I have one particular group of friends who are very traditional (all from a farming background or married to farmers) Some are married, some are not but they are very much of the opinion that you should get married, then have children.
I am not married, and my DP is older than me and has 2 DS from a previous marriage. I am pregnant with my 1st. One of my friends from this particular group is also pregnant with her 1st, due a week after me. 3 others in the group are married, 1 has 2 DC and 1 has 1 and is pregnant with the 2nd.
AIBU to be annoyed at the smugness of the pregnant ones? I am very excited to be pregnant, and blissfully happy with my DP (which should be enough I hear you cry!) but last week, when we had our fortnightly get together I left feeling quite put out.
First of all they were using their wedding rings and a piece of hair to predict the sex of their babies, but said that it wouldn?t work on me as I didn?t have my own wedding rind and using someone elses or and ordinary ring wouldn?t work. (I know it?s an old wives tail, and utter nonsense, but a bit of fun and it would have been nice to involve my bump too!)
I am also very fit and healthy, and am continuing to ride my horse (although not jump) and attend hockey training with my club (although, alas, am not playing in matches!), and they made me feel like a terrible person for doing so as they have given up riding, and even running, although she used to go every day.
AIBU feeling miffed? I feel excluded from the group because of my slightly unorthodox situation, and I feel like I am being judged for the choices I am making about my pregnancy and my body. When I asked the others what I felt was a perfectly reasonable question (?have you felt a bit concerned about the weight gain and loss of control over the shape of your body??) I was made to feel like I was unfit to be pregnant!