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Original poster

to get the hump with the creche taking DD's teething beads off??

87 replies

RGPargy · 29/11/2009 22:27

DD is almost 2 years old.

I'm not sure whether or not i should be peed off! I took DD to the creche at the gym today. I dont normally take her on a Sunday but she goes there regularly once or twice a week and DP was working so i didn't have much choice. Anyway, when i signed her in, the lad and girl that were on reception are normally there during the week so i knew who they were etc. But when i picked her up, there was this woman in there who i haven't seen before who said to me "Oh we took her necklace off because it's quite close - just while she's playing......" I pointed out to the woman that it was an amber teething necklace and that DD wears it 24/7 so is used to wearing it. I then made sure i put it straight back on her while i was there, in front of the woman. She then went on to tell me how good she is with her speech and how well she knows her colours and shapes etc etc (like i didn't know that!!). But anyway, the more i thought about it, the more peed off i was at her taking her necklace off. AIBU to get the hump about it or am i just being sensitive about it??

It's the first time i've EVER had anyone say anything about it, to the extent where they have actually taken it off!! GGRRR!!

So, AIBU??

OP posts:
PfftTheMagicDragon · 30/11/2009 08:18

I know what a teething necklace is.

BUT - I assume that generally, necklaces on toddlers is not something that would be condoned my the MN public.

So, this would rely on one knowing that your DD was wearing a teething necklace and not just a normal necklace.

Teething necklaces are not mainstream things, IMO, it is fair that this woman did not know what one is.

So it is fair that she would assume it was a normal necklace.

Which most people would see as dangerous and remove.

YABU.

Ronaldinhio · 30/11/2009 08:30

Hey RGPargy I guess you know the feelings of AIBU now?

I'm sure they only removed it for safety and I know you'd rather be safe than sorry

Sassybeast · 30/11/2009 09:28

A teething necklace ? How did we survive without teething necklaces ? YABU but I'm sure you realise that by now Putting ANYTHING around a toddlers neck is not very clever in my book, no matter how safe it is supposed to be.

Original poster
RGPargy · 30/11/2009 09:39

Woooo! Good morning RGP!!!

Well it's nice to know that you all think i am a complete loon and a nasty person.

Thank you for the couple of you who actually said something that wasn't all guns blazing.

I did acknowledge i was being unreasonable, felt embarrassed and was being oversensitive and yes, probably defensive. I also said that i was very happy at DD being complimented. On hindsight, i didn't put the necklace back on DD until the lady had finished talking to me about DD and we were just about to leave, by which time she had gone back into the creche room. Having said all that, i am grateful that she was looking after DD's interest and now that i have slept on it, realise that i was being a prat. I've never coped well with being confronted, even in a friendly way, and always get a bit flustered and embarrassed.

I am not a middle classed bohemian whats-a-thingy - far from it but at the time that i gave DD the teething beads, i was desperate for a good night's sleep.

For the Amber beads haters - DD wont be wearing it for much longer anyway as she has almost all her teeth through now (only 2 left to go, hooray!) and she is probably old enough to cope with the discomfort.

I have felt the wrath of AIBU. Silly me for posting here in the first place lol.

OP posts:
misdee · 30/11/2009 09:52

u were being a teeny bit unreasonable.

bit after being up between 2am and 4am with a screaming 1year old, tell me where to get an amber teething neckalce.

i have worn amber myself for years, just a little bit. but even if it doesnt work it makes me feel better. i have an amber breastfeeding necklace which dd4 plays with a lot.

diddl · 30/11/2009 09:57

YABU to have such a thing as an amber teething necklace!

RumourOfAHurricane · 30/11/2009 09:58

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pigletmania · 30/11/2009 10:02

YABVVVVVU, your dd is in THIER care and they are responsible if anything happens. Better to be safe than sorry eh. What would you prefer, that the necklace accidently gets wrapped around her neck during playing restricting her airway, or another child pulls it almost garrotting her with it. She might have it on all the time in your house, but they are the ones looking after somebody elses child.

StrictlyKatty · 30/11/2009 10:03

Good Lord you are precious. The women was doing you a favour, she probably thought it might get caught and choke your DD and you are rude to her when she probably had no idea it was a teething necklace and even if she did was doing what she thought was safe for the child.

Then she tried to complement your DD and you are really snotty about it

Nice. Really nice.

AitchTwoToTangOh · 30/11/2009 10:03

hey hey, why so nasty to RG? she's lovely.
glad you've seen sense you loon.

pigletmania · 30/11/2009 10:04

Mabey you should have told them about the teething necklace so that they know and are aware of it.

RumourOfAHurricane · 30/11/2009 10:05

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Hando · 30/11/2009 10:10

OP, after reading the explanations that the others have posted then I have decided I think YABVU. Not only towards the woman who had the sense to see that a necklace is dangerous to a 2 year old. You et her sleep in them? Please reconsider that!

Also I can't believe people actually believe that amber has "healing" properties.. seriously, just think about it. Such nonsense actually makes me laugh.

pigletmania · 30/11/2009 10:11

sorry just read through the posts after posting, i am gald that RG realises that she is being a bit over sensitive and a bit U. I have read the link about amber necklace and think that its a load of cr£$%&p, there is no hard evidence that it works. I guess that it provides a kind of placebo affect and reassures the parents.

Hando · 30/11/2009 10:12

Shit sorry, didn't go to the end of the thread before I posted. I see you have returned and realised YABU. I take my last post back.

WouldYouCouldYouWithAGoat · 30/11/2009 10:12

leave the op alone. i think all possible wittisms about amber necklaces have been made and any other comments are just being made by dullards.

pigletmania · 30/11/2009 10:14

We are all entitled to our opinion WYCYWAG thats the point of these threads. We have realised the the op realises that she was being U.

StrictlyKatty · 30/11/2009 10:23

I personally like teething necklaces, but I still think OP was rude and horrible! Glad she has agreed she was wrong now though.

BitOfFun · 30/11/2009 10:56

I know you've had a pasting here, but I can't resist suggesting that you should have waved some rose quartz at her to resolve the situation

Sorry...

Original poster
RGPargy · 30/11/2009 10:58

For the record, when i said i pointed out to the woman it was an amber teething necklace etc, i wasn't actually rude to her!! So ner :P

OP posts:
MoreCrackThanHarlem · 30/11/2009 11:08

BoF, stop trying to inflame the situation. Everyone can see this nursery bint won't be helped by a bloody crystal.
She needs full chakra realignment therapy, duh

Sorry op, you sound lovely and have taken a brutal thread in good spirit

BitOfFun · 30/11/2009 11:37

Ah, my mistake

AnyFucker · 30/11/2009 12:24

rgp, kudos to you for taking this pasting on the chin and not coming back all huffy and flouncy

< adds rgp to little black book of good eggs >

mrswilliams · 30/11/2009 12:29

haven't read entire thread but imo YABU

Lemonylemon · 30/11/2009 14:08

RGP: My DD has worn an amber teething necklace for about a year. Lifesaver, if you ask me.

I had to ask DD's nursery to leave it on and explain what it was. They were fine about it as it wasn't a really loose fit and she couldn't hook the beads over her chin.

To anyone who hasn't heard of teething beeds: Amber necklaces are an Eastern European thing - and the odd thing is that they seem to work, don't ask me how. Apparently, amber is a natural pain reliever.