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to have a 5 week old DD and be so very broody?

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MamiBabi · 20/11/2009 19:52

As it says really!

I have a 22month DS, 5 week old DD and can't help feeling broody. Not sure what is wrong with me.

Had horrible pregnancy with both. Birth Number 1 was horrid. DD's birth was much better - 2.5 hours, born in the car in the hospital car park - dignity tested but the euphoria after the birth was such that I didn't mind at all!!

Could this be why I feel like repeating the experience so soon.

By the way, we can't have another as we are nowhere near a financial position to do it.

Just wondered if it's normal to feel so broody so soon.

Maybe it is, there's not that much of a gap between DCs 1 and 2!

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wideratthehips · 20/11/2009 19:56

i thinks its a normal hormonal response that makes you love your new baby even more...i've had this with all three children and in the first month or so with dc3 i kept saying awww so lovely...might have another....fast forward 8mths and i can just about cope with three...no way i could juggle four! but i do get all smooshy over babies...not just very young ones, they are so very lovely!

somethinganything · 20/11/2009 19:59

I def felt like this a couple of months after DD was born. I remember thinking "this is just wonderful - I want so many DCs". I did feel a little different a few months later though it was still wonderful. I'd say hold off for a while!

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MamiBabi · 20/11/2009 20:05

Oh, don't worry. The broody thing will not triumph over common sense! Two babies under two is enough without the joys of SPD to consider. Also, will need to get some work in the new year (freelance, self employed so need to work to pay the bills, my recollection of last pregnancy is that SPD does not cater for the self employed!)

Just wondered if this was a common thing...

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littleducks · 20/11/2009 20:09

oh yes i was broody when ds was 5 weeks old and dd was 23 months.......i am not at all now that ds is 19mo and dd is 3.5

give it time!

LeninGrad · 20/11/2009 20:13

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lovechoc · 20/11/2009 20:13

see I've never understood this, I can remember speaking to mums who had babies at the same time as myself and most said 'oh I just want another one right now!' I couldn't believe my ears - how can you possibly want another one so soon????

My labour was long, had a v bad tear so the last thing I wanted was to be pg again! Am I the only one like this who was put off for life (almost!)?

LittleSilver · 20/11/2009 20:14

Oh, I always feel like this too! Have 2 1/2 years between Dd1 and DD2, 18mon between DDS2 and 3, will have 14mo berween DDs3 and 4 .

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MamiBabi · 20/11/2009 20:18

Why oh why does DH not earn enough to keep us all, then I could have DC3 .

Maybe the answer is new DH!

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truthisinthewine · 20/11/2009 20:19

I would say definately normal, DD2 was conceived when dd1 was about 9 months old, and had fought broody feelings for months to get that far.

Then after DD2 was desperate to have another and was practically counting down the days until we could realistically start trying again.

Now dds are just over 3 and 20 months old and although I think we will have another at some point in the future, I would no longer say I was broody, it's not something I think about often and am quite happy to wait another year til we start TTC....hormones have a lot to answer for I think

Chrysanthamum · 20/11/2009 20:22

I know the feeling v well. I've got 3 sons 7, nearly 2 and 12 weeks and am really broody again despite being horribly ill for my 3rd birth. We cant afford another and my clock is ticking so although I'm delighted with my 3 I think I'll always be broody for a girl. Hopefully it'll pass and common sense will prevail.

nulgirl · 20/11/2009 20:24

I remember in the weeks following the birth of ds I was on a high (had a successful vbac) and he was such a good sleeper. I felt so together and kept on saying that I wished I was pg again. I went to get a coil at 6 wks because I felt I needed a type of contraception that I couldn't accidently forget to take/ use .

By 4 months I had lost that feeling. Ds stopped sleeping through (and is still waking several times a night at 12m) and the hormones were gone. I had also had some time to get used to the logistics of having 2 children. The runs to nursery and taking them shopping seem hard with 2 but would be a nightmare with 3. Taking them to the park single handed is downright dangerous as they both want to play with different things and ds is a real bolter.

We might have a 3rd when dd starts school in 2011 but am really enjoying our time as a 2 child family. I do have 1 friend who succumbed to the urge and is now 39 weeks pg with no3. Her eldest is just turned 3. I was jealous when she announced she was pg but now only feel sorry for her

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MamiBabi · 20/11/2009 20:31

nulgirl think you are very sensible and agree with you whole heartedly.

I think this may be part of the problem - DD is such an easy baby (so far, touch wood, cross fingers etc) so not much has changed apart from breast feeding (again v. easy) and looking after a toddler which is far easier now than it was a few weeks ago when I was still pregnant and had SPD so all in all, life is rosy, straight forward.

When both become mobile I would imagine life becomes more of a challenge and I'm sure broody feelings will soon expire!

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ImSoNotTelling · 20/11/2009 20:34

I have had this both times too

I have a 2.3 and a 4mo and I keep thinking "ooh I'd love a little baby" and have to remind myself that I have one! Happened with DD1 too.

Must be the hormones

YANBu to feel broody.

Ywould be a bit nuts to act on it!

MaggiePie · 20/11/2009 20:35

You're all mad.

I was looking at my two (7 and 4) the other day, the 7 year old was reading to four year old. They were in a cafe, sitting still, sipping their drinks and not spilling or jumping up, sqwawking, fighting,,,, and I thought...............ah!!

I have been waiting four years for this.

LeninGrad · 20/11/2009 20:53

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MamiBabi · 20/11/2009 21:14

ImSoNotTelling I am a bit nuts with the hormones but nowhere near that nuts.

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fledtoscotland · 20/11/2009 21:21

step away from your hormones And I say that from experience only having an 11month gap between DS1 and DS2

ImSoNotTelling · 20/11/2009 21:33

fledtoscotland that sounds like hard work!

fledtoscotland · 20/11/2009 21:41

ImSoNotTelling -it is. DS1 is 26months and DS2 15months and i'm totally frazzled. I go to work for a rest. The best bit is that I'm supposed to be infertile due to gym surgery when pregnant with DS1. DS2 was a total shock to everyone esp my consultant

fledtoscotland · 20/11/2009 21:42

sorry -GYN surgery!

Georgimama · 20/11/2009 21:44

I went to see a friend on the day her DD was born and she said she wanted to do it again, right now. Not it, I mean give birth. Crazy talk.

choosyfloosy · 20/11/2009 21:44

I remember the lamented mears saying that she always got broody in the delivery room (after the birth, not actually during labour).

There are few feelings that I can say categorically that I will never have, but that's one of them

ImSoNotTelling · 20/11/2009 21:52

GYM Surgery - brilliant! i was thinking "hmm not heard of that, must be a new thing..."

I too like to go to work for a rest, so no resting at the mo as on mat leave!

Dollgirl · 20/11/2009 22:04

Yes, it's common (in my world) its probably the hormones. Plus my baby was/is very "easy".

I was broody whilst I was pg myself FGS - beat that! Holly Willoughby announced her pg and I was kinda jealous! It's the HORMONES!!

After I gave birth I was strongly wanting to get pg again within weeks and if I'm being honest the only thing stopping me was the embarassment of telling everyone I was having another baby before the first had yet to turn 1yo.

It wore off after about 3 months but has recently resurfaced now a respectable amount of time has passed so I am delighted to start TTC next month

My advice is leave it and see how you feel when DD is 6mo.

ImSoNotTelling · 20/11/2009 22:16

Broody while pregnant - that has to be some kind of record!

Good luck with TTC