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AIBU?

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i really do think he`s lost the plot this time.

46 replies

candlesticks · 26/11/2009 17:56

Dh is a bit of an arse at times, as we all can be , but this time i think hes fliped his lid or something?
MIL has bought a gift of clothes for our dc.... but has again bought the wrong size .
she thinks ds is bigger than he is.
She asked dh to bring it ,yesterday ,down to try on ds and see if its ok size wise.
DH produced the clothes , but before he got them out of the bag , murmured some comments about not being sure if ID</span> like them or not?.DS was about so held clothes up against him to see.... top OK.... trousers went up to his neck! i fell about laughing and said your mum always gets him sizes too big . DH IS LIKE THIS ->. and starts demanding to know what i think ... im getting by now , but am still laughing , because i could virtually see the steam comming from dhs ears ! He says he knows i dont like them, but wants an answer....all the time getting more and more worked up.
Im in hysterics by now , WTF is wrong with him?
He starts shouting , he wants an answer ! I reply " im doing a switzerland on this one , i have no opinion on it , only that its too big . If you dont like them , tell your mum, but your acting like a fanny ! "
At this DH storms out slamming the door and shouting hes away to his mums to tell her i hated the gift???? wtf????. He disapeared , came back in at 10pm and sat growling in the corner , i asked him if hed like a cup of tea and he replied " im not telling you, you wouldnt tell me earlier," (again WTF???).
He sits glaring at the tv for an hour then goes to bed.I slept on sofa.
i woke up at 8 and went into our bedroom , dh is awake and gives me a dirty look and turns over and pretends to back to sleep. then he gets up after kids have left for school ,and starts the argument all over again!- and lol the clothes reapear!.... he storms out to work late . I dont think i should have to tell him what he wants to hear if its not true regardless.
I text him that hes an arse ,and i hate him.
then i text back after a bit saying i shouldnt have txt and i dont hate him.
No sooner has that left my mobile than the MIL phones about the bloody clothes!
She is now going on and on about if i dont like them i should say ect.i tell her the clothes are fine , just too big.Again she repeats if i dont like them,ect.. this is said about 4 times then i crack and say i couldnt give a rats arse what you give your grandchildren , as long as you love them is all i care about . (shouldnt have snapped i know !)....
I think DH has went and told his mum dont like clothes, because he doesnt like clothes.... so now i look like an arse .?
Dh is known for dislikeing his mums choice of clothes he wore as a child . Have heard tales of trousers that matched the 1970`s sofa - so he looked like he had missing legs when he sat on it!

So AIBU for laughing at DH`S strop?,

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diddl · 26/11/2009 18:20

I would answer, but I can´t really understand your post tbh!

But couldn´t you have just said yes or no you did or didn´t like the clothes?

mammyto1 · 26/11/2009 18:20

I even pmsl at your DH strop

Jamieandhismagictorch · 26/11/2009 18:24

Presumably, your DHs strop is ACTUALLY nothing to do with the clothes - annoyed with you about something else ? Worried about something ? Stressful day ?

Perhaps you should ask him ?

candlesticks · 26/11/2009 18:30

nope , hes not talking to me. he's glaring at the tv again..... poor pontypines would be inserious trouble if looks could kill ! pmsl!

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cocolepew · 26/11/2009 18:31

I'd have smothered him with the ruddy trousers if he spoke to me like that. He's being a twat.

thesecondcoming · 26/11/2009 18:31

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SolidGoldBangers · 26/11/2009 18:33

It sounds like there is something a lot more wrong here than the clothes being too big. Is your H often like this - completely disregarding what you say and telling you that you are not in fact saying/seeing/experiencing what you are experiencing? EG if you say it's raining will he insist you are lying and refuse to let you have an umbrella or something? Because him throwing such a tantrum about you refusing to say what he wants you to say is very peculiar and unpleasant.

candlesticks · 26/11/2009 18:36

ive never spoke to her that way before.... im quite ashamed of myself.Shes lovely - it her son i was annoyed with....i know IWBU with her.
im pretty laid back about most stuff... i dont have anyfamily of my own (apart from dh & dc), so i think im more grateful that i do have nice exyended family through dh.
although if i could divorce dh and keep them i would at this minute.

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candlesticks · 26/11/2009 18:39

solidgold . yes he has been like that a few times....not listening,to what i say.But if his mates say same thing , then they are sooo right .

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VinegarTits · 26/11/2009 18:39

I dont know IYABU i cant decide...BUT

Whats with the ref's to Switzerland?

thumbwitch · 26/11/2009 18:39

sounds a bit nuts to me - also sounds like you said, that HE didn't like the clothes but was trying to force YOU to say it so he could truthfully blame you when he told his mum.

Although why he would tell her is a tad beyond me - unless he's trying to stir up trouble between you, it's very unkind and rude to tell her that the clothes are not liked. Too big - no problem (and factual) but not liked? Too rude.

Deeper problems here, I feel. But I don't think you laughing at him helped, sorry!

candlesticks · 26/11/2009 18:40

being neutral! lol

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thumbwitch · 26/11/2009 18:40

Switzerland = not taking sides.

candlesticks · 26/11/2009 18:42

i think hes trying to turn pils opinion of me into dislike...we are not getting on and he would get sympathy from them if we split then.
if they still loved me, then they would tell him hes a twat.

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VinegarTits · 26/11/2009 18:43

Ah ok

I am Switzerland on this one OP

candlesticks · 26/11/2009 18:43

i know i shoudnt have laughed , but he was like basil faulty!

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ChloeHandbag · 26/11/2009 18:44

It sounds like you were winding him up tbh

scottishmummy · 26/11/2009 18:45

think you are all as argumentative as each other

you "text him that he's an arse,and i hate him". nice
he stew and argues
Mil and you argue on phone

all a bunch of dafties.all argumentative and put out

grow up the lot of you

candlesticks · 26/11/2009 18:45

i dont get the likeing thing anyway? . surely a gift is a gift ... if its given with love then its priceless!

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posieparker · 26/11/2009 18:47

I always laugh when my DH gets hot and bothered or hurts himself.... he never joins in.

candlesticks · 26/11/2009 18:47

thats some straight talking there scottishmummy ! your right mabey we should all just grow up.
But he started it!

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thumbwitch · 26/11/2009 18:49

candlesticks, interesting that you said you are not getting on - I did wonder if he was thinking about splitting up and "prepping" his mother to think you were an evil cow...

candlesticks · 26/11/2009 18:51

well he did this before, about 6 years ago ... picked arguments over nothing .... was an excuse to see his then OW.

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groundhogs · 26/11/2009 18:53

How OLD are your DC?

If they are up to teens surely the clothes are sold by age??

YANBU btw....

BrokenArm · 26/11/2009 18:55

You sound horrible very insensitive, OP.
Your DH doesn't like being Piggy-in-the-Middle when there's tension between you & your MIL.
And obviously there's a history of lots of ruffled feelings there.

Why can't you just say "Tell her my thanks, I'm sure he'll grow into them."?