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Original poster

to expect DH not to walk straight through the door ....

42 replies

Undercovamutha · 09/11/2009 18:28

and up to the toilet with a magazine in hand and not reappear for 20 minutes! Especially when I have been having the day from hell with the DCs, am barely holding it together, and was desperate for him to come home and entertain at least one DC!
FFS can't he just go at work !

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AKMD · 09/11/2009 18:36

The men I know seem to have this weird sense of pride at being able to 'hold it in all day'. You are lucky your DH only takes 20 minutes...

ImSoNotTelling · 09/11/2009 18:36

Ha. Yes it happens here too

Better than his other trick of vanishing for 20 mins just when we are about to leave for something we need to be on time for.

tethersend · 09/11/2009 18:40

Mine takes the laptop, count yourself lucky.

Now wash your hands.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 09/11/2009 18:40

YANBU - DH does this too and it drives me mad! Especially as DS is sooo happy to see him that he is then inconsolable until DH eventually emerges.

Mishy1234 · 09/11/2009 18:47

My DH does this too and it's infuriating.

He won't go at work in case there are any 'silent listeners'. Why on earth anyone would actually want to stand and listen I have no idea...

OrmIrian · 09/11/2009 18:49

Oh I know! Drives me mad too. FFs go and pollute someone else's bathroom. And if you are that desperate to go after waiting all day why does it take 30mins and the entire Independent crossword?

mankymummymoo · 09/11/2009 18:49

Well... I dont get to go in peace/alone all day so I would just let the DCs go in the loo with him...

Original poster
Undercovamutha · 09/11/2009 18:49

TBH I wouldn't go at work if I could help it, but I haven't exactly noticed any modesty from DH when it comes to anything toilet related! I just think he uses it as 20 mins relaxation time from nagging wife and noisy kids !

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Naat · 09/11/2009 18:53

Imsonotelling, the EXACT same here happens here. It drives me insane! Why oh why does it have to be right when you're with one foot out?!

letsblowthistacostand · 09/11/2009 19:11

Take the lock off the bathroom door and let the DC in. Nobody goes to the loo in private in our house, unless you call having a sobbing child hammering on the door 'private.' I feel that DH needs to experience these things in order to be the best parent he can be.

KatieScarlett2833 · 09/11/2009 19:14

I do this, and it's not because I hold it in, either. My bowels just seem to move during the journey home and I'm practically jogging to the loo.

But 20mins is "extracting the urine", tell him he has 5 mins, tops.

howdidthishappenthen · 09/11/2009 19:18

My DH waits til 11pm, then emerges from the fog 20 mins later contemplating a shag. Grosses me out completely.

meltedchocolate · 09/11/2009 19:40

That is not what i thought you were talking about!!!!

It took me reading half the posts to realise you meant he goes to the loo for waste desposal!!!

When you said magazine in hand i thought you meant.... well you can guess...

shocking dirty mind.

shootfromthehip · 10/11/2009 08:13

Oh dear, whilst it's heartening to know that my DH is not the only one, it is a little bit tragic that our men are so deperate for relaxation that going for a prolonged dump seems to satisfy that need. It would take a day at a spa to provide me with the satisfaction that I am presented with from DH after a 20 min sojourn in the loo.

Ah well, each to their own I suppose

Jackstini · 10/11/2009 09:18

PMSL Melted!!

diddl · 10/11/2009 09:42

Melted, that crossed my mind also!

We never lock the bathroom door, tbh, unless have bad stomach.

My husband often nips up when he gets in from work & the rest of us file in after asking about his day/telling about ours!

Original poster
Undercovamutha · 10/11/2009 09:44

Meltedchoc - I must watch how I phrase things in future - ROFL!

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CJCregg · 10/11/2009 09:49

My DS is clearly going to become one of these men - he proudly tells me that he never does a poo at school unless he can help it - 'I save it for when I get home, Mummy'. He doesn't have a magazine but a small pot of Star Wars lego figures next to the loo keeps him nicely occupied (as DD and I hop from leg to leg, waiting for him to finish).

I think we're all jealous, to be honest. There's nothing nicer than an uninterrupted dump, we just never get the chance any more ...

Aeschylus · 10/11/2009 09:51

my DW does this as well, not just men, as soon as she gets in, up she goes for her daily POO, I am like WTF use works toilet roll.

TheLadyEvenstar · 10/11/2009 09:57

LOL DP does this as well!

Oh yes and when we have to go out, as we are about to walk out the door....he needs the loo.... is it their comfort zone?

StealthPolarBear · 10/11/2009 10:00

i knew it would be this!
DH does this too - well i think his is just a wee, hand wash, face wash, beard examine...still takes 20 mins while i wait to pass him the baby!

Poledra · 10/11/2009 10:00

My DH's one is, when I say tea is ready, to get up from the sofa and go for a wee then. OK, he's only a few minutes but FGS, we eat tea at roughly the same time every night, he can hear/see me cooking it, is it so hard for him to go the the loo before tea's ready? And even worse, DD2 is starting to follow his example.

Mind you, my gran didn't manage to stop my grandad doing exactly this every night (she swore ) of a 54-year marriage.

StealthPolarBear · 10/11/2009 10:02

yes DH does that too (or used to...not sure any more)

sheeplikessleep · 10/11/2009 10:06

my dh always needs to go immediately after i've cleaned the bathroom, every time, without fail.

CJCregg · 10/11/2009 10:11

The worst part is they still think it's funny to emerge with a slightly horrified look and say 'I wouldn't go in there for a while ...'