To think my brother is a tosser

[silentcatastrophe]

My brother travelled half the country at the weekend to go to a party (one day) and was asked by my dad to get a present from him to my dcs. He didn't call or try to make any contact at all. When I spoke to him today he said that he would only call people he was going to see.

When I spoke to him last week, he said, oh see you at home, bla bla. He's never been to our house before.

Although I risk sounding like a paranoid nutter, I think he was deliberately avoiding us. His wife is ALWAYS rude, totally unprovoked, and although I could ask her if they have had any more visits from the police, SS etc, I don't see the point. She also hears voices and is not involved with any spiritualist churches. My SIL doesn't like me, and I rather suspect that she has been putting the brakes on. I don't like her either, but could tolerate her better were she not always so shudderingly rude.

It is sad that my dcs don't know their cousins, having only met the elder one a handful of times and always under strange circumstances.

For the record, my other brother avoids SIL like the plague for the same reasons.

[modmum]

Just had something similar. SIL and family in our neck of the woods for weekend to visit distant cousin not a word to us before.
No suggestions to meet up 1/2 way and let DD meet her other cousins. They haven't visited us for 3+ years and that was a flying visit on their holiday. They seem to be happy to visit his sister/family every school holiday - a longer journey that to visit us.
We've always drop in (invited & expected to do this) to see them on the way to or from holidays etc when we pass near to them, visited for the day to drop off Christmas presents(6 hrs plus round trip).
SIL told DH in phone call the week after they'd gone home. My response "last time we go out of our way to see them then".

[Defluffmyfanjo]

I can't tell whether your crossed out age is 38 or 30!! It can't be 30 - I'm allergic to young people!

[GibbonInARibbon]

I bloody loved ted rogers and his super speed 3-2-1. I still try to do that now.

[GibbonInARibbon]

I feel your pain Shiney.

One day I'll be able to master it...one day.

[GibbonInARibbon]

[Fruitbeard]

Love how this thread has descended into everyone trying to do the 3-2-1 gesture

[StillSquiffy]

I'm sure your SIL doesn't hate you.

It is probably just her imaginary friends putting her up to it.

[ginnny]

[silentcatastrophe]

You have hit the nail on the head, ginny! My family is so fkucked up and it is hard to be reminded of just how bad it was. LOL @ StillSquiffy. You are more accurate than you think!

Sorry about the misunderstandings and thank you for bearing with me! I can't do the 3-2-1 gesture either! I'm so glad people are trying!

[leamac]

hi there

I would just like to say that I understand your are upset but I wouldn't blame SIL as your brother is an adult, however in his defence as I have been in this situation if he travels 200 miles then surely it is up to you to travel the rest to see him, I live 360 miles from my family and if I am good enough to travel that to see them then surely they can all meet in the one place so I get to see everyone as time is always a factor