have I found the most spoilt child in the world?

[sparechange]

My sort-of SIL's DD's birthday is in December. She will be 14
I met with my sort-of SIL (hereby SOSIL) last night and asked if she had any ideas for her birthday and/or Christmas present.

The answer came back from SOSIL that if it isn't objectionble, she would like some money for her savings account (no problem with that - prudence is to be admired in a girl...)

Because she is saving up for A MULBERRY HANDBAG

14 years old, I ask you... I am tempted to give her my collection 2000 make up and remind her what being 14 should really be about

AIBU to think she shouldn't even know what a mulberry bag is, let alone be coveting one?

YABU. Try and catch a few episodes of My Super Sweet Sixteen on Viva. You haven't seen anything!

YABU, why bother asking her what she would like if you are going to object when she tells you?

Good on her for saving up her money for something she really wants.

Just because you don't agree with what she wants doesn't make her spoiled.

well, I agree with everyone else saying at least she is saving for it herself...

Its not something I'd choose, and its not something I'd have thought about when I was 14...but she IS saving for it herself.

My Mum tells a story of one of the geriatric patients that she nursed when she was working in a nursing home - this woman was simnply one of the most admirable and strong women my Mum ever met. She collected Doulton figuerines - again, not everyone's taste. She saved up for her first one when she was about 12 - again, not every 12 year old's standard thing, but her father was dead against such a frivilous waste of money and wouldn't give her a penny towards it - she had to earn and save everything herself. It took her 3 years of saving every penny she got, but she did it and it started a wonderful life of collecting these figueines which brought her a great deal of joy.

yabu
i thought you were going to say she asked you to buy it.

thats not spoilt at all
She sounds a sensible girl to me

It may be pointless, but she is 14. She's hardly going to be saving for a car!

Good on her for saving, I'd encourage it, she'll no doubt set her sights on something else after, and maybe the next thing will be something that can be deemed less pointless.

I don't think 'spoilt' exactly - it's just a shame that young girls have such high expectations, presumably gained from the sort of Sleb magazines that my DD reads (OK, Glamour) which always note which must-have bag Coleen or Victoria is carrying this week.

A boy in DDs class (age 15) bought his gf a Chloe bag for her birthday.

Spare, I know Shit'n'smell it! I am a Street girl, place not occupation!

piccolina

When I was 14, my boyfriend bought me a rubber from the natural history museum...

O posie, I wonder if we know some people in common
If I said I hung out in The Binn, would that mean anything to you..?

That would mean The Street Inn?

What about Rifes?

The Candy Box?

I don't think she's spoilt at all. At least she's learning to save. I wish at 36 I could learn to do that

I had a Saturday job from 14 to pay for my clothes habit. Thank god I didn't know about Mulberry then!

Yes, the street inn...
SCREAM
I worked in the rifes... When Ivan ran it
this is weird

(sorry everyone else)

Well I never.

How is she your sosil? She either is or she isn't.

Fab, she is my actual SIL's twin sister
I've known her for as long as I've known my SIL, so she is as good as my SIL as far as we're concerned...

I get you now.

YANBU in your FINAL point in your OP but your TITLE of this thread is totally unreasonable. As others have said, at least she is saving for it - that doesn't make her spoilt.

But I do agree with you that, at 14, she probably shouldn't already be fully hooked into a consumerist situation that is so shallow. Still, that's the way things are now, isn't it?

Personally I can NOT understand handbag fetishes/fashions/vast prices. Shoes - yes, I sort of get shoes. But not handbags. Especially when most of them are so bloody impractical!

Gosh, all power to her tbh.
I was into cheap fashion stuff at that age, would never have saved for a bag, only had my school bag in those days.
Have never had a posh bag and I've got 20 years on her.
Get that chequebook out.
I hope she isn't bitterly disappointed with it once she does buy it,also wonder where she will be taking it? Won't be a school bag, shouldn't have thought

I don't even know what a Mulberry Handbag is

I'd buy her a philosophical book that points out that owning expensive things does not actual make you happy.

If anyone can find a book that says being obsessed with your hair and constantly dyeing it doesn't make you happy, please let me know as my friend is desperate to buy such a tome for his DD

Butteryspud, that's what I thought too (dirty minds think alike!)

sparechange Wed 25-Nov-09 16:15:20
"Well, that is me well and truly told
I shall we writing my cheque forthwith

God only help me when she gets to 18. No doubt it will be requests for Cartier watches and Asprey diamonds"

But she is not asking you to buy her a handbag; she is asking for a contribution. You don't have to make that cheque any larger than if she'd asked for a novel or a jumper. Presumably she hasn't mentioned a sum? Send her a tenner, but do accept that it's her choice what she saves it for.