To be really, really mad about this.

[chainstorecowgirl]

I haven't posted before but I am so mad about this need to vent.

I just got my son a 'miller' jacket from the Stella Mccatney GAP collection.It was £70 and I thought long and hard before I did it. I'm not rich or into labels but I decided that I wanted something special for him to wear when I got a set of portraits done. We only wanted one set done but we wanted them to be lovely.

Anyway, I mentioned it to my brother, who told his wife lat week and I just found out she's getting one for her son. She's a photographer so presumably my set of portraits aren't going to be so special now.

I know Its a free country but I can't help being upset. AIBU?

YABU

FFS if that's all you have to worry about i'd like to have your life.

Blimey.

so you brought a coat to wear in a photograph/portrait?

why didnt you ask sil to do your photos free/cheaper than normal?

money saved on photos can go on coat

Phone and tell yuor brother how you returned it because it was cheap and nasty and you'd seen it on virtually every child in

I don't get the problem here.

It's not all I have to worry about. I am on a low wage. Iwanted to get something special to remember when my son was little so I decided to pay for some photos. I planned to sell the jacket on ebay after to recoup some of the money.
I was left some money in an inheritance recently to pay for the photos.

I think this is why I'm upset because it meant a lot to me.

Oh come on guys, surely you can see why the OP is upset. She has gone to a lot of trouble to get a particular jacked for her DS to wear in photos which are presumably intended as family Christmas presents. Now she finds that her SIL is planning on doing portraits of her DS in an identical jacket. That wouldn't annoy you? It would me.

I guess It's cos she's a photographer and there are loads of studio pictures of her son but none of mine This was going to be the only set. I know I probably look like I'm being a cow!

So your nephew is going to be wearing the same jacket as your son in his photo's? Ring your brother and tell him to put a different jacket on.

I can see that's annoying, but try to take the view that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

Of course your photos will be special. They're of your DS in a smart jacket.

how old is your son?

we recently had portraits done,and jackets weren't a good thing to wear....and you don't want your sons features swamped by a jacket do you?

a plain top is nice

are they being photographed together? Sprry I'm confused.

If they're not will it matter - are you likely to have the photos of your nephew in the same jacket knocking around in a few years time.

Why is he wearing a jacket for an indoor shoot.

Take the jacket back and use the money for something else if it bothers you.

It wouldn't bother me (unless both boys are being photographed together) but them I don;t have any photo's of DS in any jackets at all!

Aaah, the photos are for Xmas presents for people? And the nephew's photos will be similar.

Ok.

Not something that would bother be personally, but obv. it means a lot to you.

Your right. They will be lovely photo's.

I think I'm mad with her because last year when she knew I wanted a particular pair of shoes for christmas and was trying to find she bought a pair and wore them when we went out.

I guess it is flattering but I am a bit suspicious as she's done it twice now. The shoes I could live with but the photos bothers me.

Don't tell her your shopping wants anymore!

Yes, I'd be annoyed too. Who ever said it's a form of flattery though is right. I'd take back the jacket and just put him in a nice top and try to rise above. Could you ask your SIL to take the photos?

'...so presumably my set of portraits aren't going to be so special now.'

Special to who? Why would the fact that your nephew is wearing the jacket in a diferent photo make a photo of your son less special to you? This is the bit I'm not understanding. Do you mean special to mutual family members who may see both photos? School photos of one's child are no less special because the rest of the school are wearing the same outfit... I do sort of understand that you are upset because you made a massive effort finding a relatively expensive jacket. Perhaps that's the issue - if you don't stress so very much about what he's wearing, and just look forward to seeing him in the portrait, you can never be upset or disappointed.