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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to not want to sleep in a 'used' bed?

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wonderingwondering · 29/10/2009 18:00

We've been invited away with friends who are renting a cottage for a week, we're staying mid-week for a couple of nights. They've now said that their uncle and aunt are going to stay for a night earlier in the week - in the bed that we'll be sleeping in. So the sheets will have been slept in before we get there - makes me feel really squeamish.

We're flying so can't take our own bedding, but DH thinks that would look too precious anyway! AIBU?

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Haunty27 · 29/10/2009 22:44

Is there any spares there?

satonthesofa · 29/10/2009 22:52

Yuck...I have been known to take the pillow case off when not at home and put my t-shirt on in its' place. Turn sheets and reverse duvet, head to tail and inside out!
But your friends may have covered this one without mentioning, as they would never assume that anyone would sleep in secondhand sheets.Eeeew

BoysAreLikeDogs · 29/10/2009 22:53

hah hah hah Mrs P I was going to say remember the poo crumbs

doughnutty · 30/10/2009 07:28

I believe you can buy something called a silk sleeping bag liner which takes up as much room as a pair of balled up socks. Supposed to be for backpacking/hostelling and the like. Might be enought to stop the heebiegeebies.I'll see if I can find a link.

doughnutty · 30/10/2009 07:31

here
Lots to choose from though if you google

pigletmania · 30/10/2009 07:35

UANBU surely you could put a double fitted sheet and and a couple of pillow cases into your suitcase and mabey an over sheet, they are not that heavy IMO, well better than sleeping in used sheets yuck!

Tortington · 30/10/2009 07:37

so your flying ? take your own bedding - a sheet and a quilt cover and two pillow cases don't take up much room

gorionine · 30/10/2009 07:37

Does the fact that one of their family member has slept in the bed automatically means that the sheet won't be changed?

If I had 3 different set of people visiting me on the same week. I would change the bedsheet 3 times but I would not think I have to actually spell it out to the guests

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 30/10/2009 07:41

YANBU

I would take less clothes so I could fit in clean sheets

ScaredOfGhouls · 30/10/2009 07:50

Could you say to them "oh, tell your aunt and uncle not to bother remaking the bed, just pop the sheets and pillowcases through the washer and hang them somewhere to dry then we will remake the bed when we get there".

Best case scenario, they might say that there is spare bedding there.

Worst case scenario, you will have to just remake the bed.

I would feel exactly the same as you about this.

FourArms · 30/10/2009 08:07

We had sucessions of visitors when we rented a place for a week. On visitor change over day I washed, dried and remade all 10 beds. Wouldn't have occurred to me to do anything else. I'm sure your friends will do the same.

gorionine · 30/10/2009 08:09

Ditto FourArms (although it must go faster for you as you have the exta pair of arms)

stuffitllllama · 30/10/2009 08:10

I'm sure they'd have the sheets changed. Why don't you ask? Strange to assume they won't. Even stranger not to change them, I admit.

GetOrfMoiLand · 30/10/2009 08:13

I agree, take one less pair of jeans and top and you will have enough room for a duvet cover, sheet and pillowcases.

I would not like to stay in sheets that someone else has slept in.

EdgarAllenPoo · 30/10/2009 08:19

YABU - in tht you assume the sheets won't have been changed. I'd guess what you might find is sheets in the washing machine and fresh ones on -

although i wouldn't be particularly fussed anyway to be fair. taking your own bedding would be precious, bcause there have been full bedding changes available in every cottage/rental i have ever stayed in. so even if they didn't meet your satisfaction on arrival, you could change them.

2rebecca · 30/10/2009 08:25

If it's just 2 nights then I would take sleeping bags. If they're inviting you as a favour I can imagine them not wanting to spend half their nholiday in the laundrette. If there is a washing machine you could ask for them to wash them and say you sleep in unironed sheets, but I'd just take sleeping bags.

MuttOfTheBaskervilles · 30/10/2009 08:42

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piscesmoon · 30/10/2009 09:00

There are lots of way around it. Uncle and Aunt take sheets, friends take sheets, you leave something out and take sheets instead, or friends find a laundrette and wash and dry the sheets.Very often cottages have washing machines and tumble driers.

onagar · 30/10/2009 09:33

will you have the chance to stop off and buy thin really cheap sheets on the last bit of the journey and discard them after. They will be packed small if new and one extra carrier bag (since it won't go on the flight) would be ok.

Bumperlicioso · 30/10/2009 09:44

I can't say that it would bother me unless it was really smelly (not necessarily a bad smell, but you know how some people just have a very particular smell, probably their perfume or something). But if it really does bother you why don't you say something like 'do you need us to bring any extra bedding' and see what they say.

hatwoman · 30/10/2009 10:35

the more i think about this the more I think yabu - to fret about this and assume that they won't have been washed. I have stayed in countless sc cottages and every single one of them has had a washing machine. Unless you have real reason to think they won't wash the sheets (like them saying as much) then I would just chill out and assume you will have clean sheets.

Taking sheets would be precious. if you really can;t stop worrying about it and you really think your friends won't change them then you need to say something like scaredofgouls suggests - something that makes your friends realise that you assume the sheets will get cleaned (somehow) and that you're willing to help.

hatwoman · 30/10/2009 10:36

or somtheing like bumperlicious suggests

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wonderingwondering · 30/10/2009 15:34

Well, thank you all. I've spoken to the wife of the couple and said 'oh, shall I bring a change of bed then, to save you any hassle' and she was really OK about it - seems she's a bit cross with her DH for inviting his rellies to sleep in 'our' room anyway (I don't mind that) but completely understood the need for clean sheets! She said she'll ask for an extra set if there's none there when they arrive.

I don't know the DW very well but I feel we bonded over this!

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hatwoman · 30/10/2009 16:03

might have known a bloke was responsible for this . well done for saying something.

BarackObamasTransitVan · 30/10/2009 16:12

They'll have slept in it one night? Good grief! Wouldn't bother me at all!

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