have a pizza.

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Original poster
JackTheHallsWithBauersOfHolly · 09/12/2009 18:58

So, do I use my card when I only have petrol money left to get us to see my family this weekend and insist he buys the fuel instead?

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bratnav · 09/12/2009 19:00

It will be the same as the password on his bank account, probably one of the DCs names?

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JackTheHallsWithBauersOfHolly · 09/12/2009 19:02

No, we use super duper passwords with random letter punctuation and stuff, comes from working for the government! I do know his 'basic' password (which is bloody complicated) but it isn't that.

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FabIsVeryFestive · 09/12/2009 19:02

Are you paying on line?

Lotkinsgonecurly · 09/12/2009 19:04

Wake him up, he'll never remember!