AIBU to be intolerant of food intolerances?

[MrsJeff]

Well, not really the intolerances themselves, just people who BANG ON ABOUT THEM ALL THE TIME. A girl I work closely with has a number of intolerances - fine, nightmare, must be difficult, and I sympathise, but I truly don't need to hear about them every day. Nor a blow by blow list of what the canteen is serving and whether she can or can't have it. Or to cover for her when she's off sick having eaten a truck load of "bad things" the day before and made herself ill.

Please let me know - AIBU???!

spicemonster - it is perfectly possible that your friend can tolerate cheese, but not milk.

My ds has a dairy intolerence (properly diagnosed and overseen by the paed dietician) and we are working up the scale of reintroduction of dairy.

You start with foods containing small amounts of dairy (eg bread, biscuits) then move to cooked milk (sauces, rice pudding etc), then to cheese, then yogurt, then milk.

We are at cheese with ds at the moment, which he can tolerate fine, but even a small drink of milk will give him cramps and the runs.

So does he get a as well then?

I'm intolerant to onions (unless cooked to death) including onion powder and a few other foods.

Drives me insane, people invite you around for a meal and you have the embarrassment of explaining to them what you can and can't eat!!!! I get absolute cravings for quavers and frazzles crisps but really suffer if I eat even a few.

OP I think YANBU but like you said she's just a bore about them......

YANBU.

I am anaphylactic to peanuts, sesame seeds, eggs and I have ended up in hospital from dogs and cat hair.

So yes, sometimes it pisses me off when I hear my cousin say that she is 'allergic' to 'the Chardonnay grape' as it has the potential to make people think that my allergies (for which I carry an Epipen) are a bit wank too.

mawbroon - sorry about your DS but this is not the same scenario at all. my friend has never been properly diagnosed. She just decided she was intolerant one day. And she eats huge amounts of cheese, and cream and icecream. But I don't understand how you can have a dairy intolerance and be able to eat all forms of dairy except for milk. Is there some reason?

hmmm, YABU in response to the thread title, but I am really sick of hearing teeny tiny people whinge about not being able to eat stuff. A friend constantly refers to how wheat makes her dd and her very bloated and I think 'get it checked' or eat sandwiches, just less of them. In fact, last night I saw the GP again to get ds' dairy intolerance confirmed again, as I don't want to be one of those precious 'can't have this' types. I'd rather someone said they were on a diet, a bit fussy, wanted to be special tbh.

What's the problem with people with food intolerances? DS is in and out of Children's Hospital with his.

I think its more about adults who witter on about 'intolerances' that are not real rather than genuine cases ILOVE.

I personally cant stand women who go on about their periods as if they are the only thing that happens in their lives. Or as if no one else get them.

Why do they think we want to know ?

spicemonster - the proteins change and become more tolerable (this obv varies from person to person depending on the severity of their intolerence) in the different forms as opposed to the unaltered protein in milk.

Obviously I don't know the finer details about your friend, but what she is claiming is not impossible.

I think even if you have a genuine food intolerance or allergy or life threatening illness it is extremely dull for all concerned, especially mere work colleagues (mums and best friends might take more interest), to talk about it all the time so therefore, op, yanbu.

Being diagnosed isn't that easy though. Since I had my last baby, I've had some mystery issues and a stack of blood tests. It's difficult to figure out what is causing the problem so trying to reduce sugar/fat/wheat are all viable. The doctors have just given me ideas of lifestyle changes to try and diet changes to try - no real diagnosis. (and I've seen a GI specialist)

And the situation can change. My issues only came about after I had my last baby.

Seriously, those of you who don't have these issues should be a little more reasonable. It is awful and makes life hell if you really struggle with eating certain things or suffer nasty effects. I've had a few serious allergies all my life and a few people have been really nasty about them when we go out to eat, even though I don't make a big deal about it (although I might ask a waiter if a certain ingredient can be left out of something if it seems likely it can!)

Carmen > it's true, my dad took ages to get diagnosed, despite a family history of coeliacs (I believe they've improved in diagnosing it in the last 10 years though).

People with serious allergies though, as you've said for yourself, usually don't feel the need to talk about them 24/7. My dad tries to avoid bringing his into conversation, unless he has to. It's a very odd conversation topic, to tell someone about everything you can or can't eat, unless they are offering you food.

Wittering intolerants who aren't really intolerant annoy me.

People who genuinely are I understand because it must be a bit like life is for me only less bad if they do accidentally eat it. And it's true, food is so bound up with everything that it's difficult to avoid the subject. I hate having to give exhaustive lists every time I go anywhere for dinner. Worse is realising there's potato starch in a sauce when the first fork/spoonful touches my lip and then having my lip blow up hugely and a very embarassed hostess.

I realise it must be boring to hear though. On the flip side I cope with my allergies so discreetly now that people often stare at me and go 'but you can't be that allergic, I've never heard you say that before/seen you react'. Well, no, because I don't bang on about it and I don't eat what I can't. In fact unless I cooked it I probably won't be eating it!

I think yabu. I don't think you are bu to not be interested in boring people, but that is not what your op asked really.

I tell people about dd's problems, because I get the face when I say she can't have something. Like when people offer her a biscuit.

It makes me feel like shit. Having to say no, and having to bore people with the explanation, and having to worry if they are then a) informed but bored, or b) like 'yeah, whatever, daft hippie mum - poor kid'.

Especially with family.

It's comlicated, and it's really quite upsetting. It's going to get a whole lot worse when she is aware that she can't have stuff [which is looking likely, no sign of growing out of diddly squat]. And after threads like this it all feels a little bit worse tbh.

Although I totally get it about droning bores

can we have gluten free biscuit emoticon?

Bollocks to you Daisy we need a dairy free one

dairy, egg, gluten, taste free?

sorry for being flippant, but I also have coealiac disease and hate the fact that it gets lumped as a faddy thing, when as little as 50 years ago children were still dying of coeliac induced malnutrition.

So, although I have sympathy with you for having to put up with a food bore; I get pissed off about threads like this that have people coming out complaining about people with food "intolerances". And like your colleague I probably get annoyed that I can't eat things that in all seriousness can be made without the addition of gluten without affecting their taste etc but aren't; like supposed 100% beef burgers that contain rusk, stock that contains flour, yadayadayada. And because it isn't always obvious, you have to ask EVERY time you come up against things like this.

OK, so my coeliac disease isn't immediately life threatening like a proper anyphylactic allergy is, but it has major health implications and can cause a number of life threatening conditions like colon cancer, if not controlled properly. AND affects my life insurance as a result.

Mind you, the silly cow shouldn't eat things that she shouldn't have and expect people to carry the load; that would piss me off.

coeliac can affect life insurance??!! Wasn't told THAT when my 7yo DS was dxd. AND OP, YABU to be intolerant of any food intolerances, my 7yo suffered internal bleeding because his coeliac was undiagnosed for so long. Thankfully he is fine now, but when well meaning TA's say, go on you can have a biscuit, you'll be ok.....However YANBU if it's all she talks about, and if she eats something knowing the effects when my 7 yo knows better, then YA definately NBU. And I can't eat kidney beans, drink red wine, or tea as I go into anyphylactic shock, I'm severely allergic to the tannin (odd allergy, I know), even one sip of red wine could kill me. (I always knew drinking was bad for my health). My 7 yo DS DOES go on about what he can and can't have quite frequently, which can be a PITA for those who have to listen, but he is still learning how to manage his condition, and has to get people around him to realise how painful the consequences are of them getting it wrong.

Oh god - YANBU.

Irritating, irritating, irritating. The same with people who have IBS they blame everything on it.

SIL morning after a vindaloo: Ooh my IBS is playing me up again

No...you just have the shits.

YABU to be intolerant of GENUINE food intolerances, totally reasonable when people say "can't have" when what they really mean is "don't like".

YANBU
does my head in too, we had a nut allergy girl here and she bloody banged on about it no end, and took many suspicious sickies due to nut traces ..yeh yeh

Anyone who bangs on and on and on about their problems is going to come across as a self-obsessed bore. This is nothing to do with not having sympathy with people's intolerances. It's the same whatever the problem is: marital problems, TTC, alllergies whatever. It is reasonable to expect other people to lend the occasional sympathetic ear, to make your life easier and to help in a crisis- not to bore them year out and year in with blow by blow accounts.