our ds walked to school in the morns however

[midsummereve]

she called to tell me that we should stop as her ds was getting to hyper and then playing up at school, since then she whispers to say hello when we walk past each other so they dont hear or see each other , I have had to send her ds back to her in the morns or they both change and become a nightmare, I feel bad and its has really hurt me i told her as I felt she was blaming my son although she denied this,things have become strained aibu.

eh?

I raise you another EH?

huh ?

I match your 'EH?' and raise you a 'WTF?'

Yea, but ... no, but ..

what these slatterns mean, midsummereve, is we think you might have missed somethign otu of your OP because we don't quite get what has happened.

is this another mum who would normally walk your DS?

is this a mickey-take on MN threads perchance?

Sorry I used to walk mine and her boy to school there and back, my friend started to have probs with her son not settling in school and she phoned to say for me not to take him anymore and that the boys should not walk togther anymore, as this doesnt help her son,I tried to understand but was only trying to help out, I was upset and told her so as I felt my son was being blamed she hardly speaks to me and are friendship is strained aibu.

I think the two mums were walking together, but mum A told mum B that they would have to stop as the two boys walking together were making boy A hyper at the start of school. So now they don't walk together but the mums whisper hello and mum B is pissed off because she thinks her son B is being blamed for boy A being hyper

or something

YABI

(You are being incomprehensible)

Ahhh, i see.

YANBU to be upset, have you asked her why she feels its your DS that has unsettled him?

Maybe she genuinly thinks a quiet walk to school will calm him more for school,

could you try to reignite the friendship outside of walking to school,

Invite her round without the kids to chat?

Sherby you are right, and no this is not a piss take this is something that I really needed to talk about, sorry that it did not make sense but hopefully I have explained or sherby has thanks Sherby xx

So she is now walking her son?

Sowhat´s the problem?

Hey!

Guess what?

Not everyone had the opportunity to carry their education very far. If you horrible lot think you're so fucking clever, put the effort in and decipher it, like you would if you were talking to someone with a speech problem! Or would you take the piss then too?

MIDSUMMEREVE

This is probably muchmore to do with your friend's son's behavior than it is to do with your friend. He might have problems calming down once he is at school. I don't let Ds1 walk with friends for this reason. I need to keep him calm in the morning, he's very excitable.

Ahm in that case YANBU to feel a bit cross about it. She may not be blaming your son for her son getting hyper, just the situation of walking to school with a friend, any friend, that's causing it so maybe she finds walking him to school on her own is more of a calm start to the day.
Have a coffee with her and you could always say you hope she isn't against the boys ploaying together at other timnes even if the mornigns aren't too good for her.
Sorry for thinking you were taking the mickey - it just read like a real mix of thread titles!!!!

she has hardly spoken to me and she is meant to be a good friend and yes she is walking her own son but she whispers hello when we see each other so her son does not hear or see my son.and its like she trying to avpid us running into each other .

is your son hyper?

is he calmer now that he walks alone?

My education didn't go further then highschool,
I wasn't taking the piss, well I didn't mean to and apologise if it was taken that way.

well that just seems silly tbh and if she doesn't respond graciously to an invitation for coffee then I wouldn't waste anymore time worrying about it.
Why whisper hello to you but not just oipenly say hello to your son and let them say hello? That's plain odd! They'll see each other at school anyway, won't they?

I always found that my DC were calmer if walked to school on their own when young.

I don't think she has any issues with you - she still says "hello".

I would suggest that you invite her son ( and her) around to play. This way the relationship can still be maintained whilst allowing for calm mornings

Perhaps her son has said something to mum that she has taken in the wrong way. You either invite her round for a coffee after the school run to clear the air or you ignore it and if the children are friends in school there is nothing she will be able to do, but if she has told her son to keep away you will find out, because children always say eventually.