To be annoyed at people that think that a 2.8 year old should be potty trained by now

[pigletmania]

I have encountered some people RL and not that think that any child over 18 months should be potty trained. My frind from India said that they train them in India at about 9 months! How, when the nevers between the brain and bladder are not fully developed. I have heard that Europeans think that English people are lazy because their children are toilet trained later.

IMO surely if the child is not ready, no amount of training will work. I tried my 2.8 year old in knickers and sat her on the potty every hour in the summer she did not understand a thing, and gave up after 2 weeks, i tried later in October and put her in knickers and sat her on the potty regularly but while the poo bit was nearly sorted, she had no concept of going for a wee and that she was wet and could not tell you wether she had done a wee or poo despite me perservering for a month and a half. So i put her back in pull ups but still put her on the potty regularly

All DC are different when it comes to potty training. I remember when DD1 was 13 months old (she is now a week off her 2nd bday) my mum and DH told me that I should start potty training her. I told them in no uncertain terms to get stuffed!

You will know when your DD is ready for potty training. my DD1 is now mostly trained in the day but she was ready for it about 5-6 weeks ago when she started telling me that she wanted to sit on the toilet. Also she kept taking her nappy off if she had done a wee or a poo in it.

No amount of training will work if the child is not ready.

I think the idea of being "ready" is relativly modern. Certainly my grandmother started training her 3 children at 7-8months. My mother had 4 children with max 2 year gaps and nevr had 2 in nappies.
I wonder if the "ready" concpet was designed my disposable nappy companies?

Sorry about spelling!

i know its like bashing your head on a brick wall. I am pg with dc2, my friend said that i should try potty training when the baby is 9 months old as she said that her sisters in India did and they were all potty trained early. Dont know how that might work tbh

TBH, I would prefer my daughter to be out of nappies by the age of two. Saying that, she's my first, so what do I know?

I dont know Bubbaluv, mabey they were stricter than they are nowadays. YOu are told not to tell your child off or reprimand them and to praise them which i do if they do a wee or poo in the toilet. Also now you do have disposable nappies as opposed to Terry nappies so are more comfortable. Having said that both me and my dh were in Terrys but were 'not ready' until 3. Apparently i asked to use the toilet and wanted big girls pants and that was it my mum said really easy, dd is not at that stage even though i have been putting her on the potty regularly from the beginning of the year and taking her in with me and using toilet training vocab etc with her.

I have the opposite problem, DD2 is ready and willing (with wees at any rate, poos are hit and miss) but she is just 2 and very baby faced with no hair and I get only freaked out comments and blatant accusation of pushy mum-ness so I am sticking to knickers in the house now.

YANBU though! DD1 had no clue, I had to use techniques that my ECing (no nappies at all) friends used on their very little ones. Basically I did potty timing, rather than training, each are valid options.

Both mine were trained closer to three than 2. It was a breeze because they were ready.

Ignore them beehive my niece is the same she has been pt for around a month and is still 6 weeks off her 2nd b day. She is tiny (7th centile) and people think the same.

I wonder if it's the same in India as in China? there they have slits in the trousers and hold the children over the gutter to let them do their stuff... In Shanghai anyway can't say it's the same everywhere!

OOh your lucky beehive what is potty timing btw

Oh thats interesting girlsyearsapart

I think the boy was about 3 when dry through the day and wore night time pull-ups until about 4.5.

He just "got it" one day without my pushing him.

Now totally dry and happy at 5.5 and I can't think why anyone would think it mattered really.

I do have to say that although DD1 is only just coming up to 2yo, it has been really easy to train her. I think this is in a large part due to the fact that DD1 was ready for it.

When my mum and DH suggested training her at 13 mo I did go and buy a potty, which we had in the room for DD to 'get used to' IYSWIM. She would sit on the potty but not do anything.

When are you due DC2? because you don't want to try too much with your DD when DC2 arrives, too much like hard work for you and for her.

Take it at yours and your DD's pace and try not to listen to what other people have to say.

I just dont know what to do, do i continue with putting knickers on her or put her back in pull ups and wait until she starts giving me readyness type signals which she is not at the moment.

My dc due in July so want dd out of nappies preferably before then hopefully

I just used pullups pigletmania it probably did draw it out for a bit, but in the long run it won't matter and they mean less stress in the short term.

It does vary a lot child to child, however if you start early you should finish early. (in theory)

I started with my DD at 10 weeks old and she was clean and dry from 12 months.

However I have not made as much effort with her younger brother and though he is happy to climb on and off his potty and knows he should wee on a potty and does the occassional poo on it. He is now where near trained and he is 14 months old, even though we started at birth, he has had a lot less attention than she did !!!

I am going to give him some extra nappy off time over the next few months and see if I can get him clean(i.e. poo in the potty). It is so much nicer not having pooy nappies to deal with. That said it is up to him if he will do it.

oh Babies how did you potty train from birth wow never heard of that.

In the 'olden days' when people usually had less money, no washing machines (depending on far back you go), poor drying facilities not to mention no disposables, I think the motivation to train babies/toddlers was much much higher than it is today....also mums back then led very different lives - more home-based (contrast with our more hectic lifestyles, baby classes etc).

Agree with not worrying about what others say: children are all different and you do what's right for your family.

If you wanted an alternative to nappies though, you can look at ec-ing, you can do this at any age and part time or all the time.

Wikipedia entry here
A video of some ec-ing families here

At the moment dd is not really understanding even though she has been a month and a half in knickers its just creating more mess and work for me.