To want my DH to come home from his walking weekend

[rookiemater]

Dh is at lads walking weekend about 2.5 hours away. We have DS aged 3.5. I have Endometrioisis ( had suregery last year but they missed a cyst) and my periods are horrendous. It started last night and I hardly got any sleep plus I'm retching up my tablets as I can't keep any food down.

I had broached with DH before he went about being worried how i would cope, but he said that last months wasn't as bad ( it was) and I would be ok.

Wel I'm not I feel shaky and hot and in pain and I don't know how I will be able to look after DS all weekend on my own.

I'm no tthe type that would ever stop DH doing anything and I know he looks forward to his walking weekend. But the reason I'm in this pain is because we are TTC and he is keener than I am because I'm just fed up with the pain.

My mum is away this weekend so I can't ask her to help, I have some friends that I may be able to drop DS with for an hour or so, but I hat ehaving to explain why.

Should I ask DH to come home ?

Thanks Alibabaa, in a way I'm glad I posted on AIBU. DH has just phoned and they aren't doing their walk until the afternoon so he is happy enough to come home.

I find it hard to understand why DH went in the first place or at least agreed to come back if I was in pain rather than me having to ask, much in the same way I find it hard to watch him rationalise my pain because he is so keen to have another DC, so in a way it is useful to try to understand the other side of this.

rookie - I haven't read the whole thread, so you may be sorted out, but would you like me to look after your DS tomorrow? (You do live in E don't you?). We're not weirdos, I promise My DS is 3.5 as well, and they could play together. I'd be very happy to help...I know how utterly debilitating extreme period pain can be.

Oh and FWIW, I think it would be entirely reasonab;e to get your dh back asap!

Oh..just read the rest of the thread...glad he's coming back!

If you're ever in this predicament again, you know where to find me

Glad he's coming home Rookie

Thanks spawn, thats a lovely offer, should I know you by a different name ?

I'm expecting DH back around lunch time so we'll be fine. We are in E though so if you would like to meet up DS always enjoys playing with new friends.

Are you sure you'll be ok until lunchtime? I won't have the car in the morning as DH has to run some errands, but we're at the Sciennes end of the Meadows and I'd be happy to come and pick up your DS if we're within walking distance.

Don't hold back if you think it might help!

I'm also MadamAnt (and a few other names) but I've been posting less frequently over the past year or two.

Argh, Rookie I wish I'd seen this inthe morning, I'd have happlily taken ds off your hands for a bit. I hope you're feeling better & sorry you've had some rotten replies on the thread. I can't imagine someone posting that they were in pain from, for example cancer getting the same response...severe pain is severe pain whatever that cause. Grr.

I have endo. If you broke your arm suddenly he would come back yes? Its the same. But I would organise back up in future because it isn't a condition that just goes away unfortunately. i really hope you are ok and have sorted it out. my thoughts are with you

DH is back now and said he has been doing a lot of thinking and has said he is ok with me going on the pill which will hopefully (fingers crossed) halt the growth of the endo and let me be pain free again as he feels bad that I'm in such pain and its impacting on my life so much. I'm delighted, although tinged with regret that it closes a chapter on having a second DC.

Now that I'm feeling more or less ok I just wanted to say a couple of things that I didn't feel able to yesterday.

I have a reasonably high pain threshold, when the consultant talked to us after the op he said that I was one of the worst cases he had seen and he was amazed that I had been able to function for so long, so its not just me being a bit feeble minded about some slight cramping.

I do have a reasonable network of friends and family but I work 4 days a week and DS goes to a CM so I don't know too many parents that have DCs the same age and also as I'm out working I tend to want to spend the time I have with DS without trying to organise too many play dates and meet ups. Therefore perhaps I can't call on as many people as I should and I find it very hard to ask people for favours particularly when it involves talking in real life about a somewhat embarassing illness, thank you so much for the post by the way liath and spawnchorus.

Thanks for all those who posted supportively, and for the rest, well I guess I shouldn't post in AIBU if I'm not ready for the heat.

I'm glad to hear he came home and has discussed things with you

rookie - the offer stands for whenever you might need it!