to get pissed off with my cleaner for building towers?

[hf128219]

Yes - towers of books on my coffee table. I have 2 piles of books - you know the usual type of coffee table books.

She will polish it and then put the 2 piles into one big one. Then add newspapers and anything else she can lay her hands on.

I get home every night and put it back into 2 piles. She then changes it every day.

I measured it yesterday and 'the tower' was
20 inches high.

AIBU or do people have 'towers' on their coffee table?

Please no bleeding links to FB.

I sympathise with the OP. Cleaners who have full-time jobs or daily jobs often start getting possessive and start thinking that they are the decision-makers about how things are organised in the homes they clean. This is why I find cleaners such a PITA and prefer to use specialist companies rather than daily cleaners!

Living in the world of providing professional advice, you get taught to think about underlying causes. So I think your posts have illustrated three key underlying problems.

The first is house size. I'm just imagining the horror of having the size of place that requires 20 hours a week of cleaning. You must spend all your time maintaining it. Ghastly. So clearly you need to move.

The second is Not Having Enough To Do. Anyone who goes around measuring towers of books is in clear want of a sensible occupation. The mere fact of being in possession of coffee table books is a screaming signal of needing more proper stuff with which to occupy your time. Books belong on bookshelves unless they are being read. So get a job. Or if you have a job, get a more demanding one.

The third is your cleaner. She is clearly a godsend to you but I sense she has missed her vocation. You need to leave a few brochures out on studying architecture for her.

See how I solved all your problems? Including the ones you didn't know you had?

How the feck can you afford a cleaner for 20 hours a week on a civil service salary?

at the coffee table books though, and Yachting World (or whatever it was). This is a very strange thread.

I found you on facebook, na na na na na na

lol @ quatt. SPot on

MNHQ are having a few probs keeping the site up so if they are slow to delete be forgiving and we'll just pretend we didn't see that!

Could you not just ask her not to do the towers??

Quatt

you got it

I do have a job. And there are some quite good ones in the Civil Service.

Yachting World is for people who sail.

I think you'll find that point was also addressed in quatt's post. She leaves nothing out, that woman.

Right - I am going to to put a picture on my profile of 'the tower' this week.

you look army wife ish dont you.

kind of outdoorsy.
they always look like that.

What is that going to achieve, hf? It's the number of poncetastic books and your pile obsession that are puzzling, not the tower.

I don't have coffee table. I do have a permanently up ironing board which is usually covered in towers of newspapers and bills and various child-related art. Does that count?

What's poncy about the books?

One of the biggest problems of cleaning individuals' homes for a living must be the poor standard of management. That arrogtan, controlling attitude must be so demoralising.

Blimey. She was off sick last week for 3 days. I have spent the weekend washing etc so she doesn't come back to a pile of crap.

Is that an example of considerare management? That's just one of the natural downsides of workplace management - who picks up teh slack when someone is sick. You could have delegated to your dh.

DH is currently overseas.

ah

you will get an ALLOWANCE for the cleaner

Still dying to know what is poncy about my books pointy?

Off out now.

becuase they are there to impress i think?

There IS something ridiculous about using books as ornaments for your coffee table where they are essentially status symbols. Books are to be read, not to be displayed.
Perhaps your OH being away us the reason fir this desperately attention seeking thread. Were you drunk when you revealed your full name? Won't rake the press long to track down your husband and your cleaner if they have a mind to. How very odd!