Hen Night Cost

[saggyhairyarse]

Can I have your thoughts...

If you are attending a hen weekend but can only attend one night, should you have to pay for the accomodation for the whole weekend or just the night you are going?

Details are a cottage is being hired for the weekend which is being divided by the number of guests but some (not many) can't go on the Friday but have to pay the same as those staying two nights.

Is this normal practice?

(Has opened up a whole minefield of issues for me as I got married 10 years ago and had a night at a local comedy club. We are now talking activity on the Saturday, nights away, told to bring bottle of champers and what drinks you want etc etc etc....)

Fibilou why would you be invited to a hen weekend for someone you don't know very well?

and what could be a better way to spend a long weekend than with old friends?

maybe you live in a different world to me but random acquantainces don't go around inviting me to hen weekends.. good friends from university or good current friends do. and i'm happy to spend time with them.

I have been invited to two hen weekends involving work colleagues actually, I didn't go on either. Neither of them were particularly close friends but seemed to want to get the maximum amount of people to their weekends so were asking anyone and everyone they knew.
What could be better than a long weekend with old friends ? A long weekend with my husband. He works extremely long hours as a detective, we have weekends off together very, very rarely so I would rather spend the time with him than anybody else in the world, apart from my two best friends. We get very little time together (some weeks we won't see eachother all week apart from when I wake up to go to work) so every opportunity for us to have time off together is precious. There is no way I would want to waste annual leave I could spend with him going on a weekend away with people I hadn't seen for years.

All-weekend weddings are lovely though! That sounds brilliant

I am happy to travel miles and miles for weddings - I'd just rather not do the same for the hen weekend. Although I do take alicet's point about getting to know other people beforehand. But you can do that in an evening at a karaoke bar

Over the past five years, I've been to maybe 20 weddings. So (and this is hypothetical because they haven't all been like this) if they had all been held in beautiful locations far away and have had weekend hen dos - that's £200 on the hen do and then £300 on the wedding itself (accommodation + gift + travel) then that's £10 grand on weddings!! I think big picture is an important thing to consider. For the couple their wedding is a one off. For many of their guests, it's one of many.

FWIW, I don't think my friend is being Bridezilla.

And, no, I am not organising it because she wants to organise it herself.

I have been invited to a hen night. It consists of a meal and drinks and we have been told that it will cost £100 a head. Am I being petty thinking that's a lot. I know hen weekends can end up being costly but to be honest my feeling is that if you are going to a spa or doing some sort of activity that might be fun, then that sort of outlay is reasonable in terms of what seems to be norm these days.
£100 just for a meal though seems excessive to me and immoral (none of us are titled women!). I should mention there's also a strict dress code, as you might expect for a place that charges prices like that for a meal.

had this situation on my own hen. a couple of women could only come for one night of our two-nights-away, and i felt so guilty charging them for two nights, that i paid the excess myself (about £130) and didn't tell anyone. so if you don't mind someone else paying for the bed that's been left spare....