to not want to sleep in a 'used' bed?

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We've been invited away with friends who are renting a cottage for a week, we're staying mid-week for a couple of nights. They've now said that their uncle and aunt are going to stay for a night earlier in the week - in the bed that we'll be sleeping in. So the sheets will have been slept in before we get there - makes me feel really squeamish.

We're flying so can't take our own bedding, but DH thinks that would look too precious anyway! AIBU?

Ewwwww, no I would hate that, skanky ! Imagine that auntie and uncle had got up to the business in that bed, not realising it wouldn't be changed..... yuck. Like having a bath after someone you don't know and not cleaning it inbetween. No no no !

YANBU - I would feel really ookyy knowing some strangers had slept on the same sheets the day before. I'm funny when MIL tells me she has changed the top and bottom sheet and pillow cases but not the duvet cover. Can you not take a really light weight sheet and a couple of pillow cases and roll them up really small and perhaps forfeit a jumper or something?

you could easily fit a sheet in the suitcase with you surely ?

can you not ask them if they can bring an extra sheet and change it for you when the aunt and uncle have gone?

I'm not particularly squeamish about this sort of thing, but I understand that many people are so YANBU in my opinion. Couldn't you ask the cottage owners to leave an extra set of bedding? Many cottages that I have stayed in provide spare sets anyhow - presumably in case a child has a wet bed (as almost invariably happens at least once on holiday in my experience).

triple yuk, others pubes and fluids

buy something there in Tesco? Ask the cottage owners to provide extra bedding and charge for it?

Yuck Even with clean sheets I make dh roll around on them a bit first

I wasn't sure if I was being too precious but I am really perturbed by the idea! Is two singles, so unlikely to be any funny business, but still thinking of dribbled-on pillow cases .

We're flying with hand luggage only so sheets not really an option, and we'll be with our friends in the hire car so a surreptitious trip to Tesco also a non-starter.

I think I'll have to mention it to my friends and hope they are not too offended (am now wondering about their bed-changing habits in their spare room....!).

At least I know I'm not being completely unreasonable in mentioning it!

I'm Mrs Slack-Housewife but even I wouldn't do this to people staying here.

oh fgs you nutter

Is there anyway the others can wash the sheets before you get there?

Do you know that the sheets will be already used? Did they say 'your sheets will be dirty, sorry'. Holiday cottages often have washing machines and spare sets of sheets so I don't see why you should expect that the sheets will not be washed in between visitors.

eugh it is gross yes

however I would turn pillowcases inside out and turn sheet over

It wouldn't bother me if it was for one night. I guess you either have to sound a bit precious about it and ask for a second set of sheets to be provided or turn the pillows over (or cases inside out)

I would say you're being a little BU just because it's one night and a rented cottage - I'm sure your friends wouldn't recycle bedding at home.

OK. I think I could live with turned over sheet and duvet and inside-out pillow cases.

There is a chance, I suppose, that they are planning to wash the sheets in between visitors. I was just bit taken aback - the attitude was 'auntie and uncle are passing by before you arrive and we'd got enough beds' and I wanted to shout 'but not enough bedding!!'. But I restrained myself.

Those are good ideas about turning over.

Are you contributing to the payment of hiring the place? If you are I think it is really out of order of them to suddenly invite other people, even if you're not there. If you're not paying then I don't think you really have grounds for saying anything.

Euuu - remember the poo pellets thread??!

Am I the only one who wouldn't be bothered?

Actually poo crumbs - just for you

Do you have to travel with just hand luggage?
Or, that is good idea about asking the cottage owners to leave an extra set of bedding.

I'm no Mrs Bucket but sleeping on bedding that someone else had used is an absolute NO NO for me. You could buy some really cheap ones when you get there. Just make a joke of it with your friends if they question it. Or I'd forego luggage space for clean sheets.

that wouldn't bother me at all

but I am only a few crusty bits short of being an actual tramp

most s-c cottages have a washing machine. and it's entirely possible that the aunt (but not the uncle!) in question will be a considerate tidy bod who would pop the sheet in the washing machine. aunts are like that. (but if not you can do it - as long as you're not arriving late evening you could get it washed and dried before bedtime)

How about just taking a couple of clean pillowcases ?