to be miffed that best friend has chosen same names as DS for her new baby?

[DipsyLaLa]

Hello Everyone
I'm new here. I need some objective advice. Best friend has just had a baby and while I am over the moon for her I am somewhat cross that she has decided to name her baby exactly the same two first names as my DS. I might add that she is also godmother to him.

I know she is free to name her baby whatever she likes and I'm not asking her to change it. But isn't this just bad form?

No way...is Alfie really in the top ten boys names?

YANBU - it's a bit odd and not very original but at least it wilkl be obvious to everyone who copied who as your DS is older..

I was a little bit miffed that SIL chose my DDs middle name for her DDs first name (her DD is 6 months younger), as it meant my DD grew up knowing it was her cousin's name before being old enough to know about having a middle name - but I really can't complain as it's a top 10 name!

Depends on the age gap and how often you see each other...and what the names are.

One of my bf's lives half way round the world and her kids are much older. Plus some people always use the full verion,others a shortened verision,if its a name like Daniel, Samuel etc

Be flattered that you both have great taste

YANBU

It is weird and unimaginative. If she didnt' say anything to you before hand, and reacted so badly, I would suspect that she was copying you...in which case, be flattered and let it go.

If she thought of it on her own, before your's was even born, then maybe she's spent the last however long silently pissed off that you used it first?

The name we used for DS1 had been on the cards from when we first starting thinking about babies. Some friends from the other side of the world used the same names (in the same order) 8 months before DS1 was born. I argued to keep the same name as it's family etc etc (as it is for them).

I said "we'll hardly ever see them". We now live in the same suburb and meet up all the time. It's not a problem. Their child calls our boy "Jack S" and ours calls theirs "Other Jack". I'm sure when they're older one or both of them will get a nickname. Everyone does in Oz! Maybe you shoudl start a nickname for BF's child in a year or two?!

ALL our parents have the same names, so it's not so surprising we ended up with the same combination.

My mum's best mate had a little girl a few months after me with the same name. It was GREAT! We were an instant gang.

I still feel a ridiculous bond with people who have the same name as me (if I ever found one with the same middle name too, I'd actually faint. I have a boy's name as a middle name).

The only problem with the two Tarquin Horatios as they grow up is that they may find themselves unfavourably compared with each other. "THe other TH is a doctor. Why are you still fannying around playing records in nightclubs." "Mum, I'm an international superstar DJ, leave me alone" etc.

YABU
Our friends' son, born a month after DS2, has a very similar first name, same but differently spelt second name.
And another friend, if she'd had a daughter would've given her DD's first name.

I couldn't care less, and it's not unusual for close friends (and in our case i'm talking godparent-close) to be thinking along the same lines, is it?

There's loads of Alfies round here. And Williams, and Charlies, and Jacks... it's so odd how so many of us are influenced by the popular names. DS isn't called any of those top 10, but nearly all of them were on our shortlist and we didn't even know they were in the top 10... how does that happen??

Oh, sorry, the point. OP, I don't think you're BU at all and I think she should have had a bit more imagination... but I think you've got to suck it up now, secure at least in the knowledge that your child will always be older and therefore everyone will know she was the unimaginative one!!

I think it is very odd, but to be honest, most people use off the shelve names, I don't think really, that you can claim ownership of such names.

If you have spent months concocting a new name of your own to ensure it was unique, I would agree with you, but for regular names... erm, no.

I think the best solution here is to take it as a compliment, she likes your son so much, she wants hers to be like yours