To think bil should bugger off and mind his biz

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BIL has been staying with us for nearly four weeks since my sis kicked him out and he lost his job (same week).

Since he moved in he has been given £3k by his father so he can sort out a flat, this was 2 weeks ago. He has a job which will start at the start of the year. For the last week he has been asking our opinon on where he should go on holiday for 2 weeks before he moves into his new flat. He has not once offered to pay for any extra food we have bought in or offered to do any housework, despite the fact that he hangs around the house all day and we have 4 dcs including a 12 week old baby. Also dh was made redundant and is trying to set up a new business so money is tight

All this is irritating but I can cope with it up to a point. This morning he strolled downstairs and asked me if I had a nice night at the farm last night? I had no idea what he was on about and must have looked blank, he then said, well I assume from the noises coming from your room last night you had borrowed some animals from the city farm. I was stunned at the decking cheek of him and just walked out of the room. I haven't mentioned it to dh yet.

AIBU to rip his head off, cut his bollocks off, stick them down his neck and literally kick him out of my home?

WV - no, it is his and DSis DS not mine, my grammar and punctuation must be stuffed due to the stress

Oh, no, I meant Dear Sister - sorry, wrong acronym! (must get my head round all of them; I've had to check about 3 this evening). Glad your DCs are not dependent on a twit! You sound as though you have a sense of modesty and justice, and your DH a sense of honour, so I hope your DCs are dependent on you, instead!

modestly, thanks WV, that is a lovely compliment

I think your sis is taking the mick as well a bit. She probably knew you would have to put up her idiot husband again.

Make sure you get the key from him before he leaves.

Flipping cheek, letting himself in

I would tell him to go fuck himself. What a revolting, rude thing to say. I would kick him out immediately. He sounds like a complete prick in many, many ways.

Good luck to his mates in Thailand is all I can say

Hope you got the key. I don't often get angry but would have got very angry if this guy let himself uninvited into my house with a key he had failed to return after being chucked out by me.
I would have strong words with your sister and tell her her boyfriend/ exboyfriend is not welcome to stay at your house and if she wants a reconciliation she can sort it out with him like adults and not involve you. He can stay at a b&b or hotel, but it seems rich for her to refuse to have him in her house but expect you to put him up.
They sound like they deserve each other. Neither of them seems to be thinking of anyone else.

Absolutely 2Rebecca, both as selfish as each other At least we only have to deal with DSis now.