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To dislike Facebook and feel its

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starstripe · 03/12/2009 17:37

a invasion of my privacy when you hear that your children are posted on it,I had to ask friends to remove pictures of my private life and pictures of my children from it, if I want everyone to know what im up to I will go on it but I dont, therefore dont post my children on it thank you.
Sorry but I have heard nothing good come from this and I wander how others feel.

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alexw · 03/12/2009 17:39

Can't stand it myself. You are NBU.

belgo · 03/12/2009 17:39

I can't stand facebook either. I just pretend it doesn't exist therefore I don't get annoyed by it.

LisaD1 · 03/12/2009 17:39

I'm not on Facebook (partly because the entire rest of my family are and I'd rather communicate with my parents via the phone/in person than via the web!), I don't get the big attraction really but then maybe I'm an old dinosaur!

RockBird · 03/12/2009 17:40

"Sorry but I have heard nothing good come from this"

Like what? I use it a lot, have the highest privacy settings and have had no problems. It's really good for sharing photos with distant family and I don't mind DD's photo being up there, why would I?

Morloth · 03/12/2009 17:48

Lots of good coming from Facebook here. I have friends and family scattered around the world, it is excellent to be able to keep up with everyone, see all the photos, find out which groups have been up to what.

TheCrackFox · 03/12/2009 17:49

I can't be arsed with Facebook.

BlingLoving · 03/12/2009 17:53

YABU.

We all need to realise that this is a different world now and that things being on the internet is standard. I read somewhere a while back that while someone applying for a senior position today might be concerned about what's available about him/her on the internet before getting the job (drunken pictures with joints in hand, dodgy comments etc), our children won't bat an eyelid and it will be entirely normal to go into an interview knowing that your whole life will be on display.

Also, what's wrong with a few pictures of your children on the internet? It's not really any different to the "good old days" when you'd send prints of your kids to everyone and they'd show all and sundry the full selection of baby pics whenever they want? Sure, some discretion is nice - but that's not a facebook problem but the fact that some people use it inappropriately.

TheCrackFox · 03/12/2009 17:59

I predict that nobody will use Facebook in 10yrs time - they will have all moved on to the next Fad. A bit like Friends Reunited.

Eeek · 03/12/2009 18:10

I was told today that its "SO over" by my young colleague

diddl · 03/12/2009 18:11

Each to their own I suppose.

I´m so old fashioned that I wrote someone a letter recently!

I generally stick to email& send pics via that.

Good enough for me!

TheCrackFox · 03/12/2009 18:13

But it is so much nicer to get a proper letter - who could be arsed doing that with their 300 Facebook "friends"?

SerendipitousHarlot · 03/12/2009 18:13

I LOVE Facebook. I'm very good with my privacy settings, and it's a great way of staying in touch with people

BlingLoving · 03/12/2009 18:14

Surely you can see though that Email is also new and exciting? We all consider it so normal but it was only 15 years ago that it was still pretty exciting to have it.

herladyshiplovesedward · 03/12/2009 18:17

facebook is the easiest & cheapest way to share pics and chat with my sister (in oz) and her kids (at uk university's) so i love it

but if you don't like it and don't want to go on there/have your kids pics on there i think other people should respect that

BendyBob · 03/12/2009 18:21

Lol Eeek 'I was told today that its "SO over" by my young colleague'

Hooray! At last.. a window of opportunity for me to be cool.

Young people think it's 'so over' and I never did it anyway (mainly cos I couldn't be arsed with it and am too old understand it)

So now if anyone wants to know why I'm not on facebook I don't have to admit all that. I can just look disdainfully at them and say I thought it was all over

RockBird · 03/12/2009 18:23

Ah but if you email people it's so 'here you go, I am forcing you to look at 200 pictures of DD eating pureed carrot'. On FB they can ignore you.

cumbria81 · 03/12/2009 18:25

I couldn't be arsed with facebook either until I became a member in order to join a group that I am part of in real life (if that makes sense).

I have to say I have been convinced.

I only have a few friends but it's a really good way of sharing pics and sending messages when you don't have time to email.

I have also got back in touch with people I was at university with and met up with them - I would never had a way of finding them without facebook.

You donm;t have to be on every five minutes doing stupid status updates if you don't want, you can use it as it suits you.

Sassybeast · 03/12/2009 18:26

I like Facebook and enjoy being able to use it to share pictures of 'my' children with the friends and family scattered around the world that 'I' choose to share them with.

But my privacy settings are such that only the people that I want to see the photos see them and I would never ever dream of posting pictures of someone elses child on there - that includes pics taken at school events etc. Especially since an alarming number of people don't have their privacy settings applied.

diddl · 03/12/2009 18:28

Rockbird

If that was to me, I don´t email just to show pics, but might include a pic with a "letter" iyswim.

SantasKinkyKnickers0nMaHead · 03/12/2009 18:30

I don't get the 'I dont want anyone to see pictures of my children, ever'

What do you think they will do with them????

Longtalljosie · 03/12/2009 18:31

Young people don't really use Facebook, do they? Aren't they all on Bebo?

MrsGuyOfChristmasBorn · 03/12/2009 18:34

YANBU.
A friend as very upset recently when she logged in, to get a message from a man she had never heard of telling her that her husband was havng an affair with his wife. Obviously he could have tracked her down in RL, but much easier via a screen late one whisky-fuelled evening.
Friend was devastated, then discovered he had sent this same message to several other wives of people his wife knew...

Morloth · 03/12/2009 18:34

All my nieces are on there Longtalljosie with an average age of 19ish.

RockBird · 03/12/2009 18:35

It was diddl but I forgot the so not as stroppy as it sounded!

diddl · 03/12/2009 18:52

I do only send a pic when asked!