work xmas meal- plus none

[TishTosh21]

My DP has started a new job back in Oct. Im in temp work and will finish before xmas so i wont be having a christmas work do this year but i asked him if he was going to. He said his work were thinking about it and trying to decide on venue. He then said he didnt think they were asking employees partners to come as they are cheap and dont want to pay for them.

AIBU to be pissed off with this and be a little jealous that he'll be going and i wont??

GIBBON! hello

Works do? I'd be bloody relieved not to have to go and donate an evening of my life to spend with other people I know nor care about knowing talking shop about something I know nothing about and have no interest in.

My works do we all go to the posh hotel have the meal then piss off into town and get a taxi home at the companies expense (don't judge us they are stingy fuckers the rest of the year)

YABU work dos are for employees not their other halves.

Ours have always been fab - the GPs pay for us all to have a slap up feed and gallons of wine then we boogie round a Christmas tree, drink more wine (puking optional) and go home.

Marvellous.

get over it!!!! there a recession donthcha know :-)
we are having dominos pizza
and vino bianco this year

Why not have your own christmas do with some lady friends- Our social circle (8 couples) all go for a meal and the men drive as this is the ladies do!

I am having a small work do next week - no partners. (we pay for ourselves)

DH has a work annual party in January (they don't have a Christmas one, firm pays) - no partners.

I actually do go to plenty of other dos via his work throughout the year - some work pay for, others we do - but the big one in January it is work only. The form pay for it all, so don;t want to pay for lots of other people. They do have a lot of staff as it is.

yabvu

Can't you organise your own night out? Is it because this is a freebie? I don't think companies should pay for partners if they don't want to.

I used to buy jokey presents for secret santa until the day I realised all too clearly that my humour was really not welcomed at all.

I play it very safe now.

Hello Dan

lol pointy

Mine is at lunch time. I arranged a hospital appointment at the other end of the county. Woohoo I thought but no the hospital cancelled on me . Now I have to get a new excuse!

YABvU!!
We never have partners at ours, in fact dont know any that do!
(a) am sure theyd be bored shitless (b) its a WORKS do (c) its fun to let your haor down without partners
(d) we are the employers (so we pay for ours) - we are 5 partners + 15+ staff - its a bloody expensive night for us and eats into profits, why the f..ck shoudl we pay for partners as well!!

I've never been to a works Xmas do where partners were invited.... ever. I didn't think it was usual for partners to attend to be honest.

works paying for it = no partners

staff paying for it = partners come too

in my experience at least

DH ocassionally goes to (very formal) uni reunion jollys that no partners are invited to - supposedly on the grounds of numbers/tradition, but really I think it's cos "they" (world famous uni beginning with O) think the rest of us are fick innit

Yabvvu. Not that I have ever had the luxury of a 'paid for' works party, either mine or dp's.

However, dp would probably rather eat his own tongue than attend my works 'do' with a bunch of teachers talking shop or getting tipsy - or both.

Well my DH has just handed his ticket back, no partners allowed.
We would have made a good night of it, he works 40 miles away so we were staying in a hotel. More people are now not going than are, they employ over 500 people.

thats what im afraid of- DP snogging the wrong person!

I've never been to a works do that partners were invited to. Mind you I work for the NHS - we always have to pay our own way!

Regarding secret santa - I've never had a good present from them. I spend hours agonising over mine and buying something really nice then get a total load of crap for my gift!

So the only reason you want to go is to keep an eye on him

Tish aren't you due on my July 2010 thread? don't let the hormones make you worry/jealous

Just think, imagine being there and not being able to drink yourself into oblivionto deal with the inevitable boring bastards

Partners have no place at the works christmas do. It's get drunk and flirt with Steve night, no use if his wife is there

YABU. Let the man make a prick of himself to Status Quo and wear tinsel in the street without your eyes gazing on him

Get out and outdo him. With your own mates!

Hi gibbon yes i am!! maybe it is the hormones then

I think my emotions are all over the place.

My husbands work dont invite partners either. From what he says about it I am pretty glad (all computer programmers and web developers and all men - not much for me to get excited about )

you should go to the mumsnet christmas party instead. it is bound to be A L O T more fun.

Most places I have ever worked don't invite the other half....I would rather poke things in my eyes than go to dp's work do's and I am pretty sure he feels the same!