To be annoyed with my MIL for giving my children sugary lollipops

[fimrie]

My MIL came to stay recently. I took the children to school/pre-school and she left the house later to 'miss the traffic'. When we got back after school she had left them two very big, very sugary, very full of E numbers, lollipops on the kitchen table with a note to them saying that they could have them if they were good and ate their tea. They are 4 and 2, and declined to read the note. Instead, they were very excited and wanted to eat the lollipops straightaway. A big battle then commenced as I told them they couldn't have them until after tea. Lovely! Just what I wanted after a day at work - some quality time with my wailing children. Why could she have left a note for me, and left them somewhere out of sight??! Sometimes I find it amazing that she actually had children of her own. AAARGH!

If they were that big, she should have ok'd it with you first and not left them out in sight. She was not very respectful to tease the DCs with the huge lollipops and leave you with a potential tantrum to deal with when you put them away.

personally I think the sugar high is a Very Good Thing.

it means that the children get crap, then run around burning it off.......means less chance of getting fat IMVHO.

Thank you Mathanxiety, that is really the crux of the issue, which I don't think I expressed very well. They were v tired, and I felt the whole situtation (ie tantrums) was avoidable and that was what I was annoyed about.

Of course I don't mind them having treats from time to time, and obviously I don't expect my 2 year old to brush her own teeth - what I meant was that she is v bad at letting me brush them for her, and I literally have to hold her down and prise her mouth open, which is horrible for all involved. So, for that reason I really avoid giving her anything v sugary.

Anyway, I do accept that my MIL was trying to do a nice thing, and I was OTT, and I do sound horrible about her which is very unfair as she is lovely to them. tbh wish I had never started this post! So, let's call it a day...

Oh well done Fimrie for coming back with such a nice post. It is very unusual for this to happen and mostly people who are disagreed with seem to slink off, and it proves that AIBU really does work, even if the majority think someone is being UR. It takes a lot to admit when we are OTT and climb down, so well done to you! AND hope this is the end of "Lollygate"

yanbu

Hi firmie I said YABU earlier on but the way your post read to me was like how dare she give them a lolly but we all post things when we are peed off about them and what seems like a small thing to the reader can be the tip of the iceberg to the OP.