Not AIBU, more is it acceptable . . . .

[GreatBallsOfFluff]

to smoke in your own house when you have a non-smoking guest?

MN Jury . . . .what's your verdict?

No. Not acceptable. Go outside.

Yes. It's your house. Tell them to go and stand outside while you're having a fag innit

I'm a non smoker and hate cigarette smoke - but even i would accept that a smoker is perfectly entitled to spark up in their own home.

Yes, I think so unless the guest is pregnant/asthmatic/etc. But it would be more hospitable to ask if he/she minded.

I would be put off visiting a house where the host smoked heavily while I was there. One cigarette after dinner wouldn't bother me.

Like alarkaspree says, it's not really on if the guest is pregnant etc or a child.

oh, fgs

you can do what you like in your own home

if visitors don't like it, they don't have to visit

If the guest is pregnant or with child then I think it would be right to provide her with an umbrella before asking her to stand outside

If the visitor is someone you love dearly and s/he is really distressed by the smoke (asthmatic or something) then it would be kinder to go outside for a fag. But if the visitor is a PITA or uninvited, do what you like, it's your home.

ha! thats why no-one visits great granny. She chooses to chuff away and we choose not to visit with the dc, everyone loses out.

Thank you everybody. I did this today when a friend came over for coffee - but I did ask if it was ok beforehand Alarkaspree. I was just checking that it was acceptable to do so .

Yes, before you say it, I have had non-smokers round to my house before, but I can usually last the 2 hour coffee natters, just not the 4 hour clock-watching, conversation dwindling, me mentioning it's nearly tea time hint hint visits

Perhaps at least make a show of asking. I think very few people, even those who hate smoking, are going to object to you smoking in your own home.

How long is the non-smoking guest there for? An hour, then yabu to smoke in the same room. Wait, have a nice conversation, you don't need a fag, it's only an hour or so. If the guest is there for several days however, then obviously it is trickier & you should go about your business as usual. Unless of course the guest is pregnant, asthmatic, etc.

Everyone knows asthma is on par with vegatarianism in the socially irritating stakes and everyone knows the best thing for an asthmatic is to spend some time outdoors. Send them out, they get to breathe & you get to chuff WIN/WIN

Because of course smoking isn't the least bit socially irritating is it?

I speak as someone who used to be a very err, passionate and committed smoker. I would never have dreamed of stepping outside for a fag in my own home. However, now the fog has gone I can see the error of my ways and recognise smoking for the poison it is.

Yeah, my chuckle muscle doesn't seem to be working properly either.

I think VS is joking.
At least I hope so!

(Had a friend of a friend die of an asthma attack, so am in total agreement with you Batterfly!).

I think it depends on the visitor, I guess! You should show guests courtesy and consideration and that includes asking if it is okay to light up. But if it is someone you want to get rid of (as in get them to leave, not die ) then puff away!!

Reading VS's earlier post about the umbrella, I'm sure she was joking, but it's a bit close to the bone.

TBH I don't visit the houses of smokers at all because not to put too fine a point on it, they stink.

If I did find myself in a room with a smoker and they lit up I would leave, at the very least to go outside.

Stinky stinky stinky.

My Aunties friend once died of an intestinal blockage and that's a true fact. It was sad at the time but now in hindsight I realise it was fucking hillarious!

Still didn't stop us eating sausages at her funeral, that said, some might say the sink plunger joke went too far.

Where I'm from "to chuff" means "to fart".

"Send them out, they get to breathe & you get to chuff WIN/WIN."

"ha! thats why no-one visits great granny. She chooses to chuff away and we choose not to visit with the dc, everyone loses out."

chuff means something different here too....

YANBu - smoke in your home.

lol betty she probably does that too... who knows???

Agreeing that smokers DO stink (although they all think that they themselves are the exception - nope!)

It is your home but at least you asked.

lol filthy smokers (I have stopped now so have turned into a smoking snob just kidding)

VS, such a sensitive lady