to think this is the worst excuse ever

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me - full of horrid stinky cold, very stressed, just moved house and generlaly feeling crap.
Had a yucky day with DS yesterday cos darling DS got up at 4am and by 3pm was in hyperdrive of whinge, cry and moan.

Today, trying to fight my way through packing boxes to sort out the house, get through the weekends washing (which currently invovles picking my way, in the driving hail, across the 5ft hole in the patio to the garage where the washing machine is)

Got upstairs and temporary clothes rail ollapsed, so I sat down and bawled.

DH sent DS (4) over to give me a hug, so poor DS (who had actually been a sweetie today) though he had done something wrong and kept apologising.
Dh din't ask me anything or come over at all.
When I managed to stop I said the DH - I would have liked a hug from you.
his 'reason' for not giving me a hug?

It was too difficult because you were sat on the floor

1hr later, on going out to the shop - DH says "what do you need"
I said "milk and fruit"
his response "oh next i'd get it all in the big order from asda, that would just be sensible. Why didn't you get a big order?"
I say - through gritted teeth "I did get a big order on tuesday, but I've had a cold and we got through the order quickly,"
"oh well why didn't you order more"
"because I can't always order enough fresh stuff to last me the whole 2 weeks in between our big asda orders, and as I said I've had a cold so we ran out of fruit more quickly than we usually do"
"oh well, next time you should get more"

2 hrs alter
DH "which soup do you want for lunch"
this is asked while I am still getting my coat and scarf off
me: "I dont' knwo just yet, hang on a tick"
DH: "well if you did know, what woudl it be"
me: "I don't know right now, give me a second"
DH: "well we have X, do you want X"
Me: - walk off ito bahtoom to prevent myself from throwing soup at his head
come out, look at soup, decide to have soup A
DH: "and how did you decide to have A, when five minutes ago you didn't know, what process did you go through to arrive at that decision"
me: "i'm going to bloody throttle you"
DH: "oh thats right everyone have a go at me"

am I at all unreasonable for being ever so slightly pissed off with him for the rest of the day?

Your DH would seriously piss me off, cold or not.

YANBU. Sounds like he was being a bit of a tit.

Jeez, I'd have swung for him.

Oh my god! YANBU. I want to throw something at him.

Your DH, for example, is a twat.

no soup shaped dint unfortunatly, just DH stomping off to work muttering about how he doesn't get any sex anymore - hmmm........ you know I think there might be a frigging reason for that you great big tit.

Are you me? Sounds like a perfectly normal Sunday in this house.

does sound like a twat........however I'm going to be slightly kind to him and say that if you've just moved house maybe he's stressed out as well

Oh, so thats his reason. Poor lamb. That makes it all ok then for him to behave like a tit. NOT!

Get a grip

hmmm nice mamalino

mamalino??

in what way get a grip?

I think you are being a bit over sensitive tbh, Prob cos of all going on. He doesn't sound like a bad guy. He was just trying to get an answer and you were irritable, things got al LITTLE bit headed. Doesn'd sound like a big deal to be honest. getting your DS to give you a hug was sweet I think.

**heated

I think YABU to call him a tit just for this. I think you were in the wrong as well.

I didn't call him a tit except on here

where do I sound irritating? and thats an honest question cos DH says its all my fault.

Yes I know. I am saying you are being unreasonable now.

You have had a rough couple of days. He isn't meant to be able to read your mind though. When you need a hug, turn to him and say, can I have a hug please? If you cant think straight about soup say ' I cant think straight honey, you pick , I'll be happy with whatever.' When he says we have X you say 'perfect'

As for the sex comment. I would actually talk about that. You seem to not think it a big deal and are not posting about that but he sees it as a big enough deal to whine about so I would want to talk abou tit personally.

Hope you feel better btw.

Irritating in the sense that you aren't respondind when he is asking a fair question and expecting him to know to hug you. That what you getting at shiney??

haha poor OP

she posts in AIBU - and gets told yes

bet if she'd posted in relationship she'd be told no he's a twat leave him (or words to that effect)

YANBU

He could've given you a hug. And made you some soup without the drama.

Hope you settle in well.

You have had a rough couple of days. He isn't meant to be able to read your mind though. When you need a hug, turn to him and say, can I have a hug please?

I know - he says this all the time. I guess i an't get my head around how you can see someone crying and NOT give them a hug - especially someone who has told you before that when they cry they need a hug

If you cant think straight about soup say ' I cant think straight honey, you pick , I'll be happy with whatever.' When he says we have X you say 'perfect'
thing was we had two cans and he was asking me to choose which one I wanted. given that he was heating both up anyway I really didn't see why he needed a decision right that moment before I even had my coat off.

as for the sex - sorry I never feel sexy with a streaming cold.

but yeah, I know I was shirty and snappy as well. Sometimes though he just won't bloody STOP! it feels like whatever I say he will go on and on about it - I blame the bloody counselling course they sent him on at work... its all "are you sure about that" "how do you feel about that" ..... "and if you did know what to do"
thats probably why I got so snarky, I'm pretty sick of being used as a testbed for his new counselling jargon.

Ah well, lemsip in hand I'm off to bed. god I hope we get things unpacked soon!