work xmas meal- plus none

[TishTosh21]

My DP has started a new job back in Oct. Im in temp work and will finish before xmas so i wont be having a christmas work do this year but i asked him if he was going to. He said his work were thinking about it and trying to decide on venue. He then said he didnt think they were asking employees partners to come as they are cheap and dont want to pay for them.

AIBU to be pissed off with this and be a little jealous that he'll be going and i wont??

i now loathe the thought of large xmas dos as many years ago it was upsetting to see the amount of possible 'flings' /'affairs' that were blatently obviously happening. I found it quite scary to see supposedly happy guys flirting way over the top with their colleagues and vice versa.

i loved the other companies that took the trouble to invite partners.

YABU - going to an office do with your partner? Hellish.

You don't know anybody and have nothing in common other than your other half works for the same business.

Sad you aren't getting your own if that is what you like doing. However, I always felt I spent quite enough of my waking hours with colleagues at work, without spending my free time with them too.

Thankfully as a SAHM I don't have to bother with these things now. Bliss.

YABU - i have never been to a christmas office party where we bring partners.

Now DH is in charge, I have persuaded him to have no partners at the works Christmas do becuase it's so horrific .

I work in the public sector and we have never been allowed partners to the Christams do.

DH's employer (private) alsways has Christmas do at lunchtime, and doesn't ask partners.

Mind you, I always manage to organise at least one night out around Christmas with NCT friends / school mums and tell DH "this is my work do".

Well, DH's place has done a u-turn, because none of the managers were going ( due to the no partner rule) they have been told that they are expected to attend with their partner and they are paying for a taxi - 80 mile round trip, that'll be good.

The general workforce aren't allowed to take partners so this will go down like a lead balloon!

how lovely and gracious you are in response to criticism OP

honestly, it will be pants. I went to one of dh's once and it made me feel like sticking my head in the oven

and he is SO not coming to mine

YABU Can't think of anything worse than having your DH/DP at YOUR works Christmas 'Do'!

Oh God. I have to go to DH's works do next week. I know no-one apart from DH. I hate all parties (except for my own) anyway. It will be utter utter hell!
Oh, just realised that I'll miss True Blood too. Utter utter utter hell then!