to have burst out crying?

[aoifesmama]

Hi, not having a great day (feeling ill, DD suddenly crying when put in cot, return to work on Monday, arghhh!) but I have just had what I feel is the most awful experience.

Someone knocked on the door and I left DD playing on her mat to go and answer it. The lady at the door was very nicely dressed and in her late 50s/early 60s. She said she was carrying out a survery as to the views of people in the area on Question Time last week. DD began to cry and I left the lady at the door to go and get her. Brought her back and the lady said "ahh, I can see there is little hope in speaking to you, your family has already been cleansed". DD is mixed race. I couldn't quite believe what she was saying, she said she was out campaigning for the idea of London for Londoners. Our next door neighbour was opening his door and came over and escorted her down the path and told her he would call the police for racist incitement. He brought us in and told me not to worry. I have been crying, but worse I didn't even tell the woman she was wrong, I was so upset and just wanted to get DD in and away.

I know that its likely that DD will face issues in her future (DH and I have never experienced any kind of racism since DD was born and any that we have since was when I was visiting my family in Ireland!). I now feel guilty I did nothing and don't know whether to say anything to DH, as I dont want to upset him, although worried our neighbour might.

Should I have said more to the woman?

That is just awful OP! I am not surprised you stood there in a state of shock. I think I would have too!
She sounds utterly horrible. Hope you'r not feeling upset any more

i say this word not lightly
what a CUNT- you should've said that to her-and then rung the police,i think it's a crime to come out with that.
was it daftpunk??!!?
(sorry, this post may be a bit too much!)

What a lovely neighbour you have.

Sorry couldnt type much of a reply earlier as my ethnic babies were crawling all over me.

Fuck her. She doesnt matter, she is a moron. She must be to knock on doors in London and expect to get away with bollocks like that.

Do not feel guilty for what you did or didnt do. It was not your responsibility, she was the one who was doing wrong. How could you be expected to react to something so unexpected and outrageous. You havent let your baby down.

Stupid Bint.

If its any comfort I have been popping out mixed race babies for 18 years (not non stop obviously ) and I have very rarely come across overt racisim let alone twattery like that!

It happens, its out there and its usually a lot more subtle.

But you bring your girl up right, you tell her how wonderful clever and beautiful she is, and she will be fine.

Agree with everyone else that this was awful, and while it would have been nice to have a snappy comeback, bursting into tears was to be expected. And look at it this way - you burst into tears because you were shocked and horrified - because you do not hear that kind of vile bigoted shite every day and you're not used to it. That means most people don't think like this and will put this nutter in her place, as your wonderful neighbour did.

There was a discussion on radio 4 the other day about mixed race people and how they are genetically advantaged, and how seeking to mix different genetic origins as much as possible is a natural instinct and leads to greater health in the population. It was really interesting, will see if I can find it. It made some excellent arguments against the kind of propaganda this woman was promoting.

Found it it was on midweek []www.bbc.co.uk/podcasts/series/midweek/ here]]

Arse

here

There are more like us than like her... always keep that in mind.
I'm seething on behalf of your family.

I can't add anything to what has been said already but I just wanted you to know I can completely understand your reaction, and think you should be easy on yourself when you are thinking of all the things you wish you'd said.

You were shocked and even though your DD will not have understood I'm sure you were horrified at her being anywhere near this horrid woman's bile.

for you
and at this world