To wish family would stop asking me what ds wants for christmas?

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Argggghhh

Why cant people just sort themselves out?

My mum started asking what she could get ds for xmas back in August... How am I supposed to know?? Eventually suggested some stuff - quite big stuff (she usually spends £100+) on him, she said that was fine, and would rather get him one or two decent things then a load of bits. Fine. Great. We then worked out what we would get him, and some ideas for other people. She then deciedes that she will get him a small item from the stuff I mentioned, and then will get some surprises from him, and also take him to Toys r Us to see what he likes. (he's 2.5) - cue a pile of not so little, little bits - board games etc. ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHH

SIL, asks what she and MIL can get him, I send her an email with links to a few different things - tell her he would like any of them, tell her that the stuff is actually half price in ELC just now, and the other stuff is in stock in her local Argos. Cool. Sorted. This was back in Novemeber. She rings last night to say she is going shopping tomorrow, what would he like for xmas - I tell her that I sent her an email a while back, "oh yes I got that".

Only thing is now, the stuff is now back to full price in the ELC, and out of stock in argos, so I spend half the night finding discount codes and sourcing the out of stock product on Amazon.

I know I'm probably getting too stressed about this than needs be, but honestly, either dont ask, just buy him something - he's 2, he'll play with anything. Or if you ask for advice, listen to it, and get your arse into gear so that I dont end up doing half your shopping too.

AIBU?

yes, it is good that they care and want to buy presents and of course there are more importnat things to worry aobout but I do sympathise with the OP.

I have this from MIL who asks early what she can get. We say - please don't get much, so she says of course. We tell her one thing, where to get it etc etc and then she asks for little things to buy which is more than capable of finding herself. I then give her a list of ideas and she buys the lot and then says I must give BIL/others ideas.

Then it starts again with her asking what DH wants down to the littlest thing.

Yes, its generous and fundamentally kind and well meant (stems from the fact she doesn't want to get it wrong) but kind of takes some of the fun out of it for all of use.

Contrary to this my bro (currently childless) will go and look for clothes or something for my 2 dd's and its so nice he thinks of things and buys them.

Another Amazon user here. We keep wishlists updated, when a gift giving occasion arises and someone asks what we would like I email the list, they buy something and have it delivered all wrapped and giftcarded. Everyone in my family/circle does it. Much easier for me when buying for them as well. It really is ideal.

Except for when my SIL goes mad periodically and buys out DS's wishlist and he gets a bunch of presents for no other reason than "She was bored and online and felt like it" .

LOL at this! My family started getting given lists after the christmas when I was 9 and got given 15 (seriously) sets of spirograph...I couldn't even do the bloody thing! Ever since then, I get told in October that Great grandad will spend £xx on the kids, Great Nana will spend £xx, Mum and Dad will spend £xx, DB will spend £xx and G.G.U.B (DON'T ask our family all had kids young, he was a great great uncle by 51...), Give me a list by the Start of December (we also have a late Nov birthday). Saves the DC's getting 500 sets of something they don't want. I had soooo many sets of spirograph that year that even the charity shop lady looked stunned!