To hide upstairs and have a weep

[FabIsLosingThePlot]

while ds2 is watching the clangers?

Aw shut up - so what if you needed someone to talk to - we don't mind !!!!!!

Thank you

I just want dh to come home now and give me a cuddle. He has said he will try not to be late and doesn't care if dinner is ham sandwiches.

Good for you!

Don't be scared to shout oi!

xx

Fab, more of us have 'been there' than you might think... If any of us can help, post away, you are not alone and you most definatly are NOT losing the plot!

Oh, BTW, thanks for spelling it LOSING and not (GAH!) LOOSING... that spelling just hurts my eyes!

Keep posting, we're always here... what else would we have to do if not here MNing and helping you??

Fab, take the time you need to cry and don't feel crap about it. Equally, off load on here anytime you need to.

As so many others have already said, you aren't alone and sadly many of us have those times in our lives too.

I have suffered with depression on and off for most of my life - since the age of 13. Some days I have no idea why I feel so crap. I just do. I beat myself up about it - tell myself I am in a fortunate position in my life etc - but I also know I should be kind to myself and let it wash over me.

If you don't feel able to talk on here or with your rl friends, please call the Samaritans. Some callers don't even talk - they just need to hear a connection with another human being. They will listen without judgment, don't offer advice, just emotional support and don't have anything to do with religion (common misconception). You can email or text too. Samaritans website here

You are all great but I feel a fraud as it is a stupid thing that sent me crying. I am feeling better as I know what I am making for DH and my tea and it sounds yummy, I have made fruity flapjacks for the kids snack and best of all I have just realised I haven't shouted at the kids today. Still got a headache with the emotion of the day but DH will be home soon and will give me a cuddle.

Thanks again.

Sorry mumblechum I did mean to answer.

I am helping in school one morning a week and next year I am hoping to help at the animal rescue centre a couple of days a week.

Fab I remember this issue about not knowing what to tell your DS about your past from a while back. I'm guessing it's not got any easier. Did you see a counsellor in the end?

(BTW I used to be screamingabdab but don't tell anyone)

Hmm, now I'm worried.

Fab (who thinks she is useless) has made flapjacks, coped with feeling rubbish, volunteers at school one morning a week, and has plans to further positive voluntary work in the near future.

YKNOTC, has not baked anything , is doing no constructive voluntary work for anyone, is looking at the lego scattered all over the floor and thinking about hoovering it up , and has no plans for further advancement currently.

You're definitely beating me, Fab

Hope you got that cuddle.

yep, me too Youknownothing DH would keel over if I ever baked anything .....

I am having therapy at the moment.

Occasionally talk to her makes me realise why I feel the way I do about certain things but mostly she says "It is interesting" a lot and agrees that abc is why I feel xzy. I am hanging in there as I have no other option tbh.

at YKN.

Baking helps me. I wasn't fed as a kid so love to feed my kids so it is all for selfish reasons really.

Did ya see what you did there ....

?????????

Sorry, I meant you made your Fab parenting sound like selfishness ....

Fab, it's not selfish to give!

You can always change therapist if you feel this one isn't getting you anywhere (I prefer a more CBTish approach where you get solutions rather than just talking things over), although with the NHS there may be a wait.

Bit slow today Jamie. Not with it!

YKN - I bought the CBT book for dummies but forgot all about it until I saw it this morning. I have also ordered a book from Amazon that has had good reviews to help me (hopefully.)

Yep, CBT might suit you better as it is more solution- focussed. Then again , it is very much down to the skill of the therapist and the rapport you have with them.

No, it's me - I'm not very clear sometimes.

Yikes, me again. Just to say. I have suffered from mild depression on and off and doing voluntary work has helped me much more than I have helped IYSWIM.

It certainly can't hurt to try it

It's really good on challenging negative assumptions. So you might think "I'm useless because of X" and it will make you challenge that thinking. It helped me so much.

Our dinner was a bit disappointing but the flap jack is yummy and DH brought me chocolate. Just chilling on MN and watching tv tonight as worn out.

Thanks for all your support today.

Fab, any time you need some support then we are all here.

Just keep going. Don't put down all the small things you do to keep your family going.

On a normal day, baking and maintaining an even keel is a good day. On a bad day it just isn't enough to smother the demons.

Keep looking at the good you do. Look at how happy your DCs are. Look at how thoughtful your DH is (mmmmm chocolate). Someone useless does not amass such love and thoughtfulness.

I know it's easy for me to say. But you can do this. You can beat anything. You can. Just believe it.

Thank you.

I want to believe it but it is hard some times when I feel I have been fighting the same battles over and over.

Hiya Fab,
Where abouts do you live? Im a SAHM and am always around for a chat/cry/ cup of tea bottle of wine if needed! In all honesty, I get lonely too a lot and understand the dispair sometimes x