to be utterly depressed about turning 30...???

[mummee09v]

i turn the dreaded 30 in a few days and i am so bloody miserable about it.

its a fact that everythings just gonna go downhill from now on. my looks, my figure, my health, my career opportunities. i have been looking in the mirror lately and thinking i look rough. i am really into fashion but i am now starting to worry i am too old for a lot of stuff. i used to sing in a rock band but haven't bothered since my DC2 was born earlier this year coz i think i am too old for it. i have never had a career as such coz i flitted from job to job in my early 20's then have been at home with the kids since mid 20's. and now i just feel like a boring housewife. getting older is shit.

please someone kick my arse and give me some positives. i ought to be grateful, i have 2 great kids, a great fiancee (who i am treating like shit at the minute coz i am so down) and some good friends. but i am just trapped in this gloom hole that i can't climb out of.

30 was my most depressing bday by miles. I hated it and felt the same as you.

Four years on I am loving my thirties - what everyone else is saying about confidence and judgement is true. And FWIW I wear whatever the hell I like if I think I look OK in it, and I think I look miles better than I did in my neurotic twenties.

I don't obsess over wrinkles like I did in my twenties for several good reasons: the first is that I'm too bloody busy!

The second is the awareness that however I look today, that's as good as it gets from here on in. Potentially depressing but I find it liberating.

And if you think all you have going for you is your looks - find something else to be proud of! Do the singing, or the nurse training, or anything that uses your experience and knowledge, not just your face and figure. I am damn proud of having a good job, a family and a home - none of them depend on my clothes or jeans size, you know?

YABU. What's the alternative - die young? Show me the bingo!

wait til you turn 50 i cant believe im that old. Well in biological years but not mentally or physically....still nutty as a fruit cake.

stillfrazzled glad i am not the only one to feel like this and glad that you are so happy now you are in your 30's x

and alypaly i dont think anyone ever "feels" their age thats the most unfair thing about ageing lol x