expecting a call from ds1 any time now...aibu to stick to NO

[TheLadyEvenstar]

ok ds1 was really showing off yesterday and the day before. I warned him both days if he carried on I would not be letting him do football training today. Well he did carry it on until he left for school this morning so aibu to say no when he calls and i know he will call to see if he can soft soap/change my mind.

Oh god I feel for you mdd is a little geeky but burgeoning atm with her friend egging her on so I might have a similar thread in a few months time.
Please let me know how you cope with it.

Can I suggest a dungeon with a HUGE lock?

thesecondcoming hope you don't mind but I showed your earlier post to ds (12) who refuses to go to Woodcraft cos it's "proper boooring innit"

...could tell he was (silently) impressed

not mine. Have only got doc marten steelies and flip flops!

"she's got a new set of friends though-little dumpy fat ones (is that a horrible thing to say?) who have to dress like that to get boys" - you're talking about 14yearolds^ here?????????

Seeker, sadly thats how some 14yr olds see themselves...

but thesecondcoming isn't a 14 year old.......!

TSC, I agree...am soooooo glad I have a while to go until I have to worry whether ds1 is up to things he shouldn't be!

'so when she wears body conscious stuff/short stuff/high heels/low tops she looks amazing-but very lolita."

This might seem to be a very stupid question, but why do you let her?

Seeker, I would assume because TSC realises that she will wear them anyway whether she sneaks the clothes out, borrows a friends....I know I did, but i didn't sneak them out or borrow friends clothes. My parents did not stop me wearing the clothes i wanted. They just made sure i had enough self respect to know that looking good did not mean having to have sex.

TSC....didn't you as a teen lol

TSC, wasn't insinuating your dd was having sex. Was saying even though you allow her freedom (to an extent) with her clothes you have taught her to respect herself enough that she doesn't have to follow her friends in everything they do.

phew!!! TSC was worried there for a moment. Have had a bad day so am worrying over everything again.

TSC, yeah still a bit uneasy but on the whole am ok. Did you see other thread?

here it is