Pregnant women are crazy

[BelfastBloke]

1. I come home 1030pm from my only day at work
2. Pregnant wife joins me on sofa for welcome-home chat
3. She mentions she has a rare day off work tomorrow
4. I say, "I want you to join DD and me at toddler group"
5. She says, "You can't order me what to do", and flounces off to bed.
6. So I'm sleeping on the sofa.

oh dear you are in the dog house . I am just pregnant hope i dont become hormonal

Insead of saying "I want you to join.." you should have said "I'd LIKE you to join", or "it would be nice if..."

How did you ask? Could she of took it that you were telling her?
Whatever you do, don't blame it on pregnancy hormones, that can be quite annoying and will more than likely make her more angry
Is she making you sleep on the sofa, if not she is proberly sitting on the bed waiting for a cuddle, confused why you have'nt checked to see if she's ok.

pg women are allowed to be crazy

Now go on, bog off upstairs with a hot choc, say SORRY and that it would be lovely to spend the day together. You are ALLOWED to think " you nutter" on teh end of sentence, but not say it.

it is more than likely her hormones, but for god's sake dont tell her that.

i threw a hissy fit in supermarket when pg with ds2.

OH: which sausages do you want?
ME: oh for fuck sake! i'm leaving. do the bloody shopping yourself.
OH: WTF?

i left. sat in the car for 45 mins.

It was hardly the most scintillating offer was it? I can't imagine DH (on a rare day off) wanting to go the hell that is Mother and Toddler group.

Why, why, why didn't you say:

a "Have a lie in whilst I take DD to M&T"

b "Sod M&T let's all do something nice together."

I mean, really?

Nah, she's not making me sleep on the sofa, but I sometimes do during the pregnancy because we both have a better night's sleep.

"she is proberly sitting on the bed waiting for a cuddle, confused why you have'nt checked to see if she's ok."

Trust me, she almost never does this. She's fiercely independent -- that's the problem tonight. I'm the one who wants a cuddle after a row!

Or whatever this thing tonight is.

You are SO INSENSITIVE

You need to go upstairs wearing a hangdog look, apologise profusely for being controlling, and say that it is entirely up to her how she would like to spend her day but it would be wonderlicious if she could bring herself to join you and DD at toddler group. And perhaps you could all go out for lunch afterwards.

Throw in a few more apologies

Tell her she is fabulous and you don't deserve her

Grovel a bit more

See if it works ...

belfastbloke you sound similar in sensitivity to my DH (thats a good thing btw), hope she is ok with you tomorrow after a good nights sleep

belfastbloke where are you in belfast?

you dont have to tell me if you dont want btw, im in south down.

Not in Belfast any more, in London.

Why, did you want to bring DW round a sympathetic cup of hot chocolate?

NEVER wake a sleeping Pregmonster, not even with chocolate or apologies...

well, if you're not going to do it someone should!!

don't apologise, don't back down.

Ok I think you could have worded things slightly differently - instead of using 'I want you to..' maybe a 'it would be great if you could...'

However...pregnancy hormones or not, she was a bit nasty and I think you've received a lot of unnecessary flack from some on this thread.

Anyone willing to say 'good on you' for being the one taking DD to toddler group?? Not many guys would do that, so well done you.

So maybe lessons to be learned on both sides? As a woman myself, i don't believe pregnancy hormones are as bad an a lot of women make out. I'm not suggesting that this is what your DP is doing, but from some of the reactions here today, i'd say it can be more common that you'd think. Poor men lol.

Thanks, lorrycat, for your kind words, although don't worry, I do realise some of the flack on this thread was tongue in cheek and ironic.

It's nice of you to say 'good on you' because I take DD to toddler group, but I'm not sure it's needed. If I'm the primary caregiver, that's my job, surely?

CrackFox said it's not a scintillating offer, going to 'the hell that is Mother and Toddler group' (is that what it's called round your way? not Parent and Toddler?).

I'd say firstly, our Toddler group is not hell at all.

And secondly, the thing my DW regrets about working full time is NOT being able to participate in DD's normal life. Going to the Toddler group is part of that, which is why I strongly invited her.

Anyway, she came, and made it clear she was still irritated with me. Thus making me look like a prat to the mothers who know me, who could tell something was up.

Yes. Pregnant woman are crazy. Even if your heart is in totally the right place.

I once stopped talking to DH for 3 days because he made me a coffee unasked when I was on pre-birth maternity leave as I was going to go back to bed after he had gone to work.

DH - Right, I'm off to work, here, I've made you a capuccino before I go.
JB - Great. Ruin my whole fucking day why don't you
DH - Er.

Take her shopping and buy her some cheesecake. Always helped me

Lorrycat
there are too many things wrong with your post. For a start - maybe you haven't experienced pregnancy hormones. But PND (and AND) and very real, and caused by hormones. Why do you not believe that they can affect women in real and terrible ways?
Secondly, why should he get a bloody medal for taking his DC to a parent and toddler group? Are SAHDs not supposed to socialise with their children, or want them to have fun with other kids? Why is it a spectacular achievement?

And nobody gave him flack. Are your sarcasm sensors broken?

I do enjoy our playgroup but wouldn't have gone within 6 miles when I was pregnant either.

I ahve to admit to flouncing unnecessarily a few times while pregnant so i could have the whole bed as well....

maybe she was knackered and wanted to loll about in bed in peace...
that's basically what I wanted to do when I was pregnant and there were precious few opportunities

there'll be even fewer when dc2 arrives!

yes pg women are crazy...it's a well-known fact

actually I wasn't crazy I was just very very grumpy indeed

YANBU - i am 35 weeks pregnant and am definitely on the barmy side of life right now.

DH looked at me funny the other night, that was enough to start an argument. The poor man must be scared to come home some days, he can suck it though, if I have to put up with it then so does he.

sorry belfastbloke but i have been really laughing at this thread. I think my DH would love to go out for a drink with you and discuss the craziness of pregnant women. I just asked him the maddest thing I have done lately and he rolled his eyes and said that there weren;t enough hours in the day

"Anyway, she came, and made it clear she was still irritated with me. Thus making me look like a prat to the mothers who know me, who could tell something was up"

don't put up with her immature crap.and don't let her use pregnancy as an excuse to act like a prat. and most certainly don't follow the advice of apologising just to make the peace or buying her something nice.as far as i can tell your the one who is owed an apology not her.