to feel a twinge of jealousy about people who have a DS and a DD?

[Ceebee74]

It is funny as I have 2 DS's and that is exactly what me and DH both wanted. We are both agreed that our family is now complete and I really don't have a mad desire for a DD.

But when I hear of friends/acquaintances having one of each, I do feel a little bit but can't explain why. Is it because this mix of DC is always viewed as ideal/perfect?

My friend is one of three children - she has a brother and a sister and she gets on better with her brother. So it doesn't always follow that sisters get on better.

I have 2 DC's a boy and girl and they seem to get on at the moment, (as long as my 3 year old DS does as his older sister tells him to ).

I only ever had a brother and though we spent our childhood/teenager years hating each other we get in fine now, (most of the time).

After I had my DS I remember people saying to me "You are so lucky to have one of each, now you have your pigeon pair." I hated that.

I am pregnant with number 4 - I have DS1, DD, DS2, and I've lost count of the number of people who have said that I "must be longing for a girl to complete the set" during this pregnancy. I also had LOADS of comments about my 'pigeon pair' after DD was born which I also hated - it's not as though I had any control over it - and what would they have said if it had been another boy?!

I don't feel 'lucky' to have a DD and my DSs - I just feel incredibly blessed to have 3 happy and healthy CHILDREN, and whatever this child is, it will be loved and cherished just the same. I have so many friends who are struggling, or who have struggled to conceive, that any child is a blessing in my book.

The saddest thing I ever heard, was on the post natal ward after I'd had DD, and the woman in the bed next to me had her 3 DDs on her bed waiting to be introduced to their new baby (sister)- the phone rang and the mother said "oh my god Mum, I've had another bloody girl - I SO wanted a boy". I felt SO sorry for those poor, gorgeous girls sitting around their mother.

My childminder called me a "lucky bitch" when I went to pick DS up with my new DD - she had three boys and had desperately wanted a girl. Nice!

Perhaps whatever one has, the grass is always greener!

I have a DD and when (if) I have another I genuinely wouldn't care which sex, however if DD had been a DS I'm not sure I would have felt so ambivalent.

I really wanted a girl and got my wish first time around. After having her and having a sister myself, I really wanted another girl second time and got DS. I love him to pieces and am now really glad that I have one of each.

I am never smug about having one of each and don't see it as the perfect family. Its just my family. I do think it is just as bad to say "it's great to have 2 of the same sex isn't it? They just wouldn't have the same chance to be best friends otherwise", potpourri.

The one good thing about having one of each is that if I decide to have another, no-one will be able to say that it is because I am trying for the opposite sex.

I have 2 DS's and quite a number of people have asked me if we plan to try for a girl, including a midwife and a health visitor who visited after ds2!!

I wouldn't have minded what we had either time but i always say emphatically, "oh, i oukdn't know what to do with a girl, i'm so
pleased i've got boys!!" to shut people up!!